I waited tables because my dream was to have a roof over my head. I figured the rest out as I went along and fell into an awesome career. But the years in between getting there were just waiting tables, wondering what to do with a useless degree, and figuring stuff out. But I didn't have the luxury of mooching off my parents and it seems like maybe you need to cut those ties if you want to get out of your rut because right now you just sound more than a little whiny and spoiled. A lot of us don't have the option to not work and completely write off shit-work like waiting tables or doing retail because it sounds like hard work and you aren't willing to 'sacrifice' for your 'dream' by doing work that you think is going to suck. And really, that is EXACTLY what it sounds like when you explain why those jobs aren't an option. Maybe your new 'dream' should be to become a responsible adult. Make some money however you need to - even if it means waiting tables. And if you can't bring yourself to wait tables, temp. There are tons of agencies in the city, and some work exclusively for certain industries, like publishing. Check out leafstone temps, they are pretty decent. Also, pay your own rent - even if you have to leave the expensive E. Village for a place you can afford in Inwood, or Bushwick, or where-ever. Be independent. Don't burn your bridges by walking out on an internship - or any job - without proper notice. It makes you look irresponsible and entitled. Internships usually suck but the relationship building is important, and sometimes it will lead to great things - my sister is an editorial director, but she started out as an intern less than ten years ago and proved her worth, even tho the internship consisted of doing a lot of shit work. In fact, first jobs suck but you won't get anywhere in this world without paying your dues on the lowest rung. Get off your roof and start sending off resumes and applying for temp jobs or any job and find some way to support yourself. If you want an adventure, get a job teaching English in Asia. EPIK in South Korea pays really well and hires all year, otherwise Gaijinpot has great listings of available jobs for Japan. Dave's ESL Cafe is also a great job search option for international travel. BUNAC is a working holiday program that costs a bit of money but helps you find either internships or retail and service jobs in Australia and England for 6 months, and provides the VISA too, which is always the biggest problems for Americans wishing to work in those countries. It's not hard if you put some actual effort into making those sorts of things happen. You are 22 years old(I'm guessing) and you are an adult, so now it's time to act like one!
@Kate Amann@twitter They have a reverse IPN router program to make it seem like you are in the US - HotSpot Shield. You should be able to watch Hulu with it. Seriously, it was godsend when I lived outside the US.
If you don't mind downloading a program that reroutes your IPN to England, you can watch everything for free on the BBC IPlayer plus livestream of all BBC channels. I recommend Expat shield is great, as is torrent bear, but torrent bear has a limit before you have to start paying, while expat shield is totally free. Otherwise, http://freetvall.com/video/3D7RG2BY8AAU/BBC-ONE is great a great channel for a stream of BBC1 (and they have streams of all the other channels as well)- no downloading of programs required. Plus, you don't have to listen to the inane chatter of Matt Lauer or Bob Costas . . .
My uncle is a professional poker player. It's his full time job, and has fully supported him for the last 35 years or so (besides the one time he had to start driving a cab because he dated a show-girl who stole his bank, long story.) He once tried to teach me the math behind it, which led me to believe I should never ever step foot in a casino because it sounded impossible . . . it's amazing how it works out though!
We don't have a pot in my office either. I bought single cup french press and it works wonders, plus saves tons of money!
I never thought I'd stop waiting tables - I'm totally comfortable and know what I'm doing; unlimited food and booze; I can sleep til noon every day; no responsibility - until I got fired, and now I have a great career and am generally much happier (and more sober). But . . . I still made more money waiting tables . . . (Tips at expensive trendy NYC bars are amazing). I'm much more of the 'if it ain't broke, don't fix it' mind-set - sounds like Sue is right there with me.
God, I love this article! This is truly, truly, my biggest money dilemma (besides student loans. Hahaha. Of course, the best thing is to go to the bar, look super hot, and see if some cute person will buy you drinks! (or, if that isn't your style, bring a flask, buy a soda, and make your own, as long as you don't get caught!)
Some great comments, but what I really want to know is, are they still hiring at that foot fetish party thing? No joke.
As a fellow So Cal transplant to NYC, it used to be that the first thing I craved was a Vanilla Ice Blended from Coffee Bean and Tea Leaf, but they opened two up in Manhattan, so now I don't even know!
My friends and I are pretty open generally about finances but we love the billfold and the topics you discuss/issues you bring up are definitely conversation starters with us as we enter our 30's at all sorts of different financial levels. Awesome site!