i'm guessing that the guac doesn't fall under that '350 mile' thing anyway because we've got plenty of chipotles in the mid-atlantic and zero avocados nearby.
@Josh Michtom@facebook no... it really seems, honest to god, that she's just a spoiled brat who didn't want to follow any rules so she left and went to her friend's house. her parents didn't "kick her out." here's my guess at what happened. they said - as my own did - 'if you want to live under our roof and have your life financed by us, then you follow our [very seemingly reasonable] rules'. and she probably stuck her tongue out at them and left, butthurt and acting like she was 'kicked out'. it probably would have blown over, but then over at her friends house she was probably bitching about it and the friend's dad said, haha, i bet i could get you the money anyway, let's sue them. and so now we have this.
"i don't think it's caused me any problems... oh, did i mention i developed diabetes? but hey, no biggie. my doctor try to give me some crap about that, so i dropped him and found a doctor who won't tell me things i don't want to hear"
"Yelp’s list makes for a far better reflection of the glorious smorgasbord of cuisines and dining styles that you can find in America today" i don't think you could call this an 'equalizer' in any sense, and it certianly isn't a reflection of all of america. yelp assumes a culture of being online, a culture of rating restaurants and caring about other people's personal opinions, and likely having a smartphone. that 47 out of the 100 restaurants are in California, and only 20 of 51 states+dc are represented supports the idea that this is a pretty biased and unreliable list. maybe californians are nicer in their reviews, so their restaurants might be higher than other states overall. maybe they have more aggregate reviewers. almost certainly the reviewers are different from city to city and state to state and have different tastes and ideas of what makes something great. point is, there are way too many holes to look at this as anything other than yelp doing PR.
i get the social anxiety part - i get that a little sometimes too. but the benefits really tend to outwieght that. at my local deli, which can be super-busy on weekend mornings, i know i'll never get stuck in the crowd. the owner and his family all know me and bf by sight, so they'll catch our eye, nod and say 'usual?' and thus i don't have to wait like others might. i give them good business almost every single weekend and always tip. and they have never once blinked an eye if i ask for a change to the 'usual'.
thank you so much for writing this. i can very much relate to the tangle of conflicting emotions that come up once you get that kind of call, the thing that comes out of nowhere and changes the entire trajectory of your day, week or life.
"Most corporations, they have no problems taking advantage of consumers or workers for profit" - exactly. it's repulsive that the same corporations that routinely justify exploiting consumers and the govt with "everything i did is legal" are now attempting to shame those consumers for things that are far less damaging and far less unethical than their own behavior.
one day i just woke up and realized that slacks had overtaken jeans as my wardrobe staple. i only have a couple pairs of jeans now, but at least 5 pairs of black pants alone, in different cuts and slightly different sizes.
@polka dots vs stripes - i'm often there with you, but man, i love that game. it's a situational thing. i wouldn't be able to play with many people without wondering if they are joking-but-not. but with some people, i know them well- well enough to know that they truly are satirizing the awfulness posited in the cards. it makes all the difference.
"Ask anyone over 50 which is more important, “time or money”, and they’ll always tell you, “time”. While you can sometimes make more money, you can’t make more time. It’s gone." As with many other things, this seems like a suspiciously upper-middle-class-comfort kind of generalization. Are you asking someone poor? unsuccessful? or just successful, if burnt out, people? i know a guy who did what he loved - film - and he was really good at it. great at production and editing. but he was not a good networker, something essential for any kind of success in his business, even just doing weddings. all the jobs dried up and he had no other skills. now he's in his late 30's and has been 'doing what he loves' for the last 15 years, but there wasn't much work to begin with and none since the recession, so he's been broke, frustrated and depressed, and had to move back in with his mother a good 4 years ago. he went back to school and has been getting a computer programming degree, which he's found he's good at. i guarantee that if he were the one answering this question, he'd say MONEY and that he should had gone in this direction to begin with, not time. he's had plenty of time for noodling around with creative projects and that didn't fulfil him because he had no money for rent, food or socializing. all of them things that are more fundamentally essential in maslow's hierarchy of needs than self-actualization.