On Two Weddings, One Summer

Who doesn't have a vegetarian option at their wedding in 2014? Vegan I can understand because that's harder to accommodate, but it's lame that you were not fed at either of these weddings.

Posted on August 29, 2014 at 10:57 am 1

On The Cost of Things: One Year of Breastfeeding

@julebsorry Right there with ya - I am due in four weeks and while I am going to give breast feeding a shot since some people claim it is "cheap" and "easy" and "amazing," it just doesn't add up for me when you bring in the physical, emotional and time related costs that this article briefly mentions. As to whether formula is really that much worse, there was a really interesting study lately that for the first time looked at discordant sibling pairs over time - meaning same families, same genetics, but one kid was breastfed while the other kid was formula fed. The difference in health, IQ, etc. (all those things that breast is best touts) were truly negligible when you looked at the two differently fed kids from the same parental DNA, raised in the same environment. Slate covered it here: http://www.slate.com/blogs/xx_factor/2014/02/27/breast_feeding_study_benefits_of_breast_over_bottle_have_been_exaggerated.html.

Posted on August 28, 2014 at 4:24 pm 0

On Considering Our Retirements

@Stina That's a really interesting point about that this is what LGBT couples have been doing for so long... I actually had a conversation recently with my boss who has been with her partner for 30 years now that gay marriage has been legalized in our state, and she said they're not sure they'll ever get officially married because they've spent their whole lives working outside the system and setting up their finances, taxes, insurance, retirement, etc. accordingly that it would be a giant headache to start over and restructure everything.

Posted on August 26, 2014 at 1:21 pm 3

On I'd Do Any One Thing For Love (But I Won't Do That)

@Miss Kitty Fantastico Fuck yeah for remission and normal personhood!!

Posted on August 21, 2014 at 2:36 pm 0

On I'd Do Any One Thing For Love (But I Won't Do That)

So my one thing last week was to get spare keys made (a) for my office (as a favor) and (b) for our apartment so friends and family helping us with the whole new baby thing could get into our place. Spent an hour at Home Depot on Sunday getting the keys made and came home feeling SO ACCOMPLISHED... until I brought the keys into work on Tuesday and every. single. key. did. not. work. I haven't tested the apartment keys yet because the thought of them screwing up all of our orders is still too much to bear at 34 1/2 weeks pregnant. So my one thing this weekend is to go back to Home Depot and politely raise hell and deal with Keysapalooza 2014 Redux.

Posted on August 21, 2014 at 2:01 pm 0

On Saying "No I Can't" Because of Money

@hollanding If the bride/groom/wedding planner is doing their job correctly, the RSVP deadline should be when head counts are due to vendors like the caterers, so as long as you hit the deadline you did not do the bigger faux pas of saying you were going to come, costing the couple $150 a plate, and then flaking out at the last minute.

Posted on August 19, 2014 at 4:48 pm 0

On And Here Is Your Open Thread

I am posting here because it seems a little obnoxious for Facebook et all but I'm really excited and want to be able to see this in print somewhere and share it - my husband and I just paid off all of our credit card debt that has been lingering around for the last few years. A month and a half before our first baby is due. I have never been so happy to see $0 balances in my life!

Posted on August 15, 2014 at 6:54 pm 3

On Rejecting Money

@madrassoup I believe PayPal took away their free "gift" payment option for money transfers recently... I used it last year for a bachelorette weekend I planned and when I went to use it again in PayPal I couldn't without my friends being charged a fee, so I switched to Venmo.

Posted on August 13, 2014 at 12:26 pm 0

On Everything I Needed to Know About Money I Did Not Learn in Kindergarten

@Heather F G Yes I love the term "freelance chores" - in retrospect, as a soon to be parent, I realize it also allows the parent (boss) to put a premium on the work they would least like to do to motivate the kids to do it for you. I made much less clearing the table after dinner every night vs. mowing the lawn once a week, a chore both my parents loathe so much that they hired a professional lawn service about two weeks after I left from college.

Posted on August 7, 2014 at 2:33 pm 0

On Everything I Needed to Know About Money I Did Not Learn in Kindergarten

I am so thankful to my parents (primarily my dad just because that's who the financial piece of the household fell to) for the financial tools they gave me, especially after marrying someone whose parents followed the path of giving them $20 here and there whenever they needed it without any thought to budgets, saving, etc. My dad sat me down some time around when I was 12 and helped me make out a budget of my expenses for the year in Excel. We covered makeup, toiletries (not toilet paper, that would just be cruel), clothes, gifts for friends, going out, etc. I proposed a budget I considered "fair" and we negotiated from that a twice weekly allowance, which was to cover everything from buying myself shampoo to going to the movies with friends. If I wanted more money, I had to bring it in myself, mostly via babysitting and tutoring gigs, but also by taking on more duties around the house like mowing the lawn at a rate set by my parents. This continued until I graduated from college. My dad and I would meet annually to go over an updated, proposed budget I put together, and use that to settle a fair bi-weekly allowance which my dad direct deposited into a debit card in my name, but underneath my parent's account. I basically knew how to manage a "paycheck" years before my friends did, and learned skills like "drug store makeup can be cheap AND awesome" and "buy clothes on sale, dummy" early on. It taught me the value of money, which I think was especially important because for big things, my parents did spoil me. I got a new car that I was allowed to help pick out on a set budget from my parents when I turned 16 (nothing fancy, but because I knew I would have to cover gas, maintenance and repairs I went with a cost effective Honda Civic that I kept for 10 years) and I was told early on to go to whatever college I wanted to and tuition would be covered. I really hope to replicate this with my kids, because it is so clear to me that this put me miles ahead of a lot of my peers when it came to financial management and household budgeting. The only they they didn't emphasize as much was savings, I think because that's where they felt "kids should be kids" and where they enjoyed me being able to have/buy things they didn't as kids. And props to my mom for telling me to always have an emergency $20 tucked into my wallet. That thing has gotten me out of so many jams in my lifetime. Way more than AAA has.

Posted on August 7, 2014 at 2:01 pm 0