On Eating Thanksgiving Dinner in a 30-minute Meal Break at Kmart Is...

@MemphisBlues There’s a difference between people who have to work on holidays because of consumerism gone out of control, and people who have ALWAYS had to work on holidays throughout modern history because they work in vital, life-or-death positions. People shopping on Thanksgiving is a really recent phenomenon. Yes, it’s driven by demand, but I think ethical shoppers should opt out of creating that demand. Peer pressure your friends to stay home on Thanksgiving! Also, plenty of stores are publicly opting out of staying open on Thanksgiving. Stores don't have to cater to that demand--ethical business leadership matters, too.

Posted on November 19, 2014 at 6:18 pm 5

On Eating Thanksgiving Dinner in a Restaurant is Cheating Y/N

@KatNotCat I didn't say it was cheating, but I did say I would strongly prefer not to eat out. I only cook maybe once a week because I'm in grad school part time and work full time--my husband usually cooks 2x a week. I really like cooking and feel like how little I cook is a big drain on my quality of life, and I wish I had more time to cook, so holidays where I don't have work or homework hanging over me are kind of liberating. I also don't host Thanksgiving, but I contribute to cooking wherever I attend it (my husband and I usually do 1 dish each). I fully acknowledge that I might enjoy it less if it were something imposed on me, or if I didn't know how to cook, or if I normally felt pressured to make a home-cooked dinner every night of the week and Thanksgiving dinner were just an escalation of that.

Posted on November 19, 2014 at 1:49 pm 0

On Eating Thanksgiving Dinner in a Restaurant is Cheating Y/N

Not cheating exactly, but I would NOT be happy about it. I am of a school of thought that equates cooking for others as a high form of love, which may or may not be a character flaw. I very much enjoy being part of Thanksgiving preparations. In 26 years, I've never had a restaurant Thanksgiving, regardless of whether I spend it with my huge family or my husband's tiny family. I do not want people to be at work on Thanksgiving! but, I recognize that my track record of 100% home-cooked Thanksgiving is largely due to my good fortune, not some sort of moral superiority. I hope I can keep it up foreverrrr.

Posted on November 19, 2014 at 11:15 am 0

On Men Also Want It All

is there such a thing as part-time jobs that provide full benefits?

Posted on November 6, 2014 at 4:45 pm 0

On How to Stay Married: Splurge on the Honeymoon, Not the Open Bar

@EM I think the main difference between our honeymoon and regular couple travel was that we splurged a little more on the honeymoon--stayed a nicer hotels, ate at nicer restaurants, etc. Some places offer packages where they leave a bottle of champagne and chocolates in the room, but it's cheaper to just buy your own champagne and chocolates...

Posted on October 16, 2014 at 1:12 pm 0

On How to Tell if You’re About to Get Laid Off

my workplace does crosstraining, asks people to document how to do their jobs, and keeps track of passwords as a matter of course. that's just a good management practice, imho. but yeah, if it comes out of nowhere...

Posted on October 16, 2014 at 11:55 am 0

On Jimmy John's Non-Compete Agreement Bans Employees From Working at Restaurants that Serve Sandwiches

I never understood the appeal of Jimmy John's. They're just normal sandwiches, made of cold cuts and bread? Sandwiches I could make myself? If I buy a sandwich, I want it to be something FANCY. At least melt the cheese for me. So, no love lost here.

Posted on October 15, 2014 at 2:27 pm 0

On Things I Would Do Around The House If There Were Wages For Housework

oooh what about washing the walls?? THAT will never happen

Posted on October 6, 2014 at 4:15 pm 0

On Why Don't American Women Bike To Work?

I used to bike to work and then I was hit by a bus, so now I'm skittish. I know I'm supposed to suck it up and get back in the saddle, but I just don't care to risk it, I guess. Isn't part of the reason that American women bike less than Dutch women the same reason that American PEOPLE bike less than Dutch people? Literally everyone bikes there, it's ingrained in the culture that drivers yield to bikes, no one bikes super fast, there is integrated bike infrastructure, etc. If we had the infrastructure and culture of the Dutch, then sure, I would bike to work. But even in a major city where a lot of people bike, the reality here is that the streets are just not super bike friendly and I don't feel safe.

Posted on October 6, 2014 at 3:10 pm 3

On Open Thread: When Do You Replace Your Phone?

i've had my samsung galaxy s3 for exactly two years and i rly want the s5 but it's not busted enough (despite a cracked screen) to justify getting a new one. i have tmobile and bought the whole phone upfront in order to get lower monthly bills, so i now feel like i want to get my money's worth.

Posted on September 9, 2014 at 5:11 pm 0