@Timmay the downfalls of having a conference full of awkward introverts!
@jcf exactly! And the tubs! Also we have decided the birthing center is a myth and no one actually gets in.
@Meaghano also yes I can't stay awayhahah
@Meaghano also saw Seamus Heaney read before he died. YMMV. JUST GO AND HAVE FUN. Don't think of it as a career investment the whole thing is bullshit I think but it's fun to be in the same place as everyone and you never know what might happen.
I went to AWP last year and I want to say it was a waste of money but it wasn't my money, I went for work. But really it was where I decided to quit my job. Something about being around all those poets I guess. "I want to be unemployed too! These are my people!" Also Jeanette winterson ran into the panel I was moderating thinking she was on it, she was like IS THIS THE ART OF MEMOIR?" And we were like lol no but are you Jeanette winterson? WE LOVE YOU! And she was like I fucking hate these things and I don't even believe in memoir! And ran out. So maybe worth it?
@frenz.lo I got bottles as gifts (I have like 20 and prob needed…4?), a hand-me-down nursing cover, a pump free from insurance, a Boppy as a shower gift, breast pads from the hospital (never used 'em, just leaked everywhere because I'm a horror I guess...), my mom bought me milk storage bags and Lanolin and Soothies (didn't use them) when she came to town once. I did buy 3 nursing bras and 3 nursing tanks. $$$$ I bought one of each first and then once it was established that I'd be able to breastfeed, I ordered more online that first week. The clothes thing is a big adjustment, or was for me. Like, hi what am I going to wear with this postpartum body and a baby on my boob all day? Just a robe, the first week or so, it turns out. And now, lots of v necks and button ups. Also as far as ease goes, I was prepared for it to be a BATTLE, because those are the stories I'd read. But I was v lucky in that my baby knew how to latch right away with no issues. It hurt like a bitch the first week then was fine! Now, as I've written, the every two hours schedule thing does feel oppressive, but I'm getting used to it now, 3 months in. It could very well be free-ish and easy for you. It's not for everyone (most people?). Just like it doesn't make everyone lose weight (HI! I am still holding onto 20lbs postpartum).
@julebsorry I would recommend taking it one day/week/month at a time. Commit to going for it if you want to do it, and reevaluating as you go if it's driving you nuts. By 12 weeks (that's where we are now!) your life is so, so much better and it's fathomable to pull off shit like that, if you work in a supportive environment and if breastfeeding is going well. IF, IF, IF. The first week is so, so bad. I would recommend writing IT WON'T ALWAYS BE LIKE THIS on a post-it note and hanging it…all over your house. Part of the horror is feeling like, "This is what my life is like now" / "What have I done?!" but then things get better.
@Jedidiah Tmj@facebook Lol what the hell kind of comment is this? I love high taxes and I can only hope my poor lifestyle choices such as having a baby at the ripe old age of 29 and then having a pelvis too small to birth him out of negatively affects your annual tax bill.
@aetataureate I would second that! I always want to read more fiction, for fun and enrichment. I do not ever ever want to read a finance book :) or like, maybe one a year. Though I will say nicole I just screenshotted the altitude thing because it seemslike such a simple and beautiful (??) way to think about things.
@TrotskyHoldsMyiPod :( Would make a great Billfold piece though...