By Titania on Lots of Mattresses on Lots of Floors, And a Bunk Bed That Smelled Like Italian Food (New Yorrrrrkkkkkk!)
My living patterns in Manhattan are the same as this writer's (no outer borough moves for me thus far) so I am going to say this just to reassure anyone who is terrified of moving to Manhattan now. Six years ago (same time frame as this writer!) I moved to 97th Street between Park & Lex, where I shared a spacious, sunny two-bedroom, on the 5th floor of a walkup for $900 a month ($1800 total). $400 is not an insignificant increase, but I ALWAYS felt safe (even the junkie who scrounged through the trash cans on our street was polite and always said hello, never did anything scary--there is a shelter nearby so there's a lot of that in the neighborhood), we had a live-in super who took great care of the building, I was a block and a half from the subway, and I had a closet. Then I started dating a guy at this time who lived in Soho (not Union Square) and got to enjoy feeling like I had a place there to explore downtown, but didn't move in with him, because, come on. It did get me jonesing to move downtown though, so... ..now I live on Waverly Place at Gay Street, paying $980/month (the author's half of her rent would have been $950) to live on a low floor in a cute little brownstone, which is sweet and adorable and full of nice people. The people at the restaurant on the corner know me by name, our building is clean and well-cared for, and despite our also-unlockable foyer, I've been here 3 years and have never once found a homeless/drunk/stoned person in it, and believe me, I was expecting it. Oh, and I also listen to the tour groups that stop outside my window, and wave to them when I go in and out of my building. The morals of this tale of two anecdotes: 1) Being a working person with an income is easier than being a student. 3) Spending a bit more (as long as it's within your budget!) can make a VAST difference in the quality of apartment you get in NYC, and is usually worth it, as the bad is often really bad. 3) If you keep your romantic life separate from your real estate life, you will move a LOT less. If I'd moved in with every boyfriend I had in the past 6 years...jesus f*ck, it would be easier and cheaper to put everything in storage and live out of a suitcase. It's hard enough to carve out a space in this city--I won't give mine up until someone has carved a permanent place in my life. IMHO and all, no judgement on people who do it differently, I just don't care for all the upheaval.
@Mike Dang I feel like the point was that Logan opens up and gets snarked at and you open up with and are treated with deference and respect, which you deserve for winning at financial responsibility! But there's still inequality here. And because of the audience are people who work hard to save money, there's a natural snark at people who DON'T spend in a way the group feels is wise. And that CONTINUES that inequality, particularly because it fits into the narrative that Logan's ways are wrong and yours are right -- and as you often say, it's not that black and white. For instance, that lunch post got all these people cranked at me for spending buckets on lunch. But Logan was right, what I really wanted was the ease of mind, and ... I can afford that lunch. So I do. But there is definitely a level of natural judging because this is hard and budgeting and money are not easy. It's natural, but I don't think it always makes it right. Polar opposites are EXCELLENT narrative tools -- it's the main reason I love this blog -- but they do, naturally, generate some snark and that's hard for people who see themselves in the "wrong", you know? (Which is not to say it bothered me in re: lunches, I'm a big girl, but I think that's what aforementioned commenters were getting at.)
This will all end in tears.
@Jake Reinhardt People aren't as jealous of Larry David because it's obvious that the man WORKED HIS ASS OFF to get where he got, and deserves it. Also why ... is that obvioius? I mean, Curb Your Enthusiasm exists because Seinfeld existed, and Seinfeld existed because Larry David had a less visible showbiz career that included a stint on SNL. Is "work your ass off" synonymous for "has been around longer' or "I like Seinfeld better than Girls," or ... ?
By faustbanana on Friday Estimate
I've been SO bad with my budget this week. I'd like to spend nothing this weekend, but tomorrow is my sister's birthday and I must attend festivities. I'm hoping not to go over $75 for the weekend. Ugh, seriously, so bad with the budget this week. Look away... I'm ashamed.
By ATF@twitter on Friday Estimate
Taking the two girls I"m a Big Sister for to NYC for the weekend with both my sister-in-laws and my niece. Hotel, train tickets, and Annie tickets already paid for. Tickets to the Empire State Building and Central Park Zoo, possibly NBC studios tour, souvenirs (for the children) and food not yet paid for. My estimate is $400.
@minijen I think I'm going to start responding to my own comments about how right they are.
once it was a nice day out and i thought i'd take my laptop to mccarren park to do some work (free park wifi!), but there were a lot of angry old man drunks hanging out and i thought i would get stabbed. so...
@madrassoup agreed -- the mood is so pervasively sad, but done so well. it tells a beautiful, linear story that is more about life and less about rent.
@DarlingMagpie Thank you. I stopped reading right there, mumbling to myself, "if that is true, you are too young to get married, people."