Thank YOU Mike Dang for your apology, earnestness and willingness to listen. If everyone could be this receptive to social issues when it's pointed out to them we'd be living in a much, much better world.
@alexandria B-Side in the East Village! Their happy hour is magical. I think the beers go for $1.50.
Okay, different perspective from someone who's worked in real estate: The standard requirement for an apartment is for the prospective tenants to make 40x the monthly rent (of their share). 80x would be the requirement for a guarantor, but you clearly already make enough to back a lease on your own. And you have savings! So, chances are, this has nothing to do with you guys not having enough savings and everything to do with the landlord. Maybe he is just super paranoid and conservative, maybe he is holding out for better tenants, maybe he just didn't like your haircut, or maybe he didn't like your occupations (are either of you lawyers? Landlords HATE lawyers and often reject applications based on that even though it's technically illegal and they'll never say it). Some of this is technically illegal and some of it isn't. In any case: most landlords would have been happy to take that application. But the problem is with him, not you. Maybe consider suing him?
I spent $20 on a ticket to an all afternoon/night conference/party, which was a lot of fun and entirely worth it. $11 on Kati rolls for the dinner break. $20 for the cab ride home, which I actually tried to avoid--but the subway in midtown at half past three AM is not the most reassuring nor pleasant environment, and I was exhausted. Then it started raining! And I adore cab rides in the rain. Got home around 4. Fell asleep happily. $6.10 for breakfast Sunday. $20 for another cab ride--but this was long overdue. I picked up my microwave and a suitcase and some stuff I left at a friend's house three years ago. I rediscovered a dress and a pair of shoes that I can still wear! And now I have a microwave/another suitcase/lots of things to donate. $80ish-not so bad! However on Friday I also spent $87 on dry cleaning (all my winter coats and leather gloves and alterations on a pair of pants that turned out too small). The $7 was a stupid mistake on my part for paying with a credit card...I forgot there was a fee! And felt too awkward to stop it mid transaction to run to the bank.
I've gone on countless trips to Sephora/Macy's (THE WORST) with my gift cards and find it absurdly hard to spend money too! Finally I decided to just leave them at home until I need a replacement for something, except I hate even seeing them on my desk and now they've become more of an annoying liability than anything else. I also got a $50 American Express giftcard from work that's probably going to suffer a worst/similar fate. I have this psychological block against spending it on practical things, so I keep waiting for something that costs $50 that I can justifiably indulge on.
$40 on drinks/appetizers with a friend who never goes out/I haven't seen in months, warranted. $12 on new tea. $6.25 on a breakfast bagel/orange juice, weekend breakfast. $12 lunch with a friend. And then I walked for 6-7 miles to explore parts of Brooklyn, so I deserved a nice dinner, $20. And ice cream, $1.50. I also went into a store and tried on clothes on Friday but did not buy anything. So that counts as saving $50? Maybe?
God, this was a stressful conversation to read even though I don't have any credit card debt, because I *am* contemplating spending much of my savings on a few fantastic trips. Thanks for the voice of being responsible reason, Mike, but if I were Lisa I would have really, really, wanted to listen to Logan. (Also, what if I never want children or a family and my only slightly irresponsible financial decisions are my own to bear?)