On Ask The Grindstone: How Do I Manage People Who Aren't Turning in Good Work?

Thanks for mentioning the class you took. I asked for some management training when I was first promoted and was sent to a super bizarre 2 day class where we learned that the presenter liked to spend 15 minutes a day in the mirror practicing his "confident" pose and that he read leadership books while pooping.

Posted on January 29, 2015 at 11:19 am 0

On Our Debt to Our Parents

@RachelW Oh I don't think Mike even wrote it, I think he was quoting. I also wasn't offended, I just disagree. And I don't disagree that good parents are more likely to have good relationships, I just didn't like the thought with out the "likely" bit included.

Posted on January 29, 2015 at 10:50 am 0

On Our Debt to Our Parents

I want to disagree with this statement: Likewise with people who have been good parents, fate often decrees that their children are the people best placed to help. If as children we find ourselves in that position, we may not be able to give exactly what our parents want — but to give nothing at all would be callous. It does not logically follow that good parents = children that can take care of them, and the opposite is also not necessarily true. If you can take care of your parents that doesn't' mean it's because they were good parents. I know plenty of nice, honest hard working people who have one sibling that just never seemed to get their life together. Were they parented differently? Maybe, maybe not.

Posted on January 29, 2015 at 10:18 am 0

On City vs. Suburb

@Elsajeni I feel you on this. I live in city limits of a tiny city. About 90,000 people. I get what I consider all the benefits of living in a "city" - I can walk to a handful of corner markets and restaurants, and easily bike to bigger stores, the beach, a million more restaurants and bars and theaters and shops and all of the things people want accessible. I also own a single family detached house from the 20's with a small yard and don't have access to decent public transportation. Is it a city? The suburbs?

Posted on January 28, 2015 at 3:35 pm 0

On The Cost of Feeding Myself On Travel

@ronswansonluva The next level up is little bottles of booze in your bag of allowed liquids.

Posted on January 28, 2015 at 3:15 pm 2

On City vs. Suburb

@Lily Rowan At least it was an immediate tip off that they weren't worth dating anymore.

Posted on January 28, 2015 at 11:46 am 1

On Spiritually Bankrupt: How I Went Broke Trying To Teach Yoga

@Samantha It seems like you can't make it work. My mom is a yoga teacher and has done all of that training and more. She also has never made enough money at it to stop selling real estate. It sounds similar to the job coaching piece that was on her a few months ago. The people who make money off of it are the people running the "how to be an _____" certification classes. I imagine that studio owners are making a liveable wage as well, but they can also sell clothes, teach their own classes and collect most of the cash coming in from students.

Posted on January 28, 2015 at 11:41 am 1

On Hot Takes For A Snow Day: "Idle Hands Spend Money," Sandra Day O'Connor, Jennifer Senior, & More

@TheDilettantista I really like that story, thanks for sharing it.

Posted on January 27, 2015 at 4:42 pm 0

On Hot Takes For A Snow Day: "Idle Hands Spend Money," Sandra Day O'Connor, Jennifer Senior, & More

I would love to read something from the perspective of a live in nanny who's been with a family for years. Is it worth the money? What's the typical person that does it? I always assume it's a woman - I've never heard of a live in male nanny. Is it something you do after your kids are grown and out of the house? Are you single or can your partner live there as well? It's totally outside my area of experience and fascinating.

Posted on January 27, 2015 at 12:09 pm 0

On Fixing the Hiring Process

When I hire people I just try to figure two things out. 1. Do I think you're lying about anything on your resume? Are you lying so much that you won't be able to do the job I'm hiring you for? 2. Does it seem like I can put up with you all the time? I only hire people I have to work with or supervise so it's a big deal if you're gonna be a headache. It follows that part of #2 is also "does it seem like you'll be able to fit in with the people you'll be working with"

Posted on January 27, 2015 at 11:01 am 0