On Stop Apologizing

I had a coworker like that. I got a real cobra-snake vibe off her, and I started apologizing to her. Then she got nastier. So I managed to stop apologizing to her or treating her as if she had any power in any way. Actually, I stopped talking to her, and my work life automatically improved. At the time, I felt guilty for acting like a total bitch, but it turns out that I protected myself. The more you apologize to someone, the more you put them in the position of power. In theory, it is good manners to apologize. It just doesn't work so well in practice.

Posted on January 23, 2013 at 12:13 pm 0

On Outlook Not Good for Universities, Says Moody's Magic 8 Ball

@Theda Baranowski Thank YOU! Keep spreading that word about library school. I knew someone who actually got a job out of library school and loved it, so I peeked at library school and then evaluated the costs against the number of job openings. Yeah, I'll pass on that.

Posted on January 17, 2013 at 12:29 pm 2

On Entrepreneurial Outsourcing

@NeenerNeener He totally did. I'm sure his colleagues will appreciate it when the downsizing starts. Yikes!

Posted on January 17, 2013 at 12:27 pm 0

On When Parents Pay/Don't Pay for Their Kids' College Education

It may be that the students whose education isn't paid for understand what is at stake. If they can't graduate, they may miss out on some good opportunities. As for the rich who aren't smart enough for a scholarship, they can take risks. They have a safety net. Then again, my cousin who just started attending a brand-name school and who was going to pay with a mix of financial aid and her parents' money just decided to drop out after a semester. She wanted to live closer to her boyfriend. So you may as well throw basic teenage romance into the list of factors if someone will succeed or fail.

Posted on January 16, 2013 at 9:38 am 0

On Companies, Disliked

@TheclaAndTheSeals Sounds about right. But at least customers have WTFComcast as a consolation prize.

Posted on January 15, 2013 at 12:47 pm 0

On 'His Explication Never Waxed Garrulous'

He is the most stylishly dressed crazy old grandpa ever.

Posted on January 7, 2013 at 12:46 pm 0

On When to Pay for Services, and When to Do it Yourself

If it involves plumbing, it is always, always better to hire a professional. A good plumber can save you a lot of grief. Just do your homework first or get on Angie's List because some plumbers will take advantage of a) your lack of toilet knowledge and b) your aversion to poop and overcharge.

Posted on January 2, 2013 at 1:37 pm 0

On Things I Wasted Money On (This Year)

@Trilby Speaking of prepaying for a major illness, one of my relatives suffered from a blood cancer, and those chemo bills are terrifying. I didn't tally up the numbers, but I'm pretty sure that the cost of treating the cancer was way more than what my loved one put into the insurance when he was healthy.

Posted on December 28, 2012 at 12:16 pm 0

On Guns and Scant Mental Healthcare, But Also a Culture of Violence

@deepomega Totally! Maybe it depends on the game console and whether or not trigger-squeezing is involved, as opposed to taking in a movie. Regardless, I think the issue is mental care and how people either a) don't know where to go if they need help or b) are afraid they'll be judged if they get themselves (or a loved one) some help. I've known way too many people who need help but who won't get it -- even if it is offered -- because someone out there might perceive them as "weak."

Posted on December 18, 2012 at 12:29 pm 0

On Do You Know Your Type?

@KathleenD@twitter It's really useful in the workplace. Where I am, we haven't done a full-on test, but they did sketch out the concept enough for me to know who I'm not going to get along with on a team and how to make adjustments in advance.

Posted on December 18, 2012 at 12:24 pm 0