@garysixpack He wasn't just a "consultant" he was working as their grant writer, representing the organization to funders. A policy that is antithetical to the organization's stated mission directly effects his ability to fundraise, so speaking up about it wasn't exactly out of line with his role. Not to mention, calling out a racist jerk is NEVER wrong -- taking a stand against someone awful is more important than a paycheck.
@Leigh There is a huge difference between an unpaid internship in which a student is supervised and working as part of a team with experienced people providing mentorship, and an unpaid internship in which a student is given tasks to perform that would normally be undertaken by a paid employee that often have no "educational" value (i.e., doing data entry alone in an empty office all day). People who are providing the former will never have a problem. People doing the latter, especially in a for-profit industry, are being flat-out exploitative.
@jquick Too true. My first thought on reading this was "Istanbul?! There were guys I didn't even want walking me to the corner after a first meeting."
@sea ermine The empty apartment with randos is it is a lot more obnoxious and potentially risky to the building at large than a person with an extra room who is home to monitor things. And presuming that anyone with an empty room who doesn't "need" a roommate is an immoral moneybags is silly. I know a woman who owns her apartment, purchased many years ago when her financial circumstances were different (and places in her neighborhood were more affordable), who has had both long-term "roommates" and short-term vacationers renting her spare room.
@vanderlyn Not to mention the neighbors who have to put up with the temporary tenants on vacation behaving like disrespectful jackasses. I have no issue with people who have a spare bedroom and discreetly make it available for "paying guests" when they themselves are also home (like a real B&B, people!) but no sympathy for the people couch-surfing in order to rent out a whole apartment.
@DickensianCat However, in New York "where do you live?" is like "what do you do?" in that most of the people who routinely ask it are trying to determine income level and status. You may not intend it that way, but it is a similarly loaded and potentially classist question.
@pinches Outdoor Farm Wedding Advice: whatever you have on your body, make sure you have flats, preferably closed toe, on your feet. (Pulling a stuck kitten heel out of mud that probably contains chicken poo does not make one feel festive or loving towards those who are having their special day outside, on a farm)
@Lily Rowan Yes! Pre-cell phone even flaky jerks had to plan their flake-outs in advance or risk being the fool who left answering machine messages after everyone had already left the house. And really, isn't this guy just the phone version of Mr. I Don't Have A Television who comes over to your house and sits transfixed and not talking to anyone in front of a LAW & ORDER rerun?
@seaermine Yes, and also students from families at this income level are also likely to have access to resources that connect them with more scholarship opportunities? (i.e., high schools with good guidance counselors, as well as team sports and other scholarship-friendly extracurriculars)