I think I already follow this kind of logic. If I'm at a bar I will almost always order a beer that I am curious about or a fan of even if it's not cheap and if they don't have anything like that, I'll probably order wine or a mixed drink even though those are even more expensive. I think that's because I drink good beer at home in six-packs, so paying more than that for a pint of something worse/less interesting at a bar just seems like a disappointing waste of money. Might as well get a mixed drink I wouldn't make at home, as long as I'm out being all spendy. (At this point in my life, drinking at a bar is a treat, not a thing I do 3 times a week. I get minimizing cost if you go out a lot.)
@eatmoredumplings PS in further defense of my attempted adulthood, I have managed to save for 3 of the 4, mostly since April, through frugality and second and third jobs. It's #4 that's got me wondering if I should just give up and accept the help. (Not because there are issues in any way with the parents, just because...I really thought I could get through on my own, and I feel way too old for this.)
I'm in a situation where, despite trying to plan for emergencies and saving a pretty serious proportion of a low income, the expensive crises are all hitting within the same four month period (move + baby + finishing school and job searching + car completely breaking down less than a month after expensive repairs). My parents want to help, I don't want to accept it, but I just haven't had the means to save for all four well ahead of time. I'm not sure what the "adult" thing to do in these situations is, when the options are accept parental assistance, take out loans to pay on your own, or use up the emergency fund when you know you won't be able to replenish it in the near future.
@oiseau That's so bad! Write indeed!
I have been doing one of my one things (keep refreshing craigslist, call and email realtors, set up appointments) ALL DAY. But that means that on my real to-do list, I've only done half of the work stuff I needed to do, and skipped exercising and emailing friends to reconnect next week :/
@Josh Michtom@facebook Ah, nice, that's the way to go!
@apples and oranges I have a flip phone! I want a smartphone, and know I'll get one eventually, just trying to avoid the cost inflation for as long as humanly possible.
@Allison Dried out or overly soaked! I hate when you get the dry ones at the top of the bag, and the slimy ones sitting in water at the bottom. Also, I think the cracked ones actually taste worse, like the insides are losing freshness or something. Ate baby carrots with lunch every day all summer. Stopped two weeks ago, am attempting salad greens instead. They were just too gross.
I really hope it works out for you without more repairs for a long time! I have a 16 year old car that's required $1200 worth of work this summer (inspection and a bunch of replacement parts), and I was hoping to be done for a while, but as of last weekend, one of the cylinders stopped firing and apparently it needs a new motor. I would've liked this to happen *before* we spent $1200 on other stuff, because it may make more sense to just entirely replace the car. Another question: is it normal to find a 10 year old Prius for $3000 that isn't in terrible shape? That seems pretty good to me.
@Hermione To play devil's advocate here, Russians have very different experiences of women entering the workforce - during and after WWII it was not optional because so many men left and died, and women didn't really get the option to "stay home" under communism, so there isn't that underlying idea that women maybe don't really belong in the workforce to the same extent as in the US. Being treated like a "lady" is opposed to being treated like an "equal" here because of that idea, but they don't have to be mutually exclusive. That's not to say that there isn't sexism, Russians have different issues for sure, but the opposition between femininity and work isn't set up in exactly the same way historically and culturally.