Aside from all the Paypal fees, that's awesome! Congrats on making it work.
Charitable giving and linocut blocks/ink/paper. I want to be selling prints on etsy by summer.
@honey cowl Maybe it's not memorable (unless the food is terrible), but it's a kindness to keep your guests well-fed and boozed. It doesn't need to be the fanciest but it should at least be tasty.
@JNC Musings Factory I think a good photographer is important. I love having an album of beautiful photos that tell the story of my wedding day.
@TheDilettantista I had the same realization about #1 when I planned my wedding. I also had a pretty expensive wedding, but we could afford it. I had many moments of guilt and shame about this, but my fiancé would remind me that we were supporting all these small businesses and little vendors, and it was a good thing. Yes, there is a larger system that pressures people into buying what they can't afford, but I don't think a lot of the vendors are out to rob you blind (though some are). Many of them are just trying to make a living like everyone else.
I plan to be a full-on birder. The dorkier, the better.
Planned Parenthood, ASPCA and some arts organizations run by friends. I also plan to find a food bank in my new city where I can volunteer. There are a lot of hungry folks out there.
I currently have no 401K because I left my job without another one lined up, and rolled all that money into my IRA. In the past, I've just rolled 401Ks into the IRA whenever I leave a job, and then just start from scratch again, so the 401K has never gotten to 70K (I'm never there long enough). I'm not sure if that's a good idea or not? It's all in one "retirement" pool as far as I'm concerned.
The "it costs more, but isn't it worth more" argument is infuriating. It reveals a complete misunderstanding of peoples' economic realities. Or a complete disregard for those realities.
@madrassoup In the book, boss lady's marriage is fine. It seems unfair that such a mean and terrible person can still maintain a relationship, but it's also realistic. I kind of hate how the movie changed that part, because it smells like backlash.