On Can Feminism and Breastfeeding Coexist, Take 2

@Ester Bloom HORROR My boss just had a baby and I swear, the things I've learned about childbirth has given me second thoughts.

Posted on August 19, 2014 at 3:05 pm 0

On How To Become a Math Person, Vol. 1

I never thought I was a math person, despite taking BC calc my junior year and getting a 5 on the exam. I've been taking a lot of stats and econ in grad school and to my surprise, I'm doing well, really love it, and want to pursue it more in my career. I think part of it is that I'm just smarter and more confident than I was in high school. Also, I work full time, so math homework seems like a fun diversion compared to my job. It's like a logic puzzle. The stakes are also lower, since it's no longer "if you fail this class you will never get into college or get a good job!!!1!"

Posted on August 18, 2014 at 5:32 pm 1

On A Father-Daughter Duo Answers Your Questions: Should I Stay or Should I Go?

@OllyOlly I am a full time worker, part time grad student, and most of the time I hate it with the fire of a thousand suns. My grad program is really hard, and not designed to be done part time, but I am doing it anyway. My job is no cake walk, either. The sad thing is that I think I would love the program if I had done it full time, but right now I just feel burned out at work and burned out at school. Oh, I am also planning a wedding. Anyway. OP, don't undertake a scheme like this lightly. It's real hard. At least go to a program with night classes.

Posted on August 12, 2014 at 3:55 pm 0

On In Praise of Non-coworkers

There are Non-Coworkers with whom I've maintained elevator relationships for 5 years (!) without learning their names. What's worse is that they work in my field and I really should know them. How I wish their staff page on their website included headshots.

Posted on August 11, 2014 at 3:53 pm 0

On Sustainability and Compromise: How a Freelance Writer Makes a Living

out of curiosity: is the goal to parlay the freelancing into a salaried writing job, or do you prefer to be your own boss?

Posted on August 6, 2014 at 1:22 pm 0

On How the Other Half Lives

An email for an Argentine club DJ is one letter off from mine, so I can imagine a glamorous other life I do not have. Also, I get his Spanish-language horoscopes.

Posted on July 30, 2014 at 1:46 pm 4

On Concerning the Moral Obligations of the Wealthy

@eatmoredumplings It might be worse for society in terms of fewer dollars going to charity.

Posted on July 30, 2014 at 11:32 am 0

On Concerning the Moral Obligations of the Wealthy

i generally agree with this, but to be devil's advocate, i'll bring in the question of incentives. very high-paying jobs tend to come along with lots of stress and long hours (i am NOT saying that low-paying jobs are stress-free). if someone were totally unconcerned with charity, they could work right up to the amount where their income would be tithe-able (2x the max), and not a dime more. i don't know if that situation would result in fewer overall dollars going to charity than a situation where people make as much as they can and give what they want to charity. of course, salary isn't the only incentive to prestigious jobs--some would continue to work above the cutoff because they like the idea of giving to charity, or because they like progressing in their careers, or because they want power and influence. but, i would imagine that effectively setting a maximum salary would have some dampening effect on incentives to work.

Posted on July 29, 2014 at 4:09 pm 0

On The Last (Profane but Awesome) Word on Weddings

@aetataureate @gyip @calamity @JNC Musings Factory It's a pretty small wedding with intimate friend groups, and it's not necessarily all couples--there are a lot of singles coming. Strangely, it works out that almost all of my local friends are coupled, and almost all of my college friends are single, so they would naturally be seated with/hang out with each other anyway. Okay, I DO feel a little bad about it, but if the choice is between giving the singles +1s or not inviting some of my closest friends, it's a really tough choice and I would rather have my closest friends there, and I hope because of the above reasons that it won't be unpleasant for the singles. It's a small wedding with little fat to cut in terms of the guest list.

Posted on July 21, 2014 at 11:19 am 0

On The Last (Profane but Awesome) Word on Weddings

I’m not plus-oneing every single person at the wedding because there’s no room, and sorry, but randos I don’t know are the first to get the cut. There’s not anyone at my wedding who would be outside of a friend-group so it’s not like they’ll be there alone with no one to talk to, and I do not feel bad about this decision… but yea, this is funny shit.

Posted on July 21, 2014 at 10:39 am 0