People have to do what they have to do to balance work and family, but the whole "passing as a workaholic" thing is only an option if you already have a good job. What about the people who work two jobs to pay the bills? I dunno. One group seems to have the luxury of leaning in or not while another group gets "pushed in." I'd prefer to live in a society in which all groups have the leaning option.
I don't mind at all. I am basically a librarian for a large company that is not publishing. If you want an even faster way out, pick up some front-end coding skills, and you'll be the envy of your friends. Good luck, and keep warning all those college students!
@yellowshoes I second that. Friends don't let friends work in publishing. There is a special kind of crazy attracted to that business. I stayed in that field only long enough to hone a skill that helped me get a better paying job with saner colleagues.
Although my trip from class to class wasn't as long as Don Draper's, I hear you. There's a certain confidence that comes with being in the same class all your life. You never have to worry about messing up and showing yourself. Fussell (glad you gave him a shout-out) got it right. Having class confidence saves you a ton of energy so you can focus on getting ahead.
Poor white bread is off crying because of the insult. No one, not even prunes, wants to be compared to David Brooks.
@Erica Ugh. I've had similar experiences. Like what, barbers aren't supposed to exist? I hate it when people laugh at those who cut the hair and make the potato salad. I'd like to see them try to cut hair or make potato salad. Speaking of, I would be thrilled if Patti Smith shared her mom's potato salad recipe.
I had a coworker like that. I got a real cobra-snake vibe off her, and I started apologizing to her. Then she got nastier. So I managed to stop apologizing to her or treating her as if she had any power in any way. Actually, I stopped talking to her, and my work life automatically improved. At the time, I felt guilty for acting like a total bitch, but it turns out that I protected myself. The more you apologize to someone, the more you put them in the position of power. In theory, it is good manners to apologize. It just doesn't work so well in practice.
@Theda Baranowski Thank YOU! Keep spreading that word about library school. I knew someone who actually got a job out of library school and loved it, so I peeked at library school and then evaluated the costs against the number of job openings. Yeah, I'll pass on that.
@NeenerNeener He totally did. I'm sure his colleagues will appreciate it when the downsizing starts. Yikes!
It may be that the students whose education isn't paid for understand what is at stake. If they can't graduate, they may miss out on some good opportunities. As for the rich who aren't smart enough for a scholarship, they can take risks. They have a safety net. Then again, my cousin who just started attending a brand-name school and who was going to pay with a mix of financial aid and her parents' money just decided to drop out after a semester. She wanted to live closer to her boyfriend. So you may as well throw basic teenage romance into the list of factors if someone will succeed or fail.