For me, this week: feed and care for baby (75% of my time), do one job application or academic task, order one christmas gift, call about one medical bill. And poof, that takes 12 hours. Our metrics change. It's hard not to measure up to what you want to do but sometimes hat's all you can do. And $1000/mo "extra" is not bad at all.
I just moved from a small, cheapish city (for the region - moderately priced for its size nationally I would guess) to a big, crazy expensive city 50 miles away. the commute was not reasonable or cheap. I really miss being able to walk to friends' houses, work, and stores, but in the big city I pay 50% more in rent and live further out from everything because to be closer, I'd have to pay 100-150% more. Day care costs around twice as much, too, so I have no idea how we'll handle that when i go back to work. There's no cultural stuff we can afford here that we couldn't find there, except for a great church. I miss my small city and look forward to moving back to one someday, unless we somehow strike it rich here.
I particularly hate the "must have children to support aging population" argument. WITH WHAT JOBS, pray tell? How many of us and our babies is it going to take to support our elders in the style to which they've become accustomed, when we're working less stable jobs with lower or stagnant pay and fewer benefits than ever? If we can't support kids how can we possibly support parents? And if we can't afford to fully fund our own retirements, how in good conscience can people encourage us to have more babies for elder care when we don't know that they'll have decent jobs either?! The self-centeredness of that kind of concern trolling just kills me.
@Elsajeni Exactly. A lot of people from my high school went into teaching because they thought there would always be jobs (we graduated high school in 2003), but for electives like music and gym, they're basically adjuncts if they can find anything now, and it's even tough to find jobs teaching core subjects in a lot of areas with serious budgetary issues.
@Galatea Yeah, who would put themselves into the "unintelligent" category? It seems to me that thinking you're smarter than the average bear is basically universal.
@TheDilettantista I don't think this should be regulated at all, but I'm at home with a baby right now and I am still in shock that the most serious, irreversible thing I've ever done didn't take any kind of permission, approval, or oversight. Adoption does, but pregnancy? Nope. Crazy. (If it did, the decision might have been "nope, not financially stable enough yet," and then I would've missed my fertility window and wound up childless, probably - career transitions are temporary, but so are one's childbearing years.)
@mbl Definitely! Everyone who is underemployed just needs to find more and better paying work, obviously. Personal responsibility!
@Sueb She's an artist, so presumably teaches art. In Philadelphia. Have you followed the news about Philly public schools recently? It's BAD, they are beyond austerity, there probably isn't huge demand for art teachers....
As adults we don't do lists (sort of too bad, I can think of tons of random house stuff I need/want at any given time)! I use my Amazon wishlist as a "to read" list for myself, and my family has found it in the past, so I usually do receive a few good books. But it's not intentional, there are just more good books to read than I have time for!
This is tough. It's a big reason I'm thinking of transitioning out of the nonprofit field I've been working in part time since college (while finishing grad school in an attempt to become competitive for a full time, salaried position - I now know those are unicorns). "Good work" jobs have big financial and time costs for the emotional payoff, and you can only live on a shoestring under certain conditions of low cost of living, which I no longer have. I really want to sell out!