I don't think you can blanket-statement it that way. i mean, personally i hate any kind of DM service, so in my book that wouldn't be a preferred way of communicating. But everybody's got their own preferences so if you're serious you've got to embrace them all to an extent and find out what's best for getting a hold of the people whose attention you want.
@pernickety seriously, i'm the daughter of a lawyer, so i spent a lot of time around them growing up and had a lot of friends become lawyers in the last 10 years. i have never, EVER heard a lawyer say this.
@stuffisthings that's the only good one in the whole DC bit. but it's good enough to go a long way
only time i have hundreds (the most hated bill) - when some jerk ATM surprises me with one or 2 c-notes instead of the 20's i wanted (most likely to happen in airports and las vegas), or when my totally not-jerky and wonderful relatives give me a generous birthday gift. and then i try to use it at a big store where i know they can make change, or for groceries.
I've lived in DC for more than 10 years, most of them spent in the 14th street corridor from columbia heights to u street, watching a lot of the change detailed here. it's so important see this historical context- to know where we came from and how we got here if we're going to have real dialogue about gentrification. thank you.
there are certainly people who will camp out. but the bet is that there are more people who will buy something - at least one thing, if not more - and who would not have bought those things if not for the wifi drawing them in. i don't work from home, but a lot of people in the city neighborhood i live in do. I've noticed that a local restaurant (not a coffee shop, more like a cafe) started very prominently advertising about their free wifi, trying to draw the work-from-home lunch crowd in. they WANT people to camp out because they want to become part of their routine.
THIS! THIS! this is the thing that taught me about the cost of credit card debt. they had an article where one dude bought CDs with cash, and another bought them with a credit card and they showed how, if person 2 only paid the minimum for each statement, then they'd end up paying $125 (or something easy like that- kid-math) for the same CDs that person 1 got for $100. they way they laid it out made it seem so obvious and the image stuck with me for the rest of my life. (i insanely loved this as a kid and had a subscription. thanks, mom, teacher of all the money lessons!)
i'm getting ready to ask for a title change and i'm having similar butterflies. i've gotten several excellent monetary raises in a row, due to increases in responsibility, which IS awesome... but none of them came with a title promotion. and i appreciate the money, but it's not visible- it's not something i can put on a resume- so it's starting to hold me back, both in not having enough authority to get done what's expected of me and because it looks like i've been stuck when my role has expanded significantly. so all of that was a long way of saying: thank you. you've reassured me and inspired me that whatever happens is on them, and i shouldn't be afraid to ask for it.
An honest talk would definitely have to be the first step. but i'd caution that you need to let go of some of the stuff you mention in the letter about your relative situations, because it sounds a lot like you're trying to rationalize your own ideal scenario as the 'right one'. you are making a choice to go back to school, which is a choice to lower your income and limit your housing choices. You said that he "has a well-paying job and lots of friends in the area" and appear to imply that due to these factors, he'd be less impacted than you by a move, and therefore should be the one to move (and aside from the financial part, the time spent looking for housing and moving is no trivial matter to push onto someone). none of that is relevant. You are the one making a choice. two choices, in fact: grad school and BF. if there are costs associated with those choices, it's on YOU to decide whether those costs are worth it. not to figure out a way for someone ELSE to pay those costs - money AND time.
@MissMushkila it says "student ID with expiration date" in the fine print. honestly though, i don't think I've ever had to turn down anyone that seemed legit. In general, legit students register in advance (to make sure they are getting the discount before committing to travel expenses) rather than onsite.