Truth. And so much of this depends on the degree of control you have over your own schedule. At my office, lots of my day is scheduled for me, and so I have to work on my long-term priorities in the cracks and crevices.
This issue is something I've been thinking about more in my own life. My Farmor (my stepdad's mother) is in her 90's and in poorish health, and is moving in with my parents (side note: if you ever need advice in designing an ADA-compliant, stylish bathroom, my mom is your person). I've learned so much more about aging-in-place (which is my parents' plan for themselves), as well as about how much of retirement planning has to do with your family. I mean, my Farmor is pretty well-off, but it wouldn't have been enough for a full-time home aide, even if she had wanted one, so family it is. For myself, I figure my best bet is to be the best auntie EVER, so that one of them helps take care of me while the other helps their parents.
Grocery spending is a household expense (and I budget for it as such), but there's something about it that feels discretionary: getting to choose different things, and sometimes even having the opportunity to treat myself. Typically (ie: when I'm not in travel season for work), I'll check what I have in the fridge and freezer, and use that for a few meals (I have a weekly menu I use). Then, I look through my Pinterest boards and magazines to see what recipes I would like to make, and then I use my menu to make a shopping list. Breakfast is much more regimented: either green smoothies or steel-cut oatmeal (although I'd like to branch out a bit more), so that's a consistent item from week to week. Then I do my shopping--mostly at the local grocery store, which is quite close and has recently gone all fancified, or occasionally at Trader Joe's. Also, I typically buy items with a bit of required prep to save money--I buy whole chickens and cut them up (and make my own stock in the slow cooker)--I buy dried beans and soak them, that sort of thing. It's a pretty good system, when I stick to it.
Negative, but I'm on track for stuff: about $20,000 in student loans, with about $2,500 in credit card debt (that I'm on track to pay off before the interest kicks in) and a car note which still has about $9,000 on it. Listing it all out like that feels sort of depressing, because it is more than I think of it as being. But still:I'm saving for retirement. I have a modest emergency fund that I'm building. I have a job, and a plan, and good health insurance, so I think I'm doing okay.
Do NOT pay that woman! She set a price, and while it's pretty disingenuous to make you pay for her practice, you had agreed to it. But to come back and charge hundreds of dollars more? Oh, HELL to the no. Girlfriend should have chalked it up to a lesson learned, and priced her works more accurately in the future. The woman would have been well within her rights to refuse the higher price, and frankly if I were her, I would not continue to be friends with this woman.
Also, a haiku, for your consideration: Percolator drip When will this coffee be done? Mondays, I curse you.
I am so excited about this! It's going to be the best.
@muggles I'll confess: I sometimes write my interview notes in German, so that if I need to say something about the student that is critical, it doesn't matter if they see it. That said, if they could read German upside-down, I'd want to give them points for that, which they would then lose for reading my notes and making me aware that they'd done it. It's complicated.
I am home for two days between work trips, and I'm so tired. Like, I woke up ten minutes before I had to meet with someone, because I was jet-lagged. I am basically going to spend tonight doing laundry and repacking my suitcase, and reminding myself that I am REALLY FREAKING LUCKY to have a job that lets me go to cool places. But I would basically cut somebody for the chance to take a nap right now.
I interviewed for Georgetown, since I applied to SFS. It was an alumni interview in Salt Lake City with a guy who had gone there for high school. I honestly don't remember what we talked about, beyond the fact that I read Newsweek. He was kind of a good old boy, but in a non-discriminatory way, if that makes sense? He was basically really chill, and at the end of the interview goes, "Yeah, I think you'll be fine, you seem like Georgetown material--just make sure that you go to Ben's Chili Bowl!" and we talked about food for a while. It feels so weird to know that while I interview prospective students for a living now, I have no strong recollections of the interview I did.