An honest talk would definitely have to be the first step. but i'd caution that you need to let go of some of the stuff you mention in the letter about your relative situations, because it sounds a lot like you're trying to rationalize your own ideal scenario as the 'right one'. you are making a choice to go back to school, which is a choice to lower your income and limit your housing choices. You said that he "has a well-paying job and lots of friends in the area" and appear to imply that due to these factors, he'd be less impacted than you by a move, and therefore should be the one to move (and aside from the financial part, the time spent looking for housing and moving is no trivial matter to push onto someone). none of that is relevant. You are the one making a choice. two choices, in fact: grad school and BF. if there are costs associated with those choices, it's on YOU to decide whether those costs are worth it. not to figure out a way for someone ELSE to pay those costs - money AND time.
@MissMushkila it says "student ID with expiration date" in the fine print. honestly though, i don't think I've ever had to turn down anyone that seemed legit. In general, legit students register in advance (to make sure they are getting the discount before committing to travel expenses) rather than onsite.
I sympathize with with the author SO HARD. i live in a row house built in the early 1900's and we had to deal with a root incursion earlier this year and have a patio dug up so that the cleanout section could be replaced. it is no joke. adulthood: it means you're the one who's looking at the monitor with the plumber at he snakes his way through rivers of literal crap.
i have to work at the registration counter during an annual conference/event at my org. we don't get many students, but there are some and we do offer a significant discount to them - several hundred dollars. so we always check the ID. and if your card doesn't have an expiration date at all, you don't get the discount.
i agree with the people saying go. A) live sports are always better than on tv. i don't love baseball per say, but going to a game is always fun. B) if they are nice tickets, you don'y necessarily have to watch- if it's a luxury box or something that gives you access to a preferred space,there's plenty else to do and see. C) even if you still don't think you'll enjoy watching and there's no luxury component to take the place of watching, corporate tickets are something you should always say yes to. if nothing else, think of it as 2-3 hours of networking. is going to something that short really so objectionable that you're risking alienating your boss?
it's not okay for the company to do this, and depending on the state, if you're an "exempt" employee (aka, full-time, salaried) then it may be illegal. I can understand a reluctance to say something. My fiancé was in a situation like this - I still believe that the company was secretly having a cash flow problem behind it all - but they blamed it on him not filling out his timesheet quickly enough (which, even if it were true, IS illegal in that state). When he went to them about the missing and light paychecks and asked for his money, one of the owners fired him. and I know that's everyone's worst nightmare. BUT. within a week, another owner of the company hired him back, and not only paid all the back pay, but gave him a raise as well. The guy who'd tried to get rid of my fiancé for demanding the money he was rightfully owed? gone a year later, bought out by the other owners. My guy? still there, now at the top of his dept. So I say that you give it one more chance if you're reluctant or the company culture is... unfriendly, but definitely say something after that. otherwise, they are getting your hard work for free.
@Theda Baranowski if that's the case, then that is actually pretty cool. i withdraw any objections!
i appreciate the sentiment, but technically, if that Danish company is selling shoes that are unlicensed knockoffs of well known brands, and those knockoffs are what you are buying, i don't know if you could call that an 'ethical' purchase. I'm not saying that real vivienne westwoods are 'ethical' either, but still...
DC patterns... i lived on two of the same streets, at approximately the same stages in life/job, and also now own a condo in the city...
god yes, thank you! i love my parents and they are so generous and loving... but HONESTLY, i do not need a new blu-ray, i do not need a scarf. i have no real desire to accumulate this 'stuff' in general. maybe there's one physical thing every year that i might really want, the gift is being an adult who can afford my own things because of the lessons they taught me! my fiance and i decided that we're making a declaration for next year. no presents at all, either way.