@Morbo All of your information is excellent, thank you for the explanations. It is even better because I read it all in Morbo's voice. "NO, THE SYSTEM DOESN'T WORK, PUNY HUMAN."
Ask for that raise!
I just mentally started adding up all the money I've spent on sexy lingerie but had to stop about two poorly fitting bra-and-panty-sets in because I realized that I just do not want to know.
@rhinoceranita Oh wow... I read rhinoceranita's first comment, said "Yeah, that is my experience also!" Then I kept reading... and laughed out loud because I also went to Brown. Is every stereotype about us actually true?
Good for you, mystery former coworker! I did this once, but I was a college student at an unpaid internship, so I felt like I was being cowardly and unprofessional by slinking off during lunch. But I just could not go back to the office after the guy in charge insisted that I change a detail in an article to be incorrect, simply because he thought he knew what he was talking about. It makes me feel a little better to hear someone else has done this. I actually don't think I even ate lunch; I just walked around in a huff for a while, then sat down on a public bench and sent an email from my phone saying I wasn't coming back, then I took the subway home and told my parents I'd quit my summer internship. I still don't regret doing it, even though it would have been the only newspaper job on my resume.
That article made me sad. For Tonya, and for all female athletes who just want to be the best at their sport, and then find that they also have to fit into some narrowly-defined box for the sake of public consumption and a good media narrative.
My sister and I got weekly allowances that were roughly tied to regular chores like making our beds, tidying our room and cleaning the bathroom. But we could also earn extra money with bonus chores like picking blueberries for 25 cents a pint. Then one day my dad started making a lot more money and we got a cleaning lady and didn't have to do cleaning chores anymore (although we still had to pick blueberries.) I don't think it negatively affected our work ethics or attitude toward money, but I will never know.
@gl If you're willing to live about 10 minutes from the G train and 20 minutes from the closest subway that is actually useful, rent around McGolrick is still pretty cheap. Especially considering how close it is to W'burg.
I think you're brave to approach strangers and ask to talk to them about their lives, and I'm really glad you do it, because these interviews are always enlightening and interesting.
@kentuckygal My now-husband and I spent our first five years of living together splitting things evenly-ish (like I paid the electric bill, he paid for internet, we each paid half of rent) with some adjustment for the fact that he always made more than me (mostly in the form of him taking us out to dinner/buying me clothes, that sort of thing). Then last year we got married and merged everything: one checking account, one main credit card (it's his but I'm an "authorized user") one savings account. It has worked out super great so far. He's always been a little more spendy than me, so now I feel like I can be a little more indulgent, like shopping at the same stores as him, for example. I think it makes sense to have the same lifestyle if you're married and living together. We're also saving a lot more, for whatever reason. (Maybe because I set up larger transfers to savings than we each would have otherwise, or because we're comfortable keeping the joint checking account balance lower than the sum of our two separate accounts would be.) We haven't had a single fight about money since we pooled everything, and we only have to write one rent check now.