I got work news today that was both unexpected and expected and I can not elaborate further (I will remain employed for at least the next year, so it's not that). BUT. I will probably eat some feelings for lunch. I'll say $10 for that. Tonight: taking the Little Sister trick or treating for the last time. Whomp whomp. I am way sad this is the last year. But she'll be in high school next year, which, in my book at least, is a no. She can go with her friends then if she wants. At any rate, the candy will be free and plentiful. We'll probably also grab dinner after (I'll say $40 for myself, husband, and the LS). Tomorrow: SIL is having a baby shower. I've already bought the gift but still need to get wrapping paper and a card (I'll say $12 for that). I'm also taking the LS and her older sister, so that means renting a zipcar ($60). Then we're possibly doing dinner with my parents who are in town still, so I'll say $50 for that. Sunday: probably going to pay my respects to Mayor Mumbles. Will likely grab brunch after ($60 for husband and self). Then that night is my parents 40th Anniversary dinner. It'll be at the Marliarve, which is a now fancy restaurant downtown. It is one of hte oldest in Boston and - FUN FACT ALERT - my dad's father used to be a busboy there in the 1930s. He also used to steal the silverware for kicks. We have several place settings worth, which we discovered a few years ago when moving my Nonna out of her house and into assisted living. "Nonna, why do have this random box filled with silverware?" "OH! Let me tell you about that" :\ At any rate, this will be spendy. I'll estimate $150 for it. Total: *sobs*
@PicNic - If there are no presents, then what you're doing is eating cake. WHICH MEANS CAKE. But to answer your first question, no you do not have to go. It is totally fine to take a pass and/or feign illness. Just couple it with an invite to hang out at a later date - ie "Hey so-and-so, I'm not feeling that well and I know the last thing you want is a sick two year old, so I'm going to have to take a pass on the party. I'd love to hang out with you both next weekend for coffee (or whatever)!" If you do decide you need to go, I would not bring a gift per say, but I would bring something small for the kiddo like a book or something along that line.
@chevyvan - Really? My husband and I are both grandfathered into the unlimited data plan on AT&T and we've never once gotten a call from them. I don't know. I can't say that I've noticed slow speeds on my phone ever. But I'm not one to stream movies on it or anything. I probably don't have much need for unlimited data but I have it, so they can pry it out of my cold dead hands.
Ah. Friday estimate. It was going to be a spendy weekend for several reasons but then a life event happened and now it will be spendy for different reasons. My Nonna passed away on Tuesday afternoon. It was not unexpected as she was 97 and in failing health but I shall miss her greatly. She was a real live wire once she decided she no longer needed to filter her thoughts. So tonight is a pre-planned dinner and movie (Gone Girl) at the new Assembly Sq place in Somerville (like a big outdoor outlet mall with restaurants and a movie theater and apartments). I'll be heading there directly after work to see about finding a dress to wear to the wake or funeral. I won't estimate for this because I have enough clothes to make it work if I don't find something, so I might spend nothing. Movie is paid for ($27 for husband and self). Husband will likely pay for dinner ($50 for the two of us). Tomorrow: parents get into town. Will likely facetime with Little Sister to go over test prep for the ISEE (exam you take to get into the exam high schools in Boston) until I head over to my brother's for dinner. I'll say $30 towards the cost of takeout. Sunday: we'll eat breakfast at home and then head to the wake. I'm assuming there will be dinner afterwards, but I don't actually know the details so I won't estimate. So looks to be $80ish with the possibility of more.
This letter! I read it earlier today and have been ranting about it in my head ever since! I take the Little Sister (and once upon a time her older sister) trick or treating in Beacon Hill every year. She gets TONS of candy. And she most certainly does not live there, nor do most of the kids roaming the streets. And do you know why we go there? Besides the fact that it's all crazy decorated? Because when I first met her, she lived in a horrible housing project where someone was stabbed right outside her door and a puddle of blood stayed there for a few days, leaving a permanent stain. There was no trick or treating where she lived. It was the very definition of not safe. And before I took her to Beacon Hill, she'd never gone trick or treating. Hell, the first year I took her she didn't really even have an actual costume because it somehow didn't occur to me that her mom wouldn't be able to buy/make her one. We got a mask of the dude from Scream from CVS, she wore all black, we called it good. The best part was at the end of the night. It was freakishly warm that year and she's sitting on a park bench in the Common rooting through her candy. She looks up all the sudden and goes "my hands are in candy. I'm so happy right now".
@MrDean - and this is rapidly becoming Boston. They're building new housing but it's not nearly enough and it's almost uniformly luxury high rises. There is rapidly becoming nothing affordable for anyone other than the super well off.
@hoorayllamas - there was a great article in the Boston Globe today about mental healthcare in this country. It's behind a paywall but the basic take away was the old system of asylums was horrific in a lot of ways but replacing that with private for-profit companies did nothing good. It just placed the burden of the problem on the most vulnerable members of society - the poor. The wealthy can afford to pay for the services they need but the poor can't. And so we are where we are today.
I couldn't live away from the ocean. Every time I think about moving somewhere else, it always comes back to that.
I'm with you, Mike. I'd never pay to make a reservation and I prefer to wait until the hype has died down as well. Last year a restaurant called Ribelle opened in Brookline and it was impossible to get a reservation there. So I just haven't eaten there. I'll finally get around to it in December, when my lady friends and I do our annual holiday dinner.