On Eating Thanksgiving Dinner in a 30-minute Meal Break at Kmart Is...

@Glen Raphael@facebook My family does this, too, but I'm also very grateful it was out of a desire to save money/see each other under less stressful circumstances, and not because any of us were stuck working. That is, I'm glad it was a choice for us.

Posted on November 20, 2014 at 11:02 am 0

On On Checks and Checkouts

I looooove depositing checks by phone, but I am deeply grateful for the fact that my local grocery stores don't do self-checkout at all. Love you, Publix.

Posted on November 20, 2014 at 10:47 am 0

On What Marriage (And Remarriage) Has To Do With Money

It's likely a fluke of professional circumstances and personalities, but: my finances are better now, when I am 100% supporting my second husband through school while he has zero income, than it EVER was before, during, or after my first marriage.

Posted on November 19, 2014 at 5:00 pm 0

On Are You What You Wanted To Be When You Grew Up?

@nell I wanted to be a writer, right up until I took college chemistry and fell in love with it/changed my major to chem. Grad school made me fall out of love with it, but now I'm a grant writer with a focus on the physical sciences, so I kinda split the difference there in the end.

Posted on November 19, 2014 at 2:35 pm 0

On This Is Just To Say

That is the first pair of crocs that has ever looked appealing to me. (But probably not the first appealing poem about crocs that I've read.)

Posted on November 19, 2014 at 2:00 pm 0

On I Could Make The 1 Thing Good For a Weekend

@lemonhead3159 Sounds terrible and tedious - uh wait I mean DELICIOUS.

Posted on November 13, 2014 at 3:18 pm 1

On I Could Make The 1 Thing Good For a Weekend

I need to PACK! I am going to Portland tomorrow, and it is cold there ("ice pellets" are coming from the sky), and I am not prepared! I might even need to go buy a real not-just-for-Florida coat. I am sad about maybe needing a coat, but happy about going to see people.

Posted on November 13, 2014 at 2:50 pm 0

On Unnecessary, Compulsive Frugality

I just got rid of some shampoo I hated, and it was so freeing. It does nasty things to my hair, it smells bad, and they snuck in an ingredient I'm allergic to - I haven't NOTICED an allergic reaction to it, but it pisses me off that it's in there, in my "hypoallergenic" Aveeno shampoo. And yet it still stayed in my shower for nearly two years while I tried to make myself use it every now and then. I'm not terribly picky about my shampoo - I use pretty much anything I can get my hands on - but the three strikes against this one finally made me toss it. But it was still hard to do!

Posted on November 13, 2014 at 12:04 pm 0

On Monday Check-in

Monday! Friday was $0 as expected. Saturday, we took my mother-in-law out for brunch ($51.71) and then went to the downtown art festival, where I spent $15 ($10 on two mugs, $5 on a card printed with a reproduction of a painting I actually own the original of, because my mom likes the painting and I wanted to send her a copy even though she can't have the original). Later, we hit the natural foods mart and spent $25.77 on a mix of stocking-up and snacks. Sunday, we went to Walmart where my dude spent $42.84 I forgot to budget for on a video game he's gonna play while I'm out of town next weekend, and I spent $52.96 on groceries, mostly replacing all our missing food storage containers plus a few food things. Later, I spent $12.50 at a brewery on drinks while playing Cards Against Humanity, then $4 at the drive-thru for dinner. Total: $204.78. It's $40 over my estimate, but I also forgot one $40 planned expense when making my estimate, so I'm calling it good!

Posted on November 10, 2014 at 11:04 am 0

On Prudie on Having a Starving Artist for a Partner: DTMFA

@samburger Agreed. I am known among my friends for being That Person who will be willing to say, "OK - do you want to be in this relationship anymore? What is keeping you from leaving? It's OK to leave!" and it seems that the people who ask for my thoughts are usually the people who really want/need someone to ask those questions in order to feel safe considering them. Goodness knows I needed someone to ask me that, directly, before I could consider leaving my first husband. I do agree that "you should leave people for minor flaws/mistakes" is not a great overall attitude, but only because of the SHOULD part. I think people do often feel the need for permission to break up with someone over something that isn't clearly a Big Thing. And really: you totally CAN break up with someone for any reason, including just not wanting to be with them anymore. You're allowed! And it's okay! It doesn't mean you HAVE to leave people for those reasons, just that it's OK to do so. Which is scary from the perspective of realizing your partner can choose to leave you even if you're not terrible, but liberating, too.

Posted on November 7, 2014 at 11:01 am 0