On Who's Taking Care of Your Baby?

@vanderlyn If you can't understand that parenting and children are more complex calculations to me than the resources they may or may not use, this conversation is over.

Posted on October 1, 2014 at 5:20 pm 0

On Who's Taking Care of Your Baby?

@Ester Bloom Special thanks for #3. Parents have definitely heard the just adopt/what a waste/why tho? perspective before.

Posted on October 1, 2014 at 4:55 pm 0

On Who's Taking Care of Your Baby?

@vanderlyn Please tell me where these unwanted children are. And when you find them, why it is the right thing for them to be ripped from their birth parents and birth culture to be raised by someone else. Because if you've ever spent a minute interacting with the foster care system you would know it is a lot more complicated than picking out a kid from a website. Most children available for adoption in the US are over six and/or special needs and/or part of a sibling set that needs to get placed together. Are you going to provide the sick time I need to take my traumatized four year old to two family visits a week plus therapy for their PTSD and verbal processing disorder? How do you propose to balance the right of the birth parents to parent their child with both the long term welfare of that child and the immediate need for that child to be cared for? This is adoption triad thing is complex, heartbreaking stuff. Lack of permanency, termination of parental rights, adoptee anger. And international adoption is a mess, waves of corruption have all but (rightly) shut most programs down. The only program really moving anymore is China special needs. Again, more resources required, more time off, more accommodations. And this is not about having the perfect child, it is about having a family that makes sense for your life. If you are just questioning someone's base desire to parent, perhaps because you don't have that same desire yourself, you just need to accept that people have different wants than you. I don't really know how to explain my intrinsic desire to be a parent to you, and I don't have to. In the same way that you would (hopefully) respect someone's decision to terminate a pregnancy you should respect someone's desire to be a parent. You're on the internet. Do some googling (UNICEF, Hauge Treaty, UN rights of the child) and read some blogs (angry adoptee, fosterhood, fosterwee) and familiarize yourself with the reproductive justice paradigm that goes far beyond choice. And please stop dehumanizing people, particularly children, as resource usage.

Posted on October 1, 2014 at 4:53 pm 0

On Fall Haul

@notnefkat YEP. I don't like most of American Apparel's ads but I like that their clothing is made in safe conditions by people making a decent wage. I mean, would a reasonable person say out loud "But GAP's holiday ads are so cute, I just don't care that those clothes are made by children in unsafe conditions"

Posted on October 1, 2014 at 10:35 am 1

On Let’s Throw Some Money at Our Problems: September 2014 Check-in

In July I was considering buying a condo but I've pulled back from that idea and decided to focus on my student loans. I might be moving to a different place (one where I hopefully have my own bathroom, like a queen!) when my lease is up though. I am also very very very close to a positive net worth. I'm calculating it again on the 10th and I juuuuuust might make it. I'm targeting an ACS PLUS Loan: my dad took this out for me when I was in a financial aid bind, with the understanding that I would be the one paying it back, so it is a priority even though it isn't my highest balance or interest rate. I want to kill it by the end of the year. Merry Christmas Dad! 9/1 Balance: 3,811 10/1 Balance: 2,046

Posted on October 1, 2014 at 10:24 am 0

On Let’s Throw Some Money at Our Problems: September 2014 Check-in

@PicNic I was wondering how this saga was going. I was hoping for better from the CFPB, that sucks. Are you are the end of the road for getting it discharged? Can they at least remove all the fees and so on that inflated the original balance? Congrats on paying off your AES loan!

Posted on October 1, 2014 at 10:16 am 0

On Let’s Throw Some Money at Our Problems: September 2014 Check-in

@travlinggirl That's what the efund is for! At least it didn't go on credit. You'll build it back up again.

Posted on October 1, 2014 at 10:09 am 0

On Let’s Throw Some Money at Our Problems: September 2014 Check-in

@Victoria Good work. It is so satisfying to see that first number change over.

Posted on October 1, 2014 at 10:06 am 0

On Let’s Throw Some Money at Our Problems: September 2014 Check-in

@samburger That is awesome. Yay for savings anniversaries

Posted on October 1, 2014 at 10:04 am 0

On 'Submissive Students Do Not Make Good Computer Scientists'

I've been in KIPP and other "no excuses" charter schools before, as recently as the end of last school year, and I'm not trying to be dramatic but they creep me out. Very quiet, very rigid almost prison like atmosphere with a layer of cheesy slogans on top of it. Do not like, especially since they are full of black and brown children.

Posted on September 26, 2014 at 11:38 am 1