I'm always trying to save up for something. To counterbalance that I try to think about ways I can substitute contributing inexpensive things of equal value for expensive things that it would stress me out to buy. Things from my list: buy a coupon/deal offer and share it with friends (even better gift $25 restaurant.com gift certificates which you can frequently get for $2), host people at your house, if you make charitable donations consider making one in a friends name, cultivate a calendar of awesome free/cheap things and direct your social outings twd those, if you have a DVR offer to tape stuff for people. I felt guilty about this stuff until a less budget conscious person told me that she really enjoyed doing these things and the feeling of being thrifty while doing them. Also, please buy decent bras and comfortable shoes. In my epic cheapness these are two things I have found really pay off over time.