@JNC Musings Factory Thank you! I did not know this was a thing until maybe 5 years ago. We didn't travel tons as a family and I don't travel constantly but I've stayed in enough hotels to feel guilty that I never, ever thought to tip.
@guenna77 This is what I don't get, people who -usually with a superior tone- saying that having a dumb phone frees them in some way. That's a problem of their self control, not smartphones. I don't think I use facebook to a compulsive degree but like having it on my phone, only responding to things I want to respond to. Radical, I know!
@deathcabforcutes Eh, it's a first step. Some of us are spenders and some of us are savers and the first step towards someone like us, the author and I, becoming a little bit more like a saver is to stop spending invisible money. It doesn't mean we're going to start super saving anytime soon because when you've always spent all (and more) of your money for 30+ years, you don't become a saver overnight. I don't know if I'll ever be a saver but I'm working on it. My credit card debt is manageable right now and I'm trying to pay it down aggressively but I like to go places and buy things (as does my husband) so there is some comfort in acknowledging that we aren't like broken people because we aren't savers and lean a bit too heavily on credit cards, just try to do a little better where we can without being miserable.
@JNC Musings Factory That does seem weird...I had BBQ at my wedding but my maid and matron of honor are both vegetarians (as is he matrons's husband and child AND she was pregnant at the time so extra hungry)and so they definitely were able to get some (probably not as good as the BBQ) pasta and veggies. My maid of honor ate her pasta but heaped BBQ sides (beans, slaw, etc.) on top because she likes to make the most of things!
@Sass I don't understand how people wear pumps! My feet must just be made weird because nothing stays on this foot worth a damn if it doesn't have a maryjane strap holding it all together!
On Help, a Direct Mailing For a Cleaning Service Actually Worked On Me And I'm Worried It Will Ruin My Relationship
@Meaghano I will admit that I kind of feel like I'm doing my part for feminism by not being a woman who cares about how clean the house is. There is definitely some gender stuff about how women were historically judged for the cleanliness of the house and I think some women still feel that pressure even if they have a full time job just like their partner. I refuse to feel the pressure; if the cat hair wafting everywhere bugs my husband, then he can clean it up! Who ever is bothered can handle it and whatever doesn't bother us just stays there until we have company!
@Trilby @Trilby If you wear perfume correctly, it should only be smellable if someone was very close to you. People who wear a cloud of perfume around them ruin it for the rest of us. I like to catch a whiff of someone's nice fragrance (I'm a librarian so I do have to get kind of close to people, helping with computers and such) especially compared to the less than pleasant smells of many of the other people I help. I know some people have sensitivities and that's one thing but I will never agree to a blanket ban on perfume!
I drive now, between 2 part time jobs, so podcasts have become my savior. As long as I have a good podcast and something to drink, I mostly enjoy my commute. Been digging in to the archives of Spilled Milk which is great but does make me hungry.
@Punk-assBookJockey I did something similar. I had a dress (I do this "dress rental" thing where you get a dress, wear it, send it back, and they send you another yada yada) and it was in it's little return mail envelope and I always used to just sit them on the porch and the post office picks them up. But then just suddenly they wouldn't pick it up, it was there for 3 days. So I threw it in my car and planned to drop it at the post office. And then I just never did and rode around with it and finally just stuffed it into my mail box. They picked it up.
@twofish When I think of the assortment of wedding gifts we got that were either crappy or not necessary (I mean, these are things we registered for but I was real sloppy with it...I have a lovely paella pan for all the paella I'll probably never make) and the credit card debt we accumulated from our European honeymoon, makes me wish we had considered a honeyfund more seriously! I just did not think it would fly, didn't want to offend my families southern sensibilities with asking for money. But I have a Whirley Pop I registered for just sitting in a cabinet taking up space also with debt taking up space on my credit card!