@Lily I love the way the women on Parks dress - comfortable silk print tops with suits and great heels. Also, I have adopted Jan's poncho for when I visit my friends with kids (JK! sort of).
@JNC Musings Factory Also, when they spent the weekend in that cabin in season 2(?) and they introduced her Mercedes, someone asked how she could afford it. She said, "I'm way over my head." I don't think we were supposed to look at Tom and Donna as financial role models.
@Erica She's probably really good at getting discounts because she's relentless with no boundaries. My MIL does that.
@dotcommie Yeah, my parents felt the same way about grades that some parents feel about shores - you just get good grades because that's what you do.
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My personal interpretation of "experiences over things" is that you get more long-term satisfaction from connecting with people and learning new things than you do from retail therapy. President's Day weekend, my fiance and I went up to Marin Co., packed a lunch, and had a picnic on Tomales Bay. Then we walked around one of the little towns there and drove back. Thinking of that still makes me happy. If we'd gone to fancy expensive brunch instead, I would still be happy but in a different way. TL;DR - you probably can't buy your way into a satisfying life.
@Elsajeni Cute dresses vs. math tee: I have this exact problem.
@brandi Oh yeah, in my house, if someone borrowed something without asking, that was bought with that person's OWN MONEY, that was as bad as it got. If the thing was brand new and not used by the owner before it was "borrowed", well, my dad would turn a blind eye to whatever frontier justice we chose to dole out.
I got a minimal allowance from the age I was old enough to want things of my own from the store - maybe 9 or 10. I think it was maybe $10 or so, linked to weekly chores, with a premium paid to big periodic chores (I remember washing the cars was a big one - $20 per car). Eventually by about sophomore year in high school my sisters and I became bored with this system and got jobs - babysitting and working at an academic day camp was very lucrative for me (paid for my first year of college) and I began to learn the freedom inherent in having an independent income.
@CaddyFdot I also think this is about admitting to yourself what your life really is like and stop trying to live up to an aspirational image that has nothing to do with you. If you have a kitchen full of cookware that you never use, you might want to either re-prioritize and make time to cook and use it again, or admit to yourself that you were never that into cooking in the first place/anymore.
@yellowshoes Tagging on to what you say about the spiral - I found it was so much easier to get rid of stuff once I gave myself permission to forget the "Sunk Cost" problem - "I paid good money for this so I need to get my money's worth...". IT'S A LIE! This is exactly what keeps people in bad jobs, relationships, and living in clutter - the effort/money you put into that thing is spent and gone. If it's something that has resale value, go ahead and sell it, but usually it's bet to cut bait and move on.