Mike, I share your surprise and joy at seeing a thoughtful, kind, and incisive comment thread. Meghan Nesmith, way to bring out the best in people.
@Renleigh Check out Ramit Sethi's http://www.iwillteachyoutoberich.com/home/. He is a great personal finance writer and hates the latte advice at least as much as you do!
@dj pomegranate, over time it might feel less like "your" money and "his" money, if you both decide you want it to work that way. Personally, Becca and I make professional decisions together and think of it is as an odd quirk that one might earn more at any given time than the other. We just deposit our money into a shared account and it feels like money that we both earned. We try to support each other's careers and feel vested in each other's successes. That said, different couples sometimes have very different approaches. This ties back to whether specific people have needs for more autonomy or feeling of control. In many cases, that desire for greater independence comes from prior experiences.
Also, in case anyone would like to learn more about my financial coaching practice, you can read about it here: http://gettingtoenough.wordpress.com/ I am based in DC but also work with clients remotely.
Highjump, I agree, that's a very important and positive development. Not only will it help provide strong returns to the pension funds, it should help improve services and create opportunities for green energy development that will help everyone. I have worked with several of the people most involved in those projects but haven't done much of it myself.