On Everything You Need To Know About Spending Money In A Strip Club

A male friend of mine made a big deal about taking me to a strip club, to show me that really it was cool and fun and not anti-feminist in the least. I think what he wanted me to see was that the women were smiling and friendly and showed no outward signs of exploitation or desperation. I wasn’t much into it. But what put me over the edge was, “If you’re not buying a lot of drinks, and tipping big, then you’re basically ripping off the dancers, taking up space that could be occupied by a wasted bachelor party.” I think it’s good and right for them to be well-compensated for what they do and have to put up with, but that is so not what I spend my big entertainment dollars on. For $20, an interesting experience. For $75, forget it.

Posted on January 27, 2015 at 2:29 pm 0

On WWYD: "I May Have Just Fallen For My 1st Scam"

But you didn't fall for it!

Posted on January 22, 2015 at 5:22 pm 0

On One Is The Loneliest Number But Also An Okay Number Maybe

Pausing before reading past the second paragraph to remark: That is such bullshit. Will come back and recant if my mind is changed.

Posted on January 16, 2015 at 1:27 pm 0

On Deciding to Buy Renters Insurance

People I know! This week! Their rented place caught fire, through no fault of theirs. They did not die, but they have no belongings including the computer she needs to work, and they are living in a motel at their own expense. Landlord says he owes them nothing at all, not even an apology for his negligence that could have killed them, and suggested that if he could get repairs made within 30 days he could sue them if they broke their lease. They really, really wish they'd gotten renter's insurance. They think they will sue, for their stuff and their hotel bill, and hope the landlord has liability insurance that will pay them.

Posted on January 14, 2015 at 2:53 pm 0

On Uber and PDX: A Not-Exactly-Love Story

@cjm I like the law about the wheelchairs. I like the law about the vehicle inspections. And I particularly like the law that limits the number of taxis that can be on the street at one time. San Francisco traffic was never a picnic, but it is demonstrably worse now, with 10,000 cars roaming around, and double-parked.

Posted on December 17, 2014 at 6:00 pm 0

On Honey, Sweetie, Chief, Boss: How We Talk to Strangers

Language. So much is personal context. Like, your entire own history. Cynthia Heimel, who is right about most things, wrote kind of a screed about referring to women as ladies, in pretty much any circumstance. Condescending. Paternal. Demeaning. (I paraphrase, accurately I hope. I cannot refer to the original right now.) You could tell she really felt it, and I was just, Really? How can you care? About ladies? And gentlemen isn’t the same?

Posted on November 18, 2014 at 5:37 pm 0

On Men Also Want It All

Yes of course it's childcare when it's your child. What you don't do for your own children is babysit.

Posted on November 6, 2014 at 5:17 pm 3

On Spend More on an Austen than Austen Herself Made in her Life!

The key is that word retail. So a pro buying from you in order to sell it would pay you no more than 60% of that. Same with every valuable thing you own. But if you insured it, you'd get $3,000 to replace it with.

Posted on November 3, 2014 at 4:18 pm 1

On On Wearing a Uniform

That's my uniform!

Posted on October 31, 2014 at 5:32 pm 0

On Everything You Need to Know About Diapers, Part 2

Real moms? Seriously? Even if that is only meant to refer to maternal ingenuity or something, Fuck you very much. All of these, "You do it the hard way if you really care about your family/the earth/moral superiority verging on perfect righteousness" cases rely on the given that your time (and really, we're talking about the real moms' time) is worth nothing to herself or anyone.

Posted on October 23, 2014 at 12:48 pm 1