On Friday Estimate

Weekend! Spending is going to be high. We need to buy supplies for several projects we'll work on next weekend when my parents are in town. On the other hand, we'll be working Monday, and we are not traveling to Chicago for a reunion with our friends, so I guess it could have been high no matter what? Just for house stuff instead of travel. Household project supplies: Paint ($150); brushes, roller covers, tray liners, etc. ($50); Bath curtain and other stuff ($70) Meals and entertainment: Movie Saturday ($30); dinner beforehand ($30); brunch with friends Sunday ($30); Two lunches for my husband working at his office downtown ($30). Necessities: Groceries ($100); emergency laundry at the laundromat ($10) (washer is still not fixed). Total: $500 Added on to what we've already paid for a dresser for the kid, a (used) portable dishwasher, and new faucet for the kitchen sink, ahhh.

Posted on August 29, 2014 at 12:27 pm 0

On The Cost of Bringing a Person Into The World Via C-Section

@Jedidiah Tmj@facebook I am completely baffled by your ideas, and, worse, by your imagining you need to blame the victim here. Women do not get to choose whether or when they have labor complications, and if they did, I'm pretty darn sure they'd choose uncomplicated labor. So maybe just try to respect that everyone involved here did everything that could be done and be grateful we live in an age and a place where modern medicine can take care of situations just like this one.

Posted on August 28, 2014 at 6:07 pm 1

On Let’s Throw Some Money at Our Problems: August 2014 Check-in

this tag: "sometimes you have setbacks and that's okay we're all here to support each other" YES.

Posted on August 28, 2014 at 4:54 pm 6

On 1 Thing: Endless Summer Edition

1 Thing: call auto insurance company to ask about renter's insurance. I have heard that bundling might reduce rates? We shall see.

Posted on August 28, 2014 at 1:48 pm 0

On The Cost of Bringing a Person Into The World Via C-Section

@Meaghano oh god, not yet. But the labor and delivery class at Kaiser did show a video which contained a birth INCLUDING THE PLACENTA and I swear I am never going to get that image out of my head. A pulsing blue alien life form covered in goo.

Posted on August 27, 2014 at 11:13 pm 0

On Help, a Direct Mailing For a Cleaning Service Actually Worked On Me And I'm Worried It Will Ruin My Relationship

@erinep We are buying a portable, rollaway dishwasher this weekend! And I just ordered the faucet with no pull-out sprayer that is compatible for hooking it up! I really couldn't be any more excited.

Posted on August 27, 2014 at 4:43 pm 0

On The Cost of Bringing a Person Into The World Via C-Section

@Meaghan O'Connell I am ready Ina May Gaskin right now and it is alternately really inspiring, really terrifying (maybe some of those women needed MORE interventions?!?), and kind of eye-roll inducing.

Posted on August 27, 2014 at 3:21 pm 0

On Friday Estimate

@lizziefresh so awesome!

Posted on August 27, 2014 at 2:22 pm 0

On Help, a Direct Mailing For a Cleaning Service Actually Worked On Me And I'm Worried It Will Ruin My Relationship

I am really just here to commend the reversal of gender roles in your relationship in terms of who is the better cleaner and doing the hand-wringing about doing more of it yourself. Hooray for non-cleaning hetero women! Sit on your ass in protest of millenia of patriarchy. And though I can't save your relationship or convince Life Partner to give up his hand-wringing, I can offer my experience. I desperately wanted our house to be cleaner for the first six (seven? sheesh) years of our relationship, did most of the cleaning myself, and resented many moments of Life Partner's luxurious weekend recreational time, all the while experiencing class-based angst about why I should be able to hire someone to do the dirty work. Finally, a year ago, we hired our landlord's housecleaner. She asks $12 an hour, which we gladly pay, along with employer taxes, she comes weekly for four hours, and IT IS AMAZING. The house is dust-free, the dishes get done, the sheets and towels get changed. And we're a job creator! I don't actually miss the feeling of satisfaction of having cleaned my kitchen myself, because, don't worry, there are always other chores to do. I did sort of hate, for a while, that although there are lots of compromises we both make for each other, for the good of our relationship, I ask, "could you please scrub the toilet?" and Life Partner's answer was "hire it out!" That seemed facile, stubborn, and also icky. EVEN IF IT IS ALL OF THOSE THINGS, it was also the best solution for us.

Posted on August 27, 2014 at 1:53 pm 0

On The Cost of Bringing a Person Into The World Via C-Section

@Meaghano I don't know whether this will be any consolation, but one of my very best friends gave birth in a birthing center in Brooklyn and really did not enjoy the experience. She labored (and had not slept) for 40 hours. She did room in or whatever with her person and her tiny baby, but they did not give her a bassinet, so she was terrified of rolling over her child in the double bed in her miniscule room, so the reign of no sleep continued. And although going home fewer than 24 hours after birth SOUNDS great, she was exhausted and could have used a little more recovery, monitoring, and help from the nurses. Maybe giving birth is always traumatic. WHEEEEE CAN'T WAIT.

Posted on August 27, 2014 at 12:33 pm 1