@la_di_da Your post disturbs me a bit. I don't mean that as an insult. But free weekends and time to spend with your kids are NOT luxuries or things to feel guilty about. Those things should be basic rights for everyone. There is no reason at all to work every day, and work into the night every day! I don't believe that's what you need to to just to survive. None of the people I know do that, and we are all middle to upper middle class. Do you live in NYC? I used to. The work culture there is seriously fucked up. I knew people who actually pretended to be busier than they were, or made up problems so they had to stay late…just to fit in. It's ridiculous! Everyone just stop it. We can all be productive from 9-5 or 10-6 or 11-7 or whatever, make some money, then have lives afterward. It's not lazy, it's living a life.
Thank you! I have been really bummed after watching this season of Girls. I know, it's a stupid show. But watching Hannah just fall into opportunities without even trying --two book deals; a cushy, easy and fun copywriting gig; and finally acceptance into the most prestigious writing program in the country -- made me feel terrible. I'm 42 years old and I've been at this writing/editing/fact checking thing for 20 years, with only moderate success. It's really really nice to be reminded that in the real world, where people don't have Dunham's connections and parental support, writing for a living is competitive and challenging and that success has little to do with actual talent. Honestly this post came at the exact right time for me. Again, thank you.
@WayDownSouth You are absolutely right about choosing an in-demand career while in college. I wish to god I had done that, but I wasn't very practical at 18 … and the whole "do what you love" thing dominated my psyche. If I could go back in time…hell yea I would do things differently. Also another thing I didn't understand as a kid -- it's not just the work you'll be doing, it's the atmosphere, the culture of your industry, and the people in your industry that are important. It would be so fantastic if colleges offered lectures by people in different industries / fields and they spoke honestly about what their workplaces are like.
This was so well written and so true for so many of us.
My horrible boss was horrible in a unique way. He did NO WORK. Well, I guess not literally. He did SOME work, but it wasn't the work that needed to be done, at all. The work he chose to do was to keep rearranging our system, making it more complex and difficult to manage…and guess who had to manage it? Me! It made my job impossible and whenever I would suggest simplifying everything, he would sit on the request for a few days, then send out an email to everyone announcing that he was adding a step to the process. ALSO: he often would not show up for work. No email, no phone call, nothing. His boss would ask me where he was and I would just shrug. I was finally vindicated after quitting and leaving--the whole system fell apart without me there to support it. My boss got fired, finally. But it took me leaving to expose his complete incompetence / laziness.