@Aunt Scar: Me too. I am starting to worry that the post about no longer doing "1 Thing" was a sad, sad hint. Don't leave us, Logan!
@WayDownSouth I can't decide whether to respond to your condescension ("well done Meaghan" -- for what? Writing the last part in a series while on vacation?), or your conviction that anyone above a certain age who has money and children is/should be conservative. So I'll just settle on: I know you mean well, for the most part, but you are such a pill sometimes.
Mike, you handled that situation with such kindness and humanity (something I'd venture to say he doesn't often find among the suited types on Madison). It says a lot about his desperation that he's taken to asking any well-dressed person in that part of town if he or she has any jobs, but it also says so much about you that you were able to be more than just a suit.
The only thing wrong with this post is that it doesn't come with ice cream.
My personal (and I guess professional) biases make it impossible to imagine NOT taking the fellowship. But I will say that the writer seems to presume that other than fun times, the fellowship year won't offer anything in the way of skill-building experiences (hence the fear of coming back with an "out of date" resume that will only get "underpaid admin work"). But if it's in a country where the language is something other than English, becoming fluent (assuming you commit to it) will open a surprising number of doors. As will developing cross-cultural communication skills. And, perhaps you can find a way to keep a foot in the management-sector world while you're abroad. I don't know enough about it to go about suggesting how, but you sound resourceful enough to figure it out. You did get these two amazing opportunities after all. Also, if you're still uncertain, I suggest you take some time to reach out to past recipients of your fellowship. What did they do when they got back? How did they package their fellowship year? I think you'll find that you're hardly stuck between a rock and a hard place in this situation.
@WayDownSouth I'm sorry to hear about what you and your wife went through. But literally no one has wondered why Meaghan waited to tell the internet she was pregnant. What adouble asked was how to reconcile someone having Tumblr stock with being devastated by a $300 maternity purchase. Not that they are irreconcilable notions, but it requires work on the reader's part that is not normally asked on this site, because there is usually so much transparency about relationships to money, past and present. Let's not turn this thread into an unnecessary defense of a woman's right to reproductive privacy.
@EDaily : I knew someone would post this type of comment. But boringbunny literally said "not that she has to expose herself…" which basically means that you two are in agreement. I just think boringbunny's point was akin to adouble's, which is that in so many ways Meaghan is a mystery. Obviously the stock options example is better than the pregnancy one, but overall the point stands that where Mike and Logan are open books as far as their financial pasts and presents are, Meaghan continues to surprise us. Which in turn makes it hard to "get" her in terms of her function on this site. I think it's possible to move beyond the Odd Couple pairing that Mike and Logan set up in founding this site. For example, I can imagine a writer coming on board having made a significant amount of money in another context and openly wondering about what that means in terms of next steps. What does financial planning mean for someone like that? What counts as an indulgence? What counts as cheap? Of course that's not an entirely relatable premise, but we read posts all the time on this site by rich people who don't feel rich, and can still get something out of it. The key is that the subject positioning is always clear in those cases. In Meaghan's, it's unclear from day-to-day. For instance, in another post (about going to the dentist), she mentioned forking over her credit card for nearly $1000 in (separate) bills. I think if Logan were to have written that, she would have said something about it adding to her already steep debt. And if Mike were to have written it, he'd probably share his plan to dip into savings to pay it off (though he probably would have used his debit card in the first place). With Meaghan, we don't know what it means to her to put $1000 on a credit card. Where does she fit on the Mike-Logan spectrum? It's not weird to wonder that. In other words, I don't see anyone here chiding Meaghan for not telling us when exactly she conceived her baby, when exactly the stick turned whatever color, how much she weighs, or anything like that. So there's no reason to respond as though anyone has.
Loopy Logan is a treasure. I love how you really leaned into that toddler ski tag (non)issue. I'm even mad about it now, and want it to be a real thing to justify the rage. I realize that I kind of hold my breath every Friday, afraid that I'll find some chat saying you won't be here anymore, and it's just always so nice to end the week knowing that I'm wrong. Seriously.
Logan, you're my favorite. I've missed these kinds of posts. Here, take this blanket and tea and don't ever leave.
Maybe I'm too sensitive, but the interviewer sounds a little undermining. Like, "I wasn't mad at you but she called you a douche! Just thought you should know!" Why is that helpful? It seems like the coworker was in a not great place, is probably already doing some second-guessing over how things went down and, likely suspects that the boss did some smack-talking (although, as I write that, I wonder if I'm being undermining now?). I don't know. Again, I'm probably too sensitive.