"instant noodles with hot dogs cut up into it, or Kraft macaroni and cheese dinners, or plain white rice with scrambled eggs" Oh, wow, Mike. We had the same meals. Less KD, but more of the rice with fried eggs, and a bit of soy sauce. I still make this on weekends when I'm by myself. My parents didn't get to just ask for more money either. It's sobering to know not everyone has this luxury.
Slick, Mike. I was brought up to basically start choking the other person until they pass out and you can grab the bill.
Yep, I'm that customer. If I pay for my coffee, I feel like I should have a chance to get off my feet (or at the VERY least, have a nice counter area to lean on, and preferably not just facing a wall). I walk out of packed places now unless I know I can find a park nearby.
@Meaghano I wonder how much of that is simply the silliness of demanding a college degree of a healthy egg. Some people seem to continue to conflate education with genetic intelligence. They also seem to fail to consider that many were able to get an education through external factors of wealth, privilege, and luck -- not to mention the usual social forces/expectations, personal will, etc.
@HelloTheFuture Thumbs-up here for the toaster oven too. Uses less energy, totally fine for one, even two people. Ours cost $30 (Black and Decker, I think?). If you need to boil water, get an electric kettle!
The soap thing is super, super gross. Bar soap kind of grosses me out in general, but having it non-consensually shared it is THE WORST. Don't buy TP for $13 a pack!!! You can get even the pretty good stuff for $5-8 when it's on sale, unless you need cashmere 4-ply extra quilted (which we don't use because it easily clogs the toilet, haha). If you have the extra $$, stock up when it's on sale, which is just regular enough for you to remember to buy it for the future. You'll always need TP, you just flush it down the toilet anyway, and you never want to run out, so why not have extra around? Our apartment is not tiny but it's not big either, so we usually have maybe 2 extra 12-packs lying around.
@grog Hmm, maybe ... but we use TP to wipe off the counter, etc. We probably buy a pack of 12 every 6-8 weeks? Man, I don't actually know! 3 rolls a month for FOUR PEOPLE seems kind of crazy low to me.
Not really surprised about razors. Razor blade refills are $$$$$$$.
Ugh I deleted my comment ... but I just wanted to point out that if I were the stay at home, I'd have a hard time making my spouse take a lot of night work. He works a 9-hour day, minus commuting and unexpected OT (which happens frequently), and he'd have to get up the next day. Also, are your calculations including any sleep? :) If you work/commute 60 hours a week and sleep 8 hours a night (which is lucky!), that's 116 hours out of the 168 hours you point out. So that's really 52 hours left for parenting. Those 52 hours, of course, does not include household work (which hopefully even as the working parent you're still doing ... be it cooking, laundry, cleaning, groceries, etc), morning routines (mine takes 1 hour each morning because I'm slow to get out of bed), and leisure time. That's also assuming your commute is what I consider manageable ... I've known some people who drive 2-4 hours A DAY for work, which is insane to me. That's also assuming work takes up 60 hours ... if you work in academia or many other industries, taking work home or working weekend or evening OT is incredibly common. My partner works in an industry where it's common to be asked to work weekends or long evenings. He's had colleagues sleep at the office when there are tight deadlines. I'm not disagreeing that fatherhood is an incredibly important issue, but it's also complex, affected by ability, desire, will, and external limitations. Breaking it down like "you have X number of hours to parent!" is a little simple and more than a bit unfair.