@boringbunny It's probably a liiiitle unreasonable to feel used because your friends accepted your dinner invitation, and then...came over and ate dinner. Protocol for host gifts varies a lot based on age cohort, perceived formality of the occasion ... I always ask if I can bring something, but if I was told no, it would never occur to me to bring candy or flowers!
@Caitlin with a C WWYD: STFU
@ATF Thaaaaaat looks amazing! Do you see yourself and/or your fiancee processing in? Will your guests be formally seated? It doesn’t sound like you want an officiant; would it make sense to structure your “vows” more like a toast? You could thank your guests for being there/supporting you, say something nice about your partner? Or just do a reading?
I think part of the problem is how opaque the costs are, and how much they can vary. It’s not like, when someone asks you to be a bridesmaid, you can say “Welll, would you mind doing a rundown of your expectations for your bachelorette party? Also, do you expect me to pay to have my hair done, because if so the answer is NO.”
This is INCREDIBLY tempting.
@moreadventurous "[Project Description] Opportunity - Followup"
I convert my bi-weekly pay schedule into monthly income and budget based on that (this works best once you're not living paycheck to paycheck). I would like to propose, for convenience, that we switch over to a system of 13 four-week months. Sure, it will be inconvenient to convert everyone's birthdays over, but it's an investment in our future.
I’ve done some hitching to and from trailheads, and never felt sketched out or unsafe (maybe because I’m a brunette?). But I don't think I'd make a habit of it outside of very specific circumstances/communities.
As a former high achiever and current zig-zagger, this was a huge relief to read.
Give notice at work eeeeeeeeeee