I'm in the process of trying to furnish and decorate my new place, so I'm not quite willing to call out the wife as silly (anyone else get a whiff of "women be shopping" there?). One of the more interesting things I've experienced is that figuring out what a room "needs" tends to raise these questions about practical versus frivolous choices. Does any one really "need" a buffet just because it takes care of that odd empty spot at the end of the dining room? No but then I still have an odd empty spot at the end of a dining room that bothers me for reasons I don't quite care to admit to. Just having dining room feels decadent after nearly a decade of eating at my desk while watching Hulu. I'm assuming this is the item she's talking about: http://www.potterybarn.com/products/modular-bar-system-with-wine-hutchopen-hutch-su13/?pkey=cbars-furniture&cm_src=bars-furniture||NoFacet-_-NoFacet-_--_- And, yeah I'm not quite on board with this either mostly because I think there are cheaper and more aesthetically pleasing ways to go. But if you collect and drink wine, having something like a wine hutch really isn't all that silly. I recently started making sure I had a nicely stocked wine rack so that I wouldn't constantly be running to the overpriced wine shop near me whenever I had to show up at someone's house for dinner.
Lots of dentist hate out there. On the one hand, I totally get it. When I was four I chipped my tooth and ended up at the mercy of a man who'd never worked with children and extracted without any anaesthesia! That said I also had lovely dentists after that. It wasn't until I got braces that I begin to really dread anyone poking around my mouth. When I was in college I spent a year calling alumni for donations. Calling dental school alumni was really interesting. They hated giving back to the school, and were all too happy to tell you exactly why. But they weren't jerks about it. Instead they seemed incredibly frustrated both with the expensive training and the constant sense that people just don't like dentists. I don't know if this jives with @JoeSchmoe's experience, and it certainly doesn't make me any less anxious about seeing the dentist, but I would definitely like to hear more.
Hope this means we'll still see some long form stuff from Logan. I would be very sorry to lose that.
This doesn't end at high school either. In grad school a parent emailed me to ask for an extension for her daughter.
This chat made me So Sad. I'm really not sure where I fall in this love work hate work spectrum. Love my job, love that I HAVE job, detest a good number of things that said job entails. I think what keeps me from falling too deeply into the Hate Work abyss is that I hate more the person I am when I'm not working. I feel awful, guilty, anxious. I'm curious about what kind of coping mechanisms Logan has to deal with her depression now that she can't spend money. Something that's not quite as active as going for a run, but not bed or the bar. Also, if it helps, I so look forward to Logan's longer essays. They're funny and real and sad and amazing.
I think Claire might have to meet him half way on the subject of a budget. Unemployment gnaws at you and makes every expenditure look frivolous. The fact is that until he gets a job, he likely won't feel good about eating meals on her dime because it will just intensify his anxiety. Perhaps she can agree to the idea of a budget and insist on a going out budget being part of that. This means that regardless of how tight things are she still put X dollars towards that budget. That might be a way of reaching some kind of peace. And they're both going to have to come to terms that, for her, being with him is going to mean being a bit more frugal than she otherwise would be, and, for him, being with her is going to mean spending a few dollars on a night out on a semi-regular basis. That's how relationships work.
English majors are smack dab in the middle of the unemployment spectrum here http://journalistsresource.org/studies/society/education/college-majors-employment-sciences-vs-humanities-data. Only 1% higher than computer science majors and accounting. This is also two years out of date. Not to mention the fact that MBA programs and the like are complaining that students are coming in with little to no writing or analytical skills. If you're thinking of getting into something like publishing yeah jobs prospects are slim, but that doesn't mean English majors are unemployable dreamers with no skills.
@WayDownSouth: one might argue that running out of money 2 DAYS before her next paycheck as opposed to 2 WEEKS before--as was often the case in the past--shows considerable improvement.
I think when we're younger we dread committing to particular tracks because 1) we're afraid of making the wrong decisions because see friends and family members locked into jobs that they hate and 2) we have this sense that we should feel irresistibly called to our vocations as though we were priests or nuns. Writing is a particularly hard thing to commit to because it's difficult and demanding. It's not something you ever master. You can write one amazing thing one week and the next thing you write will be absolute crap. I think the decision to go to grad school was less a question of "What do I want to be when I grow up?" and more of, "What do I want my life to look like?' For better or for worse, an academic setting suited me. And yet, that could change too. If I get sick of it, if I don't get tenure, if I get married, all of these things could change that picture of what I want my life to look like.