When I read these, I want to cry over wine with you and show you our balance sheet for the year, too.
I have been working in the same super casual work environment for 13 years. If & when I get a new gig, I will have to spend a mint on "grown-up work clothes." Button down shirts look terrible on me as do most pants. I may have to pursue my dream of selling paint at Home Depot instead of career advancement just so I can wear jeans.
My husband, father-in-law, son & nephew were all born in July. It's exhausting.
Totally agree about that Slate piece. Hate-read city.
@Ester Bloom Holy crap.
Hindsight is the best - marveling at what you survived! Also, I have been listening to the Harry Potter audiobooks while nursing my 4 month old. My 3 year old got to listen to Friday Night Lights and the WTF podcast. It's like a sociological experiment!
@Meaghan O'Connell You are so right about this, Meaghan. I would love to write an article about how expensive it is to breast feed. I am four months into exclusively breastfeeding my second baby. Made it a year with my first and was so excited about weaning. People don't realize that breastfeeding takes a whole community of people - especially the rich old white men who make laws. I have many many thoughts on this. Also, coffee, Yes.
I have loved my 30's. It's the best. I will be 35 next month and it is making me want to try new things in a way I haven't wanted to in a long time. Probably because I am done having babies and have worked in the same place for a significant amount of time. Or maybe just because I feel like I have had my shit together for a reasonable enough period that I can start thinking of new ways to be happy? I don't know, but I'm trying to focus on the positive aspect of this feeling and not the very "MID" feeling that 35 is also giving me. Find a running group, Meaghan. It changed my life!
We got life insurance when our first child was born. It was so surreal! We were told by our financial advisor that it takes a million dollars to raise a child from birth through college. My husband had a panic attack. I had to remind him that we didn't have to pay it all at once! They sent someone to our house to take blood and everything. I'm not exactly sure how much it costs because we use the same company who insures our cars and our house. It's not expensive, though. It's way cheaper than the policy my in-laws had on my husband. Apparently, it was just tacked on to their policy as if it were a sweet deal a million years ago, but it was super expensive comparatively. A good lesson in checking to make sure you are still getting a good deal over time. We haven't upped our coverage since we had another baby. And my mother-in-law keeps reminding us to make a living will. We should do that, too. Mike, please come over and do it for us! I will bake you a giant pie with the filling of your choice. The list never ends, does it?!
I say constantly that part-time is the dream. When I was home with my second baby, I worked a bit after 5 weeks of leave. He is such a sweet easy baby that I actually wanted something real to do with my time and of course I needed the money with the giant medical bills & triple daycare bill the first month I would be back at work. I worked about 13 hours a week. It was perfect. I had time with my kids. I did mountains of laundry. I went out to lunch with the "Stay at Home Moms." It was great, but I do really like my job, and I really love childcare, and going out to lunch with the "Moms who work" or the "Single co-workers with different problems." And yes, that last part feels really real!