@Megano wow! We are definitely leaning towards it. We saw a listing while we were there for a 3bdrm totally remodeled beautiful HOUSE w a yard and porch for $1525/mo. UGH of course it was taken when we emailed and every thing else seems more expensive. It was very rainy when we were there but GOD the food was great and the houses are so cute and the people were so nice.
@gridmonte Well I had never heard of this but now that I have googled it: YES.
@francesfrances hahaha, I THOUGHT YOU'D NEVER ASK! (jk) "Meaghan and her family were an absolute delight to have as guests. They were incredibly thoughtful and respectful of [our space] and we were sad to see them go. We hope they move to Portland!" *dusts off shoulder*
Lol guys I use cloth. We have six covers and a service that's $35/week, and it's WAY easy.
@lemonadefish hell yes
@twofish Yeah! WIth us, he was very like, I know I want to be with you forever and have children, etc., but the idea of a wedding did not / does not appeal to him. He said me wanting it made him want it. I was (am?) anxious about the idea of marriage and planning a wedding has no appeal for me. But I do want it!! I think ultimately I wanted him to want it enough to assuage my fears, let me avoid reconciling all of my hang ups, but that didn't happen. Which is probably for the best! We had to have a lot of vulnerable conversations, which I'm grateful for. But I don't blame people for wanting to avoid such a loaded subject. Saying what you want when you're not supposed to HAVE to say it is hard, in a world where being proposed to is conflated with being TRULY LOVED, etc.
@annev17 it's horrible!
I think it's very hard but very important to communicate your needs and expectations about marriage together. VERY HARD. Especially when you -- or okay, I, are very ambivalent and it's hard to articulate what you want, much less defend it. It's so hard. But it's okay to want what you want. And own it. SO hard though. Anyway, I would have dismissed this idea a few year ago but now i get it. You can put this off for so long, sometimes a timeline is helpful, a kick in the ass to make a decision. Obviously tough and signals two people aren't on the same page, but you can be on the same page about your love and relationship and not about MARRIAGE and everything it means (which is usually totally different to different people, even people who are crazy in love).
@Meaghano to clarify: I mean the sex part
haha I think this is one of those things that is made harder by there being two people. no one gets to go with their gut.