On Kids Trick-or-Treating Across Class Lines Makes 1%er Feel Faint

Man, I grew up in the sticks, with forests and farms for neighbors. I would regularly spend Halloween getting dropped off with my friends by someone's mom in one of the downtown neighborhoods to trick or treat, because then there were actual houses within walking distance of each other. Similarly, now that I live in a restricted-access apartment building, I suspect the kids in my neighborhood will go to the nearby neighborhoods that have front doors accessible from the street. Is this not a thing that kids everywhere have always done, when possible? It's just like prioritizing the house that gives out quarters or Kennedy half-dollars, and avoiding the one that gives out toothbrushes.

Posted on October 23, 2014 at 4:05 pm 0

On Love and Nostagia for the Cheaper Stuff

@Miss_B Cold pizza is the breakfast of champions.

Posted on October 16, 2014 at 2:53 pm 0

On How to Stay Married: Splurge on the Honeymoon, Not the Open Bar

@EM Yeah, we travel fairly regularly anyway and for our honeymoon we: 1) Splurged sliiiiightly more than we usually do on travel, 2) Made a point to slow down and relax alone together a little more than we usually do on trips, and 3) Told everyone with ears that it was our honeymoon, resulting in free desserts and good wishes and rose petals. Highly recommend.

Posted on October 16, 2014 at 2:50 pm 0

On The Billfold Book Club: Elizabeth Gaskell's 'North and South' (Chapters 1-25)

@Marille I agree about Mr. Hale! And I realize that's how families were run at the time, but the way he just unilaterally decides, ok, we're going to be much poorer and unhappier now because I feel funny about the direction of the Church! It seems...dishonorable, somehow, even though he claims he's doing it for reasons of honor? Especially when so many other people in the book, like the Bouchers, are just desperately trying to survive.

Posted on October 16, 2014 at 2:37 pm 0

On The Billfold Book Club: Elizabeth Gaskell's 'North and South' (Chapters 1-25)

I think you really hit the nose on the head with Margaret's big problem being that she doesn't know where she fits in Milton. Like, leaving aside that she twice rejects the role of "wife" (for different reasons, I think) and obviously can't lower herself to be a mill worker, the class and gender roles are all different there. I thought the bit where the Hales couldn't find servants to be particularly telling, because it seems like Milton does not have and does not want a gentry class, particularly not one that expects loyalty from employees because of bloodlines, rather than money. Also, I can't ever really tell if we're supposed to like Mr. Hale, but I just can't stand him. He acts like such a delicate flower in a book full of strong, gritty people, what with bringing his family to the bring of genteel poverty over philosophical issues, and being too delicate to be told his own wife is dying. Just...ugh. Mrs. Thorton is dreadful, but at least she has gumption.

Posted on October 16, 2014 at 2:35 pm 0

On Would You Be More Likely to Freeze Your Eggs If It Were a Work Benefit?

I am always in favor of more access to reproductive health options for everyone! So, I think that's pretty cool. That being said, nooooo I would never avail myself of such a thing. Self injection ain't happenin'. My feelings about needles and applying them to myself are so strong that Mr. bowtiesarecool and I had a very blunt conversation prior to getting married that basically entailed me making it very clear that giving myself shots was my line in the sand, and that if we couldn't make babies the easy way, we were just going to have to go get some non-bio kids instead, if he still felt strongly about it. But this is a great option for people who are not as squeamish as me!

Posted on October 14, 2014 at 3:23 pm 0

On How to Make Buying Things More Like Having Experiences

@Aconite I suspect you can probably make an exception for tiny things that are physically on your person 90% of the time!

Posted on October 8, 2014 at 12:17 pm 0

On Why Don't American Women Bike To Work?

@dotcommie FWIW, no judgment here if you never touch a bike again. A bus? That sounds awful, and I'm so glad you're here!

Posted on October 6, 2014 at 3:20 pm 0

On Book It! Alumni: Get a Free Personal Pan Pizza

@andnowlights I would wear the crap out of a Book It button as an adult. Those star stickers were the best.

Posted on October 3, 2014 at 4:48 pm 0

On The Cost of Running in My First 5K

@ATF Yeah, I also started running recently and basically refused to buy anything because that would Jinx It All if I spent money. I need to buy another sports bra, because I only have two and I stink after wearing the same one for two runs in a row, but otherwise it's all pretty cheap. Target is my source of choice - I got cheap $20 Target sneakers and cheap Target leggings to wear under a pair of shorts I already had, and I generally wear t-shirts I already had. Although I did get a ($9) "moisture-wicking" t-shirt from the men's department at Target, and with the weather getting colder it's nice not to be freezing on my cooldown from all the lingering sweat. Also, FYI, cotton leggings hold onto sweat like it is their JOB. And then start to stink. I have tried washing mine in everything, I've used Jolie Kerr's tips about vinegar, and I mostly just smell like a mildewing pickle when I run now. I maybe need more/new leggings. (Maybe I am a smellier individual than most people, don't mind me...)

Posted on October 3, 2014 at 9:32 am 2