Congrats on the kiddo! Ours is still cooking (23 weeks), and the most economical thing I've found to do re: accumulating baby stuff is to get it USED. Craigslist, or, if you're lucky, a local community Mommy Selling/Trading Facebook thing like we have in our town. I've bought the kid pretty much all the clothing he'll need for his first year of life, along with bassinet, toys, bouncy swing/seat/whatever, from other people. Does this make me a bad mom, though he's not even out of the womb yet? Hells no! He'll thank me when he sees he has a college fund. I'm going to try to breastfeed, because formula? Ooooh, it's expensive. Just hope the boy, and the boobs, cooperate.
I'm laying low this weekend. Husband is working overnights, I have painting to do (paint already purchased, yay), and it's snowing. I'm going to grocery shop ($100) and make some soups, and pick up some used baby clothing items ($25) since that's how I'm accumulating most of what we need for the coming kiddo. Plus have a dermatology visit Monday morning ($95, ouch). Good thing snuggling on the couch with the cats and watching a Netflix show are free!
@highjump I don't disagree at all; it's not an ideal situation, being an adjunct. And compensation is lacking, to say the least. And I know more than one prof grossly abusing tenure; that's the reason I have extra classes this semester (they bail on them a couple weeks before the semester and leave the department chair to figure it out). It's hard to do well by every student all the time, under the best of circumstances - especially difficult for adjuncts. Not every teacher can be flexible as to when they're available or how much extra (unpaid) time they can invest.
@limenotapple I beg to differ. I'm an adjunct. I hold office hours weekly without fail, for more than the required period of time; I conference with my students twice a semester; I return papers the class period following when they were due, (and these are writing classes, which means a lot of reading and responding for me) and I email/text with my students whenever they need. It's exhausting. But the sweeping generalization that adjuncts are less available is not accurate. And not all work at many different schools, either.
@polka dots vs stripes ragazza is right, you can find good used stuff at thrift shops, or wait until an end-of-season sale when gear shops are wanting to get rid of stuff (that's what I did). Get the kind that don't require wax, though - the wax is expensive. I'd rent first to see if you like how it feels. Not sure where you are geographically, but a lot of golf courses become cross-country spots in the winter. Beginning on groomed trails helps a lot.
Amen. We live 20 minutes from a major Colorado ski area, but I do not downhill nor will I ever pay $800+ for a season pass. I take my cross-country skis to a free outdoor area and enjoy myself much more (and have a much smaller chance of breaking my neck - bonus!)
@E$ Everyone says the "there's never an ideal time" and "you're never really ready" and I suppose that's true, but there are definitely better times than others to go for it.
@bowtiesarecool I've worked mostly in the under-50 nonprofit sector as well. My bosses said "you could have six weeks we suppose." I couldn't imagine putting a six-week old in daycare, or feeling well enough to return to work after that amount of time. And daycare costs would have taken my entire paycheck. I understand your stress, with the kid issue. I'm 34 and we are just going for it now because we can (mostly) afford to, which was not the case for the first five years of our marriage. If my husband didn't have a good job and medical benefits, I couldn't have left the last job and do what I do now (contract creative writing teacher at the local college, ZERO benefits, paltry salary, but I love it). The FMLA does fall short in many ways. But if you have a few years to make it happen, perhaps you can save enough to get by those 3 months? Find an affordable childcare option? It's all incredibly overwhelming.
I am five months pregnant. I was told by my employer "We don't really have a maternity leave policy. We certainly don't pay for maternity leave. And you couldn't really be gone three months anyway." Because they're a company smaller than 50 people, the FMLA doesn't apply. At a larger company, such statements would have been illegal. I resigned, but if I was not in a place to do so, what would my options have been? Just 12% of Americans receive paid time off? Pitiful.
@andnowlights My husband attended medical school and loves his job. But he's not one of those mega-buck earning docs (and we're fine with that) so it's just going to take us a lot longer to dig out of the hole. Worth it for a job he loves, even though we still live like we're in residency some months, because we'd rather pay back the debt :)