On Darling I'm a 1 Thing Dressed As a Daydream

@grandma_nancy I needed recommendations for a scholarship once, and both of my recommenders asked me to draft the whole damn letter for them and then they would edit and sign it. Thank goodness my sister had "how to write letters of recommendation tips" because I think I would have wilted away out of sheer embarrassment. On the other hand, they both only changed a few words (generally to be more effusive) and I got the scholarship, so no use in being too modest, I suppose. I bet you are great!

Posted on October 30, 2014 at 11:39 pm 0

On "Is There Anything More Ironic Than Coming to Live in Des Moines"

So...I've lived/ live in cities 2, 7 and 13, and have strongly considered moving to cities 14 and 20- how much of a millennial stereotype does that make me, exactly?

Posted on October 22, 2014 at 8:54 pm 0

On How Going Cash-Only Helped Me Curb My Spending

@frumious bandersnatch I have a "spending money" budget that all my cash withdrawals get thrown into- it's basically my fun money (or latte factor money if you're feeling personal finance author-y about it).

Posted on October 22, 2014 at 8:40 pm 0

On Screwing Myself With The Credit Card I Swore I'd Pay Off Every Month

@mouthalmighty Agreed- I had a late payment because I forgot to press the third "okay, I'm really paying this bill" button, and they waived my fee, no problem. I think they'll do about 1 every 12 months more or less automatically.

Posted on October 22, 2014 at 8:36 pm 0

On On Engagement Ultimatums

We discussed/ negotiated not only whether we wanted to get married/ timelines/ etc., but also pretty much every last detail of how the whole "getting engaged" thing would go down. We went on a week long trip in Amsterdam, which timing/ discussion wise would have worked great for a proposal except that he hadn't been able to find a ring that he thought I would like (I actually wound up with no ring at all, so good call on his part). So instead of getting engaged we spent the trip brainstorming our ideal engagement object(s)/ ritual- he wanted something that would be a good story, I wanted an egalitarian exchange. We wound up with engagement piggy banks, exchanged while sitting on our couch at home. They're modular- we added a section to them for our first anniversary and have another section for the second stashed away- not sure what we'll do for the third. Maybe cash out the accumulated change and splurge on ice cream or something...

Posted on October 21, 2014 at 11:45 pm 0

On On Engagement Ultimatums

@bgprincipessa I really cannot recommend eloping highly enough. It was lovely. (We did the whole planning a party for family, etc. a few months later and it was exactly as much of a pain in the ass as I thought it would be. Planning parties for other people = great, planning parties for yourself = no fun. That might just be me, though).

Posted on October 21, 2014 at 11:36 pm 0

On Things I Would Do Around The House If There Were Wages For Housework

@dotcommie damp washcloth on a swiffer. I had a bathroom that had constantly gross walls- the swiffer washcloth combo works great. I do not routinely clean any walls that don't obviously need it, but when I do, that's what I use.

Posted on October 6, 2014 at 9:04 pm 0

On Things I Would Do Around The House If There Were Wages For Housework

@OllyOlly Grain of salt, because I actually like cleaning out my fridge (or rather, I like the moment immediately after cleaning my fridge when my fridge is clean and I'm the one that did it), but the easiest way to clean fridge shelves is to fill your tub with warm water and dish soap, yank all the shelves and drawers out of your fridge, toss them in your tub, let them soak, grab a dobie sponge, scrub as needed, and then throw a few towels on the floor and let everything drip dry. You can wipe out the inside of the fridge while everything soaks- it's usually no big deal. Freezers, on the other hand, are a total pain in the ass.

Posted on October 6, 2014 at 9:01 pm 0

On We're Not Gonna Pay Rent ... By Check

I pay by check, but it's a check that the bank automatically writes and mails for me, which is 1000% superior than remembering to write and mail a check. It's always early (because I don't really trust bank "business days" when holidays fall near the end of the month), but our landlord is a small enough company that they wait until the 2nd or 3rd of the month to cash checks anyways. Edit: For free! So I'm saving .4X cents in postage, at least (what is postage now, anyhow? Forever stamps mean I don't pay attention anymore...)

Posted on September 8, 2014 at 9:52 pm 0

On The "Give Everyone a Goalie" Kind of Sex Ed

I also received reasonably factual, balanced, and birth-control encompassing sex ed. from my Colorado public school education- so they're not just addressing things on the IUD front (I'm assuming Colorado is still doing comprehensive sex ed since they're still rejecting federal funding for abstinence only programs).

Posted on August 21, 2014 at 10:40 pm 0