@LDW payed-paid. Hello afternoon brain :P
@Kimberly Alison I think that's oversimplifying the logic. It's more along the lines of, "I'm cutting your pay because, due to the fact that you have a penis, your pay has been artificially inflated to keep a structurally sexist pay structure in place." It's hardcore but it addresses an aspect of unequal pay that doesn't often get addressed. It's not simply that women are under-payed but that men are often over-payed. Let the MRAs howl.
This may have to do with iron absorption and vitamin d deficiencies issues a lot of women face on a vegan diet. This is NOT to say that it's impossible, but if you're borderline anemic or dealing with bone issues, it can be a bit harder to do vegan. Being tough has nothing to do with it. Bodies are different.
This is amazing. Truly, thank you for sharing
@madrassoup Here, here! Logan's long form pieces are the ones I've missed the most and I do hope that you have time to write a few when you get more acclimated to your new job. There are a lot of people writing about debt and broke-ness out there, but this site has created its own aesthetic surrounding writing about money that I find at once relate-able and enjoyable to read. Logan, you've been essential to that aesthetic and I think we all owe you a debt of gratitude.
@beastlyburden There is also a false binary in the thinking here. Work is either grinding and awful or it’s fulfilling but underpaid. Either the author really believes that, or he uses it to justify not thinking outside the box. In any case, it smacks of immaturity to me. Grownups brainstorm solutions that come the closest to being good for both people rather than shrug and go back to building fruit baskets.
@WriteBikeBobbi I think the main worry is that the author expresses very little willingness to do what you did and take on the burden of doing something hates to give his partner a break. Yes they are figuring it out, but at the moment the dynamic comes across as problematic.
This dynamic doesn't seem sustainable in the long run. I'm all for not wanting to be an office drone merely for the sake of financial equity in a relationship, but at a certain point the author's love of freedom is going to run smack into what's best for the relationship. The burden of being the primary breadwinner by working at a very demanding job can really wear on a person.
I'm in the process of trying to furnish and decorate my new place, so I'm not quite willing to call out the wife as silly (anyone else get a whiff of "women be shopping" there?). One of the more interesting things I've experienced is that figuring out what a room "needs" tends to raise these questions about practical versus frivolous choices. Does any one really "need" a buffet just because it takes care of that odd empty spot at the end of the dining room? No but then I still have an odd empty spot at the end of a dining room that bothers me for reasons I don't quite care to admit to. Just having dining room feels decadent after nearly a decade of eating at my desk while watching Hulu. I'm assuming this is the item she's talking about: http://www.potterybarn.com/products/modular-bar-system-with-wine-hutchopen-hutch-su13/?pkey=cbars-furniture&cm_src=bars-furniture||NoFacet-_-NoFacet-_--_- And, yeah I'm not quite on board with this either mostly because I think there are cheaper and more aesthetically pleasing ways to go. But if you collect and drink wine, having something like a wine hutch really isn't all that silly. I recently started making sure I had a nicely stocked wine rack so that I wouldn't constantly be running to the overpriced wine shop near me whenever I had to show up at someone's house for dinner.
Lots of dentist hate out there. On the one hand, I totally get it. When I was four I chipped my tooth and ended up at the mercy of a man who'd never worked with children and extracted without any anaesthesia! That said I also had lovely dentists after that. It wasn't until I got braces that I begin to really dread anyone poking around my mouth. When I was in college I spent a year calling alumni for donations. Calling dental school alumni was really interesting. They hated giving back to the school, and were all too happy to tell you exactly why. But they weren't jerks about it. Instead they seemed incredibly frustrated both with the expensive training and the constant sense that people just don't like dentists. I don't know if this jives with @JoeSchmoe's experience, and it certainly doesn't make me any less anxious about seeing the dentist, but I would definitely like to hear more.