On Shopping With and For My Dying Mother

My dad was supposed to die before Christmas 2004 and ended up living another five months past that. Yes-- shopping for him was nearly impossible! My mom bought him functional items like you listed-- a warmer comforter, socks. I ended up buying him a George Strait greatest hits album that was just released because it was fun and something we both enjoyed. When we cleaned out his house after he died, I found the CD, still in the clear wrapping, never opened. But I took it back to college with me and listened to it, thinking of my dad. I guess I bought it for myself.

Posted on December 2, 2014 at 2:25 pm 0

On Chatting About A New Era

Congratulations, Meaghan! I always looked forward to reading your posts and I loved how I could tell it was you before even checking the byline. We love you!

Posted on November 25, 2014 at 8:27 pm 2

On Adjusting Your Life to Your Partner's Career

I quit my job and moved to a town we hated for my spouses career, then finally moved and he's commuting so I can have a job. See-- balance?! I just long for the day when we can both be employed full time in the same place at the same time.

Posted on November 24, 2014 at 8:25 pm 0

On Checks and Balances: One Lady’s Haphazard Finances

@Theestablishment Yep! I also log my forecasted/upcoming expenses item-by-item for the month to see exactly how much spending money (or um, grocery money) I have left. Sometimes that last trip to the grocery is a little lean because my stupid cell phone bill is withdrawn on the 28th of the month. It helps to curb my spending too because it's such a pain to have to record "$1.35 - bagel" :/

Posted on November 19, 2014 at 9:11 pm 0

On "Freelance Money Isn't Like Other Money"

My spouse is on a 9-month pay schedule as a professor but makes a good chunk of money on freelance gigs. We had a trouble renting an apartment in August because we couldn't provide a paystub dated within the past 60 days (even though he had earned a good deal of income in that time). They let us move in anyway and we just turned it the next paystub he received in October. It still seemed stupid to me.

Posted on October 13, 2014 at 1:58 pm 0

On Want a Job in the Sciences? Good Luck Navigating the "Unsustainable Hypercompetitive System"

I'd say this is a problem across the board with doctoral degrees-- administrators demand that professors fill their programs to meet quotas in enrollment (many seem to erroneous believe that bigger is better, and having a graduate program-- even if you lack the resources to develop it-- is an unquestionable necessity and sign of success). When there are thousands of universities around the country all churning out graduates year after year, regardless of the desirability of their field, you're going to eventually hit a wall.

Posted on October 10, 2014 at 1:08 pm 0

On Who's a Real Artist? Ask the IRS

The only hiccup here is that most artists who would really benefit from deducting those expenses probably make so little income that they're already easily maxing out their tax refund without it. (Quoth the wife of a professional musician)

Posted on October 9, 2014 at 6:55 pm 0

On Things I Miss About Having A Real Job

I literally just came from a job interview after three years at home with my kid, and I can say that the things I miss most about structured, "legitimate" work were the things I would do to reward myself for being at work. Things like getting myself a latte on a really important day or buying a fancy handbag to carry my stuff, or even just taking the long way to walk across the office because I needed a break during the day. Americans really do identify themselves by their jobs so I'm very excited to, as you say, have a job and be answered for and have my status in society understood and unquestioned.

Posted on October 8, 2014 at 4:39 pm 1

On Why Don't American Women Bike To Work?

I biked to work for a while (I only lived two miles from my office) but switched to the bus because it was easier on my wardrobe and appearance. Basically it was just far enough to look disheveled but not far enough to bother with the hassle of getting ready at work. I think for women, part of the reason can be boiled down to the "look" we expect from men vs women. Men (usually) have short hair and can wear pants and a polo shirt and they're good. Even if they bothered to wear biking gear (I never did), it would be quick and easy to change clothes. For me, if I did wear biking clothes that would allow me to change into a skirt or dress upon my arrival at the office, I still had to (re)do my hair and makeup and it became too tedious for me to want to bother. Plus my coworkers would see me doing my makeup in the bathroom and I didn't like that. I think European countries make cycling more of their lifestyle so the expectations are in place for what that does to your appearance.

Posted on October 6, 2014 at 3:00 pm 4

On Why I Had Kids

I'm so glad this topic came up because I have to highly recommend the book All Joy and No Fun by Jennifer Senior in regard to why we have kids and why it's such a confused role. I'm about halfway through the book where she's discussing how the notion of "childhood" is a relatively new construct in our society, as about three generations ago we were still having children because of a) sex with no birth control and b) for labor. It was only after WWII that we glorified and protected the state of childhood, and still now parents are grappling with what our role has become exactly. To educate? We have public schools. To teach a trade? Your kids are likely not going to do the same (previously, farm) work you are doing. To clothe, care, or nurture? Stores make clothes, grocery stores and restaurants provide our food, pediatricians manage their medical care, and with dual-income households you're probably putting them in childcare longer than you're spending with them directly. Basically, if we're confused about why we're having children or how to justify it, it's because society as a whole has rendered parenthood a nebulous responsibility.

Posted on October 6, 2014 at 2:46 pm 2