Maybe I'm in the minority here, but I think she should definitely have children. It's not as if she doesn't want to, she's just in a sad place and think it will be too hard. But I think he's right that raising a family will help her feel more committed and connected to her new home. Also, I think it's totally fine for her husband to value the farm over their marriage. I think our obsession with marriage being the number one priority always and forever is a little strange. His family has lived on that land longer than my country has existed, that's not insignificant. But, in the interest of full disclosure I'm single and childless, so what do I know.
@Trilby stop being a dick.
I get an amazing job in Alaska and buy a little piece of land where I build a tiny house. I never pay rent or a mortgage because I buy all these things in cash. My job pays more money than I ever use, except once in a while when I go on some extravagant trip somewhere warm. I can afford to give significant amounts to all my favorite charities, which I do anonymously, because the warm smugness fills my heart. Every morning I go to the only diner in town and drink coffee and eat donuts and gossip. I never hurt anyone's feelings or gain any weight. I have a friendly, well-trained dog who follows me everywhere and who knows everyone in town. At city council meetings, which resemble town meetings in the Gilmore Girls, everyone listens when I talk because I'm always saying such wise and practical things. I have a quiet husband who chops wood and wears flannel and hunts all of our meat himself.
I would add that the 4-6 hours you spend canning on a weekend day is 4-6 hours you don't have to spend money to entertain yourself. On a normal sunday I might get day drunk, or go see a movie, or both. But if I'm canning I don't have that expenditure. Also, eventually you have to buy many fewer jars because they're reusable.
@Jake Reinhardt I find the best way to convince yourself to make pickles is to purchase the 10 lbs of cucumbers first. The massive guilt that comes from the thought of letting 10 lbs of cucumbers go to waste usually spurs me to action. However this did not work with 2 heads of cabbage and sauerkraut, so ymmv.
So pamphlets would be a waste of the charity's money, but hiring people to stand on the street collecting small donations is not? I honestly don't understand how these canvassers even pay for themselves. Any insight from you non-profit working folks?
@lapgiraffe There is a lot that needs to be managed when a person dies, particularly if they have a lot of assets. There's the probate process, the assets need to be found and inventoried, the beneficiaries need to be contacted, the provisions of the will need to be determined and carried out, etc, etc. This can create a lot of work if the beneficiaries fight about who gets what, if someone was left out altogether and challenges the will, if assets can't be located. And most personal representatives and trustees can petition the court to be paid out of the estate, to compensate them for their time. This may vary form state to state, but is true in Oregon and probably most other states.
Talk to Steve's lawyer. Or, rather, talk to Steve and have him talk to his lawyer. There are many ways around this, but you as trustee cannot unilaterally implement them. Your responsibility is to the trust and you are required to follow its distribution scheme. Only Steve can change that scheme (assuming it's a revocable trust).
My favorite bookstore in the world, The Bookstore in Chico, CA was featured in this article. I think it is misleading to say that they needed the fundraiser to "stay afloat." The previous owner was selling the store, I think he was older and wanted to retire. The new owners, and long term manager, didn't have the capital at hand to purchase the store themselves within the time frame the old owner gave them. The community, a small-ish college town that is very close-knit, didn't want to lose the store and wanted Josh and Muir to own it. So we rallied and kept it open. The Bookstore sells used books exclusively, so many people probably didn't want to buy as many books as they were willing to donate in money. And the new owners provided lots of neat one of kind things in exchange for donations to indie-go-go. The new owners are changing some things, trying to make it more of a community space where there are readings and other performances. I don't know how business is going (I no longer live in Chico) but I imagine they're doing okay. I think the story is more about a town coming together to support a local landmark and the family behind it than the article expressed.
@Tuna Surprise Or maybe the only reason is that McDonald's doesn't provide anywhere for a customer to put a tip. It's not as if when you give a "white hipster kid" a tip that means a McDonald's employee gets paid less or that it means you don't support a living wage. Also, maybe the food trucks are different where you live, but many of the ones I frequent are definitely not staffed exclusively by white hipsters. I would say the majority I hit regularly are staffed by people from other countries selling food from their homeland.