I don't answer the phone from unknown numbers either. If it's important, they'll leave a message. Since I have found that ignoring calls does get me called repeatedly, I use my cell phone's reject function so that it doesn't even ring when they call, just auto-rejects. I can see later that there was a call, but it doesn't annoy me the way that the constant calling used to.
Props to you for doing this (I guess?) but this trip sounds like my idea of a nightmare. I would have taken the adulthood and been done with it.
@WayDownSouth It's not strictly a quota, in that shows don't explicitly HAVE to employ a certain number of men/women/minorities/etc. Many times these writers rooms ARE very, very white and very, very male. But as with so many cases, diversity is a data point that employers love to toot their own horn about, so there is a certain amount of conscious effort into trying to get other candidates in the door. This is, however, a double-edged sword -- I can't tell you how many times I've heard, "I tried to get you a meeting with this show but they already have a woman on staff" or "They just hired an Asian last year so your chances aren't great." Like they've done their duty and now that obligation has been met. I have never felt more like a token minority than I have in Hollywood, that's for sure. Some shows will look favorably on having a studio program pay the diversity candidate's salary (making it a "free" hire for the show), and other shows will look down on that as being a duty hire, like having an undesirable employee foisted upon you that you just have to live with. There are a lot of good and bad things that come with the territory, but at the end of the day I guess I'd rather the programs exist than not.
@WayDownSouth I don't think this writing team is trying to take unfair advantage of the system. I think the TV industry is better for having these diversity programs in the first place, and it would be much more unfair to deny them a chance to be part of one because half the team is white than to include them because half the team is a minority. By the way, not that it should make a difference, but I am an Asian woman who has taken part in two of these programs myself. Yes, the industry is overwhelmingly white and male, but I have no problem with a team of this nature taking a coveted slot in one of the programs -- granted, of course, that they got in on the basis of being kickass writers with awesome spec material.
@um I think you're being a little harsh here. In TV writing, a team is treated as one entity -- so the salary that one writer would get paid, a team has to split. They take up one "slot" in a writing room, not two. So a team where one member is a minority does qualify for diversity programs. Think of it more like one person being biracial -- you couldn't tell a half-white, half-Asian woman that her whiteness invalidated her Asianness, could you?
I totally understand that people want to be responsible with their money and only spend what they have in the bank, but I also find it super condescending and also counterproductive to get up on a high horse about how using cash is the ONLY good way to buy things. First of all, using your debit card for day-to-day purchases can carry risks too, and when you find your card stolen or are in a dispute over a bad purchase, you're stuck in ways that you wouldn't be with a credit card, which offers protections and allows chargebacks. I've had friends who've been overcharged mistakenly for purchases on debit (decimal point shifted over a place), which overdrew their bank account, accrued bank fees, and made them broke for weeks until the charge could be reversed. So when I have the choice I use my credit card, get rewards points, and buy myself "free" ebooks on Amazon with those points as a treat every few months. I use my credit card all the time and I'm incredibly responsible about it, and having good credit has benefited my life more than having no credit. I realize this doesn't work for everyone. But there's no point in sneering at someone who chooses to use their money differently.
@i'llnamemypuppyavonbarks Interesting that that's a way to stop the questioning! I need to think of an answer that will do that for times when I don't care to elaborate. I love what I do but sometimes I don't want to get into a whole long explanation about it, and when you say "I'm a writer" people will ALWAYS ask more. I'm a bad liar so I haven't figured out a way to deflect, but maybe I should just say "I'm an accountant" or something.
I remember reading the comment in the original post and having a light bulb moment. I am more of the type who likes to *think* having the perfect appliance would make me into that other person I want to be, so it actually helped get rid of some shopper's envy for me. I do not need those things! They will not make me suddenly domestic!
Yessss. I would pay down credit card debt asap but the need for liquidity is why I never feel bad about not paying down my student loans or mortgage faster than I need to.
This is SO RELEVANT to my interests. I have literally been on the hunt for a good leather jacket (would be my first ever) for months, and because it would be a splurge on something quality I need it to be PERFECT. I am okay buying multiple other types of jackets but if I do leather it has to be The One. But all the real, good quality leather jackets aren't exactly the style I want, and I found the jacket online that IS the style I want but it's faux! (At $120 it is too expensive to employ the "oh it's fake so it's cheap" rationale.) So I have been hesitating on pulling the trigger for weeks now. Every day I will stare at the shopping cart, wondering whether to hit "buy." This post has helped me feel less abnormal about it but has not helped in making a decision!