On What We'll Do When We Stop Working

I plan to be a full-on birder. The dorkier, the better.

Posted on December 3, 2014 at 12:41 pm 2

On Giving Tuesday

Planned Parenthood, ASPCA and some arts organizations run by friends. I also plan to find a food bank in my new city where I can volunteer. There are a lot of hungry folks out there.

Posted on December 2, 2014 at 12:58 pm 0

On Women Are Saving More But Have Saved Less

I currently have no 401K because I left my job without another one lined up, and rolled all that money into my IRA. In the past, I've just rolled 401Ks into the IRA whenever I leave a job, and then just start from scratch again, so the 401K has never gotten to 70K (I'm never there long enough). I'm not sure if that's a good idea or not? It's all in one "retirement" pool as far as I'm concerned.

Posted on December 2, 2014 at 12:52 pm 0

On A Whole Foods Grows In Detroit

The "it costs more, but isn't it worth more" argument is infuriating. It reveals a complete misunderstanding of peoples' economic realities. Or a complete disregard for those realities.

Posted on November 25, 2014 at 1:04 pm 2

On Adjusting Your Life to Your Partner's Career

@madrassoup In the book, boss lady's marriage is fine. It seems unfair that such a mean and terrible person can still maintain a relationship, but it's also realistic. I kind of hate how the movie changed that part, because it smells like backlash.

Posted on November 24, 2014 at 9:15 pm 1

On Adjusting Your Life to Your Partner's Career

I think having an egalitarian relationship means that you both compromise and bend for each other, whether you're compromising over career or something else. I've witnessed so many relationships where the man won't bend at all, and in order to stay together, the woman has to give something up. The career example shows how this dynamic plays out, but the dynamic isn't necessarily always about careers. Sometimes people don't have meaningful or interesting careers, and maybe all of us* should prioritize our jobs a little less and make more room for each other. *As long as lives aren't on the line or anything.

Posted on November 24, 2014 at 6:57 pm 1

On What Do You Do All Day?

Unfortunately, many of us have NO IDEA what any career is going to be like until we try it, especially when we're young and inexperienced. At that point, we don't even know what we'll like in a workplace and what we won't. It's a process that continues over a lifetime, it seems. I am discovering (late in the game, mind you) that I don't love lots of meetings and arguing and influencing, which spells trouble for my UX design career. I picked UX because I like technology and design and psychology, and I can get into a mad flow state when doing projects. But I wonder if I need to work in small shops and avoid the big companies where each team is fighting for resources and each team member is fighting for their own conflicting goals. Dunno. But if I did other jobs, maybe I'd find out that "fighting for x" is a part of every job, and I just need to suck it up and do it.

Posted on November 21, 2014 at 1:09 pm 0

On Burning Out

@The Dauphine This is why I think that we need more than just a vacation when we burn out. Vacations last 1 week, two weeks tops. We come back to a full inbox and catch-up work. The resulting stress completely eliminates the benefits of the previous time off. I don't know the solution, other than "quit job, start a new one AT LEAST a month later." On a related note, I just burned out of my job, and left it to move to another state without a new job lined up. People are constantly asking me if I'm looking for work yet. I'm not! I'm not quite over my bad feelings about my last gig, and when I am, I will start looking. Although I think they mainly ask because it's an easy topic of conversation.

Posted on November 6, 2014 at 9:14 pm 0

On How to Make Buying Things More Like Having Experiences

My problem with buying things as part of an experience is that I become attached to those things, since they now hold special memories for me. Then when it comes time to move or deep-clean my apartment, I can't get rid of them and I now have even more stuff to carry around with me.

Posted on October 8, 2014 at 11:15 am 2

On Why I Had Kids

@Birches @Birches I have a number of female co-workers with good, high-paying jobs who are also raising children and who also manage to find time for other things besides work and kids (like hanging out with friends). They are inspirational to me, because I want to have kids but fear giving up life's pleasures for the privilege of tending to an ungrateful tiny person. I've asked them about their lives and they say they have to give up some things - namely regular exercise and a clean house or certain hobbies - but it's not a life-ruiner by any means. I need to hear these things, though, because as much as I want 3-4 more years of child-free living (I just got married a month ago), I'm 35 and don't have a ton of time left to procreate.

Posted on October 6, 2014 at 1:03 pm 0