On How Much More Are You Spending at the Grocery Store?

@Natalie Not if she never notices or cares :) one lime at a time seems pretty low-impact if the tree is full of htem.

Posted on August 28, 2014 at 6:12 pm 0

On How Much More Are You Spending at the Grocery Store?

My grocery costs have stayed the same for about the last 5 years, but that's because my budget has stayed the same. I buy meat as a specialty item once or twice a month, usually from more expensive and humane sources, so I haven't noticed a rise in prices. My shopping habits have changed a little in slightly cheaper ways though: I'm trying not to over-buy for more than I can cook in a week, and honestly, I have transitioned to eating a little more prepackaged food and frozen veggies and a little less fresh produce in the last few months thanks to energy and time issues.

Posted on August 28, 2014 at 6:11 pm 0

On A $455,000 Child Vs. A $145,000 Child

"Hahaha I’d be THRILLED to pay $1380 for daycare." YES. THIS. Sigh. (Posting from another major city on the east coast, obviously.) You know when people are like "it's not worth it for me to work if half my income goes to daycare"? I'm hoping to find somewhere where it's under 100%, just because otherwise we'd have to go into debt (!!!) to hold down two full-time jobs. And my husband and I don't even make minimum wage. So all of these stories lately about women getting arrested for letting their kids play on playgrounds while they work at McDonald's? I have so much sympathy, and I am so mad that they're getting arrested instead of getting help. What exactly do we expect people to do if we're going to make childcare mandatory, but not require high enough wages or enough social subsidies to make it possible?

Posted on August 28, 2014 at 6:10 pm 0

On The Cost of Things: One Year of Breastfeeding

@julebsorry @julebsorry I want to second all of this, as someone who's also expecting and not sure how well or how long breastfeeding will work with going back to work. It's very rare to see a breakdown of costs like this - I had no idea you could spend almost $100 a month (and if you'd breastfed for less than a year, it would probably average out even higher, thanks to upfront costs). Of course, I'm sure if I calculated the formula cost I would just start crying, but hearing the truth that it's not free is important.

Posted on August 28, 2014 at 5:59 pm 0

On Everyone's Born in the Summer Damn Them So What Do You Do?

Summer birthdays suck more for the people having them! I tried to invite people over to eat and hang out for my birthday this year, nothing expensive or hard on people, and all but 2 people were like "sorry! I'm out of town doing something awesome," or didn't reply to the invite at all. It was the worst failure of a birthday thing I've had in years, and I'm now thinking I should just sit at home with my husband for my 30th next year because even thinking about trying to host something for a "milestone" birthday and having nobody come makes me want to cry. Anyway, it's easy to get out of giving gifts, just say it's summer and you have something better to do.

Posted on August 20, 2014 at 4:05 pm 0

On Can Feminism and Breastfeeding Coexist, Take 2

@SkipToMyLou Even six months seems like a lot if you have to work! Maybe if you have a job with flexible hours or a private office (or a dedicated space for nursing if your employer is large enough) that's difficult but doable. But what if you're in a customer service job without any extra office space to dedicate, and with your only legal break being a lunch break? Do you just switch to formula when you head back to work, or try to fight with your bosses to give you more breaks and close off some space even though it screws up everyone else's schedule? A bunch of people have told me "oh you can pump at work!" and I'm like "....I'm really not sure how that is going to work." This capitalism thing, man, it's a drag sometimes.

Posted on August 20, 2014 at 10:09 am 0

On Saving Money Vs. Earning Money

@taylorqlee The big things are the hardest to change, though. For example, moving out of the high rent area where I live would require either spending all but $100 of the rent differential on commuting costs (plus an additional 3 hours a day), or finding one very well paid or two decently paid jobs to support a household of 3 somewhere more affordable. How do you apply the rule in cases like that? Just "move somewhere with lower rent" is not a good saving money solution if it cuts off your ability to earn income at all.

Posted on August 20, 2014 at 10:01 am 1

On It Has Been Made Clear to Me That I Cannot Have It All

This is kind of terrifying. What happens if you don't get back in time, or if the baby gets hungry early? Does he just cry or is it somehow physically dangerous? Asking...for a friend....

Posted on August 18, 2014 at 6:01 pm 0

On Saying "No I Can't" Because of Money

@kbn22 I find that kind of thing easier to decline than weddings, I guess because I feel so flattered to be invited to weddings that I usually genuinely want to make the effort and expense to go. But an expensive birthday dinner or a weekend trip? I find it very easy to say, "I'd love to, but I can't afford a trip right now," or "I wish I could, but I can't make it that night - I'll propose something soon, I'd love to hang out with you another night!" (Sometimes I think it's easier to let people think you have plans than to say "I blew my whole food budget on groceries and now I have to cook at home"). In fact, I just did the second one today....

Posted on August 18, 2014 at 5:44 pm 0

On $100 Worth of Ice Cream From a Man Named Bubby

$100 for 16 scoops of ice cream? That's over $6 per scoop! Who would pay for a $12 two-scoop ice cream? (I say this but I know that some places, the smallest size of ice cream costs $6. Sad times.) Also, Ben & Jerry's did this years ago. It's called the Vermonster. It's basically just a bucket of ice cream with a ton of toppings.

Posted on August 18, 2014 at 5:34 pm 0