On Two Weddings, One Summer

@JNC Musings Factory That does seem weird...I had BBQ at my wedding but my maid and matron of honor are both vegetarians (as is he matrons's husband and child AND she was pregnant at the time so extra hungry)and so they definitely were able to get some (probably not as good as the BBQ) pasta and veggies. My maid of honor ate her pasta but heaped BBQ sides (beans, slaw, etc.) on top because she likes to make the most of things!

Posted on August 30, 2014 at 11:39 am 0

On True Value: One Pair of Black Pumps From Payless ShoeSource

@Sass I don't understand how people wear pumps! My feet must just be made weird because nothing stays on this foot worth a damn if it doesn't have a maryjane strap holding it all together!

Posted on August 28, 2014 at 9:36 pm 0

On Help, a Direct Mailing For a Cleaning Service Actually Worked On Me And I'm Worried It Will Ruin My Relationship

@Meaghano I will admit that I kind of feel like I'm doing my part for feminism by not being a woman who cares about how clean the house is. There is definitely some gender stuff about how women were historically judged for the cleanliness of the house and I think some women still feel that pressure even if they have a full time job just like their partner. I refuse to feel the pressure; if the cat hair wafting everywhere bugs my husband, then he can clean it up! Who ever is bothered can handle it and whatever doesn't bother us just stays there until we have company!

Posted on August 28, 2014 at 9:16 pm 0

On The Costs of Moving to Kazakhstan

@Trilby @Trilby If you wear perfume correctly, it should only be smellable if someone was very close to you. People who wear a cloud of perfume around them ruin it for the rest of us. I like to catch a whiff of someone's nice fragrance (I'm a librarian so I do have to get kind of close to people, helping with computers and such) especially compared to the less than pleasant smells of many of the other people I help. I know some people have sensitivities and that's one thing but I will never agree to a blanket ban on perfume!

Posted on August 20, 2014 at 5:47 pm 1

On The Discreet Charm of Commuting

I drive now, between 2 part time jobs, so podcasts have become my savior. As long as I have a good podcast and something to drink, I mostly enjoy my commute. Been digging in to the archives of Spilled Milk which is great but does make me hungry.

Posted on August 13, 2014 at 5:10 pm 0

On Do 1 Thing Before 1 Thing Does You

@Punk-assBookJockey I did something similar. I had a dress (I do this "dress rental" thing where you get a dress, wear it, send it back, and they send you another yada yada) and it was in it's little return mail envelope and I always used to just sit them on the porch and the post office picks them up. But then just suddenly they wouldn't pick it up, it was there for 3 days. So I threw it in my car and planned to drop it at the post office. And then I just never did and rode around with it and finally just stuffed it into my mail box. They picked it up.

Posted on August 7, 2014 at 8:09 pm 0

On The Things We Did to Fund Our Honeymoon

@twofish When I think of the assortment of wedding gifts we got that were either crappy or not necessary (I mean, these are things we registered for but I was real sloppy with it...I have a lovely paella pan for all the paella I'll probably never make) and the credit card debt we accumulated from our European honeymoon, makes me wish we had considered a honeyfund more seriously! I just did not think it would fly, didn't want to offend my families southern sensibilities with asking for money. But I have a Whirley Pop I registered for just sitting in a cabinet taking up space also with debt taking up space on my credit card!

Posted on August 7, 2014 at 7:48 pm 0

On Everything I Needed to Know About Money I Did Not Learn in Kindergarten

My parents, who are actually really quite good with their own money, instilled nothing useful in me! I was a spoiled brat, didn't get an allowance but got whatever I wanted, but also had no chores. It's crazy that I'm as functional as I am! And from childhood I only remember my mom always "getting in trouble" with credit cards and my dad going into a blind range over the tiniest expense (buying a cup of ice for water, late fees at Blockbuster) but bought huge, expensive things all the time (electronics and hobby stuff for hunting and fishing mostly.) I did not learn the value of a dollar until...I'm still working on it? My husband and I both have decent jobs and don't live lavish lifestyles but I'm still terrible at saving and have a bunch of cc debt. Let's just say, I wish I had one of these elaborate piggy bank systems when I was a kid! I love my parents and thing they are great in general but they dropped the ball on the money stuff and I'm still trying to get a handle on it.

Posted on August 6, 2014 at 5:17 pm 1

On The 'Instant Gratification Economy'

@thecoffeestain I do listen to a lot of country radio and I like Miranda Lambert but I found this song annoying. I don't like phony nostalgia like that, as though people weren't dicks before cell phones and like having to make everything from scratch didn't entirely fall on the shoulders of women who might have liked to just order a freaking pizza now and then! But really it's the line "Staying married was the only way to work your problems out" that bugs me the most...yeah, people stayed in destructive, abusive marriages because society said they they had to, those were the days! That being said, I like her voice and still listen to it when it comes on. What actually bugs me the MOST is how this person became full from one tamale! How big is this tamale, I've never eaten less than 2 tamales at a time in my life, even just as a snack (a meal of tamales is like 3 minimum.)

Posted on August 5, 2014 at 8:10 pm 0

On Saying Yes to the Dress! (For Other People)

@OllyOlly I will say that while I enjoyed my wedding, enjoyed planning it even, I don't "get" falling in love with a dress that is super expensive. I bought a dress online, sight unseen, for $250ish, then continued to try on much fancier expensive dresses (well, expensive to me was $1200) which I liked but also thought...do I like this nearly 5X more than the other dress? Nope, never, and I also couldn't deal with it if anyone complimented the expensive dress because, duh, it's expensive, of course it's gorgeous! I much preferred being able to brag about the cost of my dress while people told me how well it suited me (maybe they were saying I'm cheap looking in general!) But I also had a version of Ester's logic- my wedding was pretty casual, BBQ, men in the wedding party in just regular suits, so a bazillion dollar dress would have just looked weird and out of place!

Posted on August 5, 2014 at 7:13 pm 2