I have done this! Not for a year, but for a long enough time to break me of my insane shopping habit. Two things that really helped me: I hit UNSUBSCRIBE every time a shopping email came into my inbox. Gilt Group? Unsubscribe. J.Crew? Unsubscribe. Hautelook? Unsubscribe. Etc, etc, etc. I also would immediately put new catalogs into the recycling bin and try to unsubscribe from them, as well. If you have any store credits cards, take them out of your wallet and leave them at home. I had a Banana Republic card, and I stuck it on a shelf. If I passed BR and wanted to go in, I would say "Come back with your card so you can get the discount" and by the time I was home the temptation had passed. Also, I did a mega closet clean out and consigned quite a few clothes. Instead of taking cash, I took credit at the consignment boutique. This meant I had a few guilt-free cheats where I picked up a new top or shoes because I had the credit stored up there. Happy non-shopping!
@deepomega I'm not saying we should be police-ing panhandlers to make sure they "deserve" money. I am just saying I find the statement from the guy's own mouth kind of offensive. Opinions - I gots 'em.
I think that article is looking at the situation through some pretty rose-colored glasses. Also: "“We get enough food from leftovers and shelters. You only need money to buy beer, weed, and dank food.” I've had personal experience with people who actually really need the food, shelter, and resources charities and the government provide. I wouldn't judge someone on their appearance or for buying a $10 salad when they can't really afford it - but if he is straight up admitting they use the system to get their basic needs taken care of so they can buy drugs + booze then I have a pretty big problem with that.
@elysian fields yeah, I definitely think that sensibly considering the costs of having a child is an important step in the family planning process. And it is hella expensive. But what is an "okay" amount to have a kid? What kind of lifestyle do you need to build for your kid, and how much does that have to do with what you can afford to give them? I think my friend's point was more that people often talk about poor (and young) parents almost automatically being bad parents, which maybe they are, maybe they aren't - there's no amount of money that necessarily needs to be the benchmark for "Go - It's Baby Time!"
I don't think you're necessarily saying this with your line about not being able to conceive how people can afford kids, but it stuck with a friend of mine as we discussed this article. Her words: " I HATE the idea that anyone thinks you need to be rich to think of having a kid. It further entrenchs the general shift in society that basically says only the wealthy are capable of being good parents, and everyone else is neglectful by way of finances. I mean, yes, you have to have some money but the idea that people making over $100000 a year think that children are out of reach is horrifying." Thoughts? I want to have kids, and I don't want to be irresponsible, but if I waited until I was a millionaire to have kids, it would never. Ever. Happen.
I am always fantasizing about home-coming food! I am from Halifax, Nova Scotia so tops on my list is: Mom's homemade brown bread (free!) Bud the Spud french fries. Actually I think he's retired and now it's Bill the Spud. It's a french fry truck rivalry for the ages, truly. ($4) A vegetarian banh mi sandwich from a tiny place downtown. Why do I have to go to Canada to get this banh mi? I don't know, but it's amazing. ($5)
Fellow MLIS grad here to chime in: depending on cost of living, I think $45k is really reasonable. I probably wouldn't demand it or hold out for it, if I were limited geographically like you are, but I would definitely not feel weird asking for it. If you get to that stage of a job interview, usually they really want you and everything else checks out - the worst is probably that they say "No we can't go that high" and you have to decide if you want the job instead. It's really unlikely they say "NEXT!" I'm pissed I didn't negotiate for a higher starting salary; consider that a 5% raise on a salary of $30,000 is only $62 extra bucks a paycheck...in a career position annual raises won't really get you to where you want to be. I would second tiktaalik and say it would depend a bit on what type of librarian you want to be. I went into the corporate world, specifically advertising, and I love it (despite the aforementioned poor negotiating when I started). Corporate librarianship can have some nice perks, like really good benefits and entry into the magical world of bonus pools. But you might also be the only information professional working in your office ("MLIS? So what would you say you DO here?"). So much to consider! To sum: $45,000 doesn't seem crazy to me at all. Get it girl!
My life has been immeasurably improved since my mom taught me how to poach eggs in the microwave. Crack 2 eggs in a mug and cover them with a couple inches of cold water. Nuke for 1 minute. Hope they don't explode everywhere. If not done to your liking (I like mine just barely cooked, yolk still runny), nuke in 10 second increments. Every microwave and mug is different, you have to figure out the sweet spot. For me: Red Sox Hall of Fame mug + 1min10seconds in the microwave. Lift out with a slotted spoon and plop in a bowl on top of a piece of toast you've ripped into chunks. Salt, pepper, stir it around. My family creatively calls this "a bread egg." I make this a few times a week, it still explodes every once in awhile but it's worth it, and the riskiness of the process helps wake me up and makes me feel a little bit dangerous. Oh yeah.