I think what was most telling was his mention that they have had many more discussions about 'his' future more than 'theirs'. I am in a relationship where my partner far out-earns me, and likely always will, and I can say with certainty that most of our discussions of the future have a strong team mentality to them. The sub-text of 'when do you think you'll start earning more money?' just isn't there, and I don't think it needs to be so long as both people are driven to help each other? Perhaps her sub-text questions about the future are really her asking 'do you even care about OUR well-being as a couple? Or will you always be putting yourself first?' For me, the other partner in this anecdote doesn't read as 'greedy sub-texter' but as someone who is yearning for a partner to make decisions with her, to include her in the plans? When she's broken down from many years of emotionally and physically draining work, will he be able to support her the way she does him? That's the sub-text I gleaned, anyways.
@Heather Funk@facebook Yes, spot on, re: Nathaniel P.
I'm in the throes of the final stages of my thesis, and have developed a great (great!) fondness for movie scores. My working theory is that listening to'em piques my attention just enough to deter me from clicking on tabs in moments of pause or thought? Favs are: anything Alexandre Desplat (Tree of Life, Painted Veil, Twilight...ya ya, its good!), There Will be Blood, Shame, and then this amazing mix of Disney scores that I somehow stumbled upon (for those who grew up on Disney, this may be a tad distracting... the nostalgia!): http://dp.nonoo.hu/dreamport-009/