Logan, I can abide a lot but your blind love for Lena Dunham is really testing me. Unless you want people to think that you agree that every person critical of her and her show (for her/its treatment of characters of color as marginal figures at best, for her limp justifications of her choices, et cetera) is just a hater. Because that would mean that you're pretty much saying you want to be the very personification of the stereotypical millenial who equates any kind of non-fawning feedback with jealousy. And I even like her show! The point is that it's possible to like it AND agree that she's got her faults WHILE ALSO agreeing that people are sexist in their treatment of her.
There are a few things you can do to stave off the rage stroke. One, email John Rhea, the head of the NYCHA: firstname.lastname@example.org. Also, sign this change.org petition: https://www.change.org/petitions/nycha-turn-on-the-electricity-for-victims-of-sandy-living-in-public-housing And, support organizations working to serve tenants in Brooklyn, Queens, and Manhattan. The Red Hook Initiative is one place to start: http://rhicenter.org/tag/hurricane-relief/
Good for you! I love stories like these. Although the lesson is also, obviously, that it helps to be nice and human. That made such a huge difference for you, and it's something that is important for women to remember when it comes to negotiating. We don't necessarily have to "act like men" (in the stereotypical sense of course) to get things done.
I don't doubt that there are cultural factors at work here, but so too is class. I am neither Asian nor an immigrant, and yet I still see it as important for me to support my mom in whatever way I can. Also, who here can claim to not know about athletes and rappers and entertainers buying their parents (moms, usually) houses?
Logan, I wonder if once you do the math for your daily lunch/coffee tallies, you might find it worth your while to sign up at a co-working space? There are lots of places in Brooklyn and Manhattan that cost around $175 a month, tops, which when you break down into a month of workdays, is less than your total above. And you can pack your own lunch! Also, I don't know very much about it, but there is this place in Union Square called Wix Lounge (http://www.wixlounge.com/) which is free and open to the public (first come, first served) on M-F from 9-5. I'm sure Brooklyn has that stuff too, if you don't want to go into Manhattan.
I knew things were going to take an even sadder turn when you mentioned that you'd eventually have to pack up the entire contents of the Jersey apartment. Anyway, here's hoping that you get to maintain the stability and peace you've carved out for yourself in your current place. On another note, this my favorite Rental Histories piece. Not because of how sad it is but because of how perfectly it tells a story about the many ways the places we live (and how much we pay) are tied to where we are in life, for better or worse. Also, thanks for giving me the chance this week to leave a Billfold comment that is neither snarky nor eye-rolly.
@deepomega But there is no movie called "A Bacon and Egg Sandwich in the Diamond District!"
I think I'm more hung up than I should be on the thought of drunk hipsters letting loose after a few cocktails and too much "snobby indie-rock" and singing alllll the lyrics to "Paris" (in a scene filled with so many ironies and disconnects that it feels indulgent to even point them out).
@Reginal T. Squirge If you'd like everyone to get bedbugs, turn to pages 114, 285, 347, and 500.
@minijen Good points all around. Your last one is especially interesting, and makes me wonder how anon reports this income (and if the answer is no that might explain the anon status). Beyond that is this: feel free to own your choices but please do not pretend that they are in any way unselfish. The mental acrobatics required to say that one is "building up a strong economy" are pretty astounding.