Definitely of two minds on this one. I am friendly and collaborative by nature, and generally want to be a team player, but I do struggle with the gradual and subversive erosion of work-life balance that nearly all workplaces and professions seem to expect these days. Forced "bonding" or the need to embrace and love every aspect of my job makes me less like an individual. Somewhat related: I felt pretty unnerved after reading Dave Eggers's The Circle last year because it seemed so spot-on--and not in a relief-inducing way either.
The only thing that was completely $&%^# annoying about the SAHD Slate story was what is always $&%^# annoying about a Slate story--the completely misleading title/subhead for the story. With Slate, it's that or the chastising "why you're doing it wrong" tag. Ugh. The interview itself WAS nice, though.
Totally enjoyed reading every word of this. Agree w/Dr.K up above--offers a glimpse into a world I know little about but find completely fascinating nevertheless. Thank you!
Can also relate. I've been "stress" baking for decades. Helps me feel productive. Oddly, It also sort of tamed my crazy had-since-childhood sweet tooth. Sweet things are less tempting when I have them around. Garli, you may want to look over your butter prices--4 cents for 1/3 cup of melted butter is not, um, likely. Agree with TheDoctorsCompanion that the writer probably added in the cost of the loaf pans.
Love the RSVP line!
I am a 40-something woman who thinks you made the right call to gently intervene w/your friend, even if it didn't make a d____ bit of difference. No, you weren't there and no, you aren't a woman, but jeez Louise, it sometimes seems like people are looking to be offended. The only thing I don't like to be called is "lady," but I'm an urban high school teacher and I've been called a lot worse (!), so I'll grin and bear it, knowing that the person saying it probably means well. Just reading everyone else's responses makes me realize how a particular term that might seem weird for one person from one culture or one generation is totally acceptable to a different person.
Perhaps you were just using the school thing as a hook, but I think that the overlap between school and work is greater than you acknowledge, especially early in your career. Here are just a few things in the center of my Venn diagram: a) show up on time; b) do your work; c) do NOT not plan your weekend/text friends/update social media while there is work to do; d) if you need more time for a project, do NOT wait until the day the project is due to tell your boss; e) proofread/double-check your work before submitting it; and e) doing the bare minimum does not yield salary increases or high grades. The biggest difference I see between work and school is that teachers can't fire their students.
The $24K is tuition plus room and board for in-state students at Cal Poly. I doubt the writer is getting financial aid, which would probably be a Pell Grant based on FAFSA. This makes trying to get more aid from the college FA office unlikely (though that sounds like a great private-school ploy!). That said, the FA office might be able to help you with a quick, low-interest loan, steer you toward some good work-study jobs, or have some discretionary money to help you out temporarily. Second the idea of taking a bit of time off (even a semester or a year might be enough) to work full-time and save. Good luck! Your attitude seems much more positive than mine would be after being presented w/this sudden parental decision.
Take the silver! You don't have to use it right now--just put it away and it will be there when you want it.
@Elsajeni That's what I was wondering too. Also wondered a bit about the men who would want this rather than a more traditional "younger" girlfriend. Somewhat surprised at how fascinating I found this interview. Thanks, Anon, for being so open and responding so thoughtfully. Made me think about things in a different way.