On Madison Is A Great Small City, Unless You're Black

@Jake Reinhardt It kind of sounds like you're using your anecdote about riding the subway to challenge this actual person's lived experience of being black in NYC. She's not naive to NYC's problems, given that she literally cites some of them in her piece. But as she also points out in her piece, there are a lot of comforts in NY that are absent in Madison/the midwest. So, given that, I wonder what's at stake for you in nitpicking her about her own reality and saying that New York is no better than the world she left behind? Also, what's productive about saying "the same problems exist everywhere" when she's talking about a specific set of experiences in a specific place? It reads as condescending and dismissive, as though you wouldn't want her to have the wrong impression of her own experience or the last word about it here.

Posted on December 11, 2014 at 3:55 pm 4

On The Cost of Things in the U.S. After Being Away for 14 Years

This was hilarious and charming and I want to read more, please.

Posted on December 8, 2014 at 2:17 pm 1

On How To Get Our Belongings of Questionable Worth Across The Country

@Gef the Talking Mongoose I love this comment. "A beautiful spray of kibble."

Posted on November 25, 2014 at 11:53 am 0

On Gwyneth Paltrow's Gift Ideas

The list isn't as bad as it seems. I mean, for GOOP. There's a decent range, from accessible to aspirational. But, a correction: the throw is just under 1k, not 10k.

Posted on November 25, 2014 at 11:32 am 0

On Adjusting Your Life to Your Partner's Career

@HelloTheFuture Seriously it's such a terrible message. She's made to feel so guilty for working so hard, as though there are only certain professions that are worth that kind of time and sacrifice. And since the film already establishes that the magazine industry is vapid, it pushes that notion through to the end. Such that even Meryl Streep is supposed to respect Andy for basically insulting how she has lived her life. A life which, by the way, we're supposed to see as a cautionary tale: "here's what happens to your marriage, ladies, when you don't put it above everything else in life that may be important to you." Do not get me started.

Posted on November 24, 2014 at 6:33 pm 1

On If You Buy Your Wife a Mansion

No surprise that it's all men who are doing the house-buying. Which suggests to me that there is something more going on than the desire to "gift" their wives something extravagant. Sounds to me like, in a lot of these cases, they want to assert something or show who is really in charge.

Posted on November 21, 2014 at 3:45 pm 0

On How To Get EU Citizenship, Country By Country

@chic noir Yeah, same, and for lots of reasons. It should have been titled "Good news, whites!"

Posted on November 20, 2014 at 11:22 pm 0

On How To Get EU Citizenship, Country By Country

It sounds like people find this helpful. But what the hell are you talking about with this "New World countries tend to be founded on the ideal of multiculturalism: the principle that race is irrelevant when it comes to what makes a citizen" craziness? Cant you frame this topic in a way that doesn't make up fake founding principles? In any case, even if it doesn't matter to you that the piece is completely disconnected from facts and reality, it should at least matter that it has absolutely nothing to do with the rest of your piece.

Posted on November 20, 2014 at 4:27 pm 1

On 1 Thing Will Make You Jump (Jump)

@saretonin: Can't decide of Fixx my Crack making house calls is more or less creepy. Also, Meaghan, you can get a screen cover as a short-term fix. I did that when I broke my screen and it worked long enough that I considered not even getting it replaced. Then my mom gave me her old ("old") iphone.

Posted on November 20, 2014 at 4:20 pm 0

On Getting Sugar Cereals As A Gift

I wonder how much this is about class and education. My husband grew up upper-middle class, the child of two highly educated professionals, and has similar stories about sweet cereals being forbidden treats. Meanwhile, I grew up lower-middle class, with a single mother who did not go beyond high school and worked two jobs. To me, Cocoa Puffs/Pebbles, Trix, and all that is just plain cereal, not some dangerous sugar bomb we could only trot out on special occasions. It was breakfast. Along with poptarts. Hearing these stories makes me feel weird. It's so strange how something that was so ordinary to me was something other parents tried so hard to keep from their kids. Like we were being poisoned somehow. Not that I genuinely feel that way, but the way it's talked about makes me feel like maybe I should. Again, weird.

Posted on November 11, 2014 at 10:01 am 1