@stuffisthings Main difference/key irony being that rich, famous celebrities mostly don't pay for those bags, because they're sent them for free due to their status.
Honestly, I can understand taking a tax refund to buy a $2,500 bag a lot more than I can understand taking a monthly welfare check and blowing it at Foot Locker, since I can't imagine a welfare check finances a shopping spree at Barneys. Using a tax windfall to make a one-time purchase is totally justifiable--you didn't need that money to live, it was yours all along (in the form of withheld dollars from your paycheck), so who cares how you spend it? Whereas taking government assistance to get your nails done just rankles. And frankly, I don't think they're subject to the same logic. There's nothing about a pair of expensive sneakers or a fancy manicure that provide the kind of signaling to people in power that Tressie McMillan Cottom is talking about--quite the opposite, in fact. If anything, it's the kind of logic you apply to a homeless person buying beer when they should probably be buying food: if they're miserable and it's too little money to change their circumstances, they might as well experience some short-term happiness. While that stupid thing may not be simple, that doesn't mean it isn't stupid.
I keep books that are personally significant to me and want to keep in my possession/on display. Other than that, on the rare occasion that I buy books, I try to give them away IMMEDIATELY after finishing them. I'm a big user of my local library, which in a way mimics how I grew up--my parents would always buy me books when that was the only present I wanted, but for general, everyday reading we were supposed to go to the library. I never feel guilty about buying books, but seriously, you can read them FOR FREE, so why wouldn't you? And you get the same lovely browsing effect you do in a bookstore, where what you come in for isn't necessarily what you leave with.
@Amanda T I love Glocap! Worked with them off and on for years. Also, if you're cool with kids, you would not BELIEVE what people pay for sitters in NYC--$15-$20/hour is the norm, and it's usually under the table. If you meet anyone who seems remotely of an age to have had children, it's worth mentioning that you babysit. Not a long-term plan, but good for cash in your pocket. Also, not to be a mom but...do keep your eye on the prize when it comes to finding a full-time job as soon as possible, even if it's not the absolute perfect thing. Temping is such a trap, and I've seen it happen to so many bright people; they spend all this time doing absolute shit work and miss an opportunity to develop the skills that help you move to exactly the kind of mid-level jobs you say you want. You're so much more desirable to companies when you have a full-time gig; make sure you're making use of headhunters and every option you can right off the bat.
I don't know what kind of neighborhood you live in, but there's an Amazon locker right in the grocery store I go to, and I've had packages delivered there. I also will often opt for in-store pickup, at Bed Bath & Beyond or other big retailers, it's often free and there's no chance of it getting lost.
@Anonymous1330 I loathe the person who Air BnB's in our building and if they were ever around I would like to lock them in a closet filled with all the accumulated cigarette butts that their Eurotrash visitors have left outside my door until they suffocated. So. Maybe some people get dinner with your guests. Maybe some people hate your guts!
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The alternative is that her friend could buy new boots and not send her a link but show up at the bar wearing the boots like they're, I don't know, a pair of shoes and not a totem of personal success and let you decide whether or not you want to talk about the boots. That is how people who had had money to spend for more than a few weeks handle this business unless they're actual bitches. So give her a while to calm down about it, but if it keeps up you might need to have a talk. There are other ways to be.
@Fig. 1 Yup! Was coming here to say the same thing. From the WSJ: http://guides.wsj.com/wine/dining-with-wine/10-ways-to-save-money-when-ordering-wine/ Basically, people don't want to look cheap when they order wine in front of someone, so they tend to order the second-cheapest. Since it's a high-volume spot, it makes sense that they'd put a low-cost wine there. There are some restaurants that don't do this, but order the wine you want to order, whether it's the cheapest or not--it'll even out in the end.
@tuntastic I mean, I don't think of myself as part of any kind of an army. But if you were repeatedly reminded that a bunch of people look at the logo on your pants and decide that they hate you and you're a skinny, bitchy lemming with no awareness of Ayn Rand, wouldn't you be a little defensive? Don't you think that's maybe, say, a little unfair? Maybe I just bought a couple of pairs of pants on sale one time and they've happened to last forever and I'm not going to go out and replace them just because of what some idiot on the internet happens to think? I'm a normal person. I vote Democrat, I hug my gay friends on the regular, I eat my vegetables but I also binge on Oreos when I have my period, I go on horrible blind dates and sometimes I wear Lululemon pants to the gym. Deal with it, world.
@frenz.lo You won't dance, floss, or travel, because someone wrote it on a bag? Makes sense. Cheers to your periodontist!