@stuffisthings Claire was my high school French class name, and I am very fond of it. You don't hear it too much, so it's unique, but it's not like..."Apple" unique.
@stuffisthings Survival of the fittest! Talent agencies in LA pay minimum wage for a mail room job for agents starting out, with no benefits for a few years after that. Perfect training grounds. I can't hang. :(
Loved this, thank you for writing. Do you ever experience twinges of oh, I wish I could have continued with the opera?
I had the choice between a finance internship, paid and very well at that, or an unpaid internship with an NGO in DC. Both internships were out of state, but one would pay my costs plus some for the summer and the other one, I'd have to take out loans for, or ask my parents for help. It was a hard decision because I had wanted to go into public policy, but in the end, it just wasn't a practical decision for me. Pay to play, indeed.
@tinygirl Ack! But now I'm thinking about it more (also procrastinating on work right now, so apologies for filling up this comment section) but instead of children, had the author written about (insert something else that costs money) like a dog, which I totally and completely DO want, I don't think I would have felt this annoyed. Sure, the piece would still be kind of pointless to me (and how do you not want a dog?) but I don't think I would had so many criticisms. Even if I'd rather have a dog than JCrew. So apparently I do have more subconscious/internalized feelings on decisions to have children than I thought, and will be more mindful of my comments in the future (and obviously be less judge-y/figure out why I feel this way).
@tinygirl Noo no no! Please don't feel that way, or if I was one of the commenters who made you feel that way, I am truly sorry. It's only been the past year that I've decided maybe having a kid wouldn't be the WORST thing ever. And then I look at my savings account and think how nicely I'm chugging along - and realize how quickly and utterly a child would derail that, and it's terrifying. For me, the reason I was annoyed by the piece wasn't about her decision on whether or not to have a child, but rather that it just seemed...a poor argument. Had she said, "I just don't want kids. Here is what I bought instead," I would have applauded her. But her point that having kids makes you poor like her parents was during her childhood is lost, not only because she IS making more than them, and therefore not them, but also because now they're off in a time-share and have lots of money. So having kids didn't really make them poor in the long run? Anyway, the point is - from one anonymous Internet commenter to another, I am deeply sorry if any of my comments hurt you.
@stuffisthings Thank you!
@stuffisthings Ha! By the way, I always get emigrant and immigrant confused. If I came from another country to live in this one, am I an emigrant?
@honey cowl When I was 8 or 9, I told my (immigrant, very poor at the time) parents I wanted to be an artist/writer, and they told me that while I was very talented, I should just be a lawyer instead because they make more money. I wonder what people in my generation (27 years old) will tell their kids to be someday?