@TheDilettantista I am totally with you on this. Disclaimer, I am not a parent (and there's a good chance I never will be), but I just wanted to throw my support behind what you're saying. I second the idea of a Billfold article on baby-feeding expenses. I remember a piece I really liked on this countering the "it's so much cheaper than formula argument" by pointing out that that is only obviously true if you value the mother's time at $0. I have no idea how expensive formula is, but I am willing to bet that your mom's hourly rate was high enough that buying formula was much cheaper than sacrificing four hours of her time per day.
@Allison Acquiring books and wine sound like excellent 1 things.
@guenna77 I think your comment really nailed exactly what bothered me about this answer: "acknowledging the disparity exists and then questioning the validity of her being upset about it." This situation is bullshit, and the letter writer should not feel like she has to just passively accept it.
@BillfoldMonkey That's an interesting theory. I also wonder if the rise of families where both spouses work play a role. Now that I think about it, a lot of the neighborly examples Mike cited are associated with stay-at-home mothers. Growing up, I know that my mom did all of the work of maintaining relationships with neighbors and community.
@appleaday Exactly, this is exactly what I came down here to say. I didn't see any mention of what else the LW is planning on doing in the next year, so why not take this in the meantime? It can't hurt to get the raise and the extra experience.
@HelloTheFuture My guess is that it's Emily Blunt in Sunshine Cleaning (she and Amy Adams are both great in it!)
I went to a college in a dry town (hi Ester!), and as such was pretty ignorant of bar culture until I was much older than 21, even though I was no stranger to drinking. I still cringe remembering the first time I ordered a drink in a bar, with a bunch of coworkers from my internship. We didn't look at menus or anything, so I asked for "a beer", and was mortified when the waitress asked if I had anything more specific in mind . . . I blurted out "Heineken" which was probably not a terrible recovery, but man I must have seemed like such a dope.
@Allison I want to shake the friend who pulled the art show back and forth! That type of thing drives me bananas.
I am perplexed by the title of the Kevin O'Learly book. It makes it sound like the premise of the book is for the advice to be gendered, but I don't see any other reference to that angle in the book descriptions or review excerpts.