This is wonderful. Thank you for sharing this.
@HelloTheFuture "But when dating is set up like shopping, you approach it with a shopping mentality". THIS is so true.
@ThatJenn I am in the situation your spouse is currently in. We solved a bit of the awkward by setting up a will/right of survivor-ship agreements. It's helped immensely. I didn't buy the place, so I'm not interested in it becoming mine suddenly, HOWEVER I would like to know that there is a safety-net for me in place if something should ever happen to the husband.
To me there's a bit of a disconnect between your check box preferences and the last two paragraphs. The thing about "the look" is that once you find that thing- the spark, whatever it is, then a person already being a home owner or already having a child suddenly is no longer an important factor in your calculations... because you've found it. I don't think you can math your way into successful relationships.
Ahhh! I've been waiting for the open thread all day because I couldn't wait to tell you that you all killed it this week. so good! so many articles I had to flag for a deep read, so well thought out. Thanks for the hard work.
i like this thought about prudie, and i like this gawker article, and i'm happy to talk about either. but why post them both here at the same time? so we can't have a cohesive conversation about either?
Confession: I changed all my passwords to affirmations about two years ago. Stuff like- save more, retire early, etc. It's kinda nice to get in the habit of re-framing your thoughts at least once a day.
This is an odd source to reference, but Kathy Griffin mentioned these Forbes lists on a Marc Maron episode saying something to the effect that the people who are on these lists have reported or verified their income, and that there are plenty of people richer-- but they just don't care to have it advertised in a list.
This is an interesting end-run on on the catch-22 that is getting a clearance job in DC. Employment is plentiful for those already holding a clearance, a clearance is offered to those who are already employed. I'd love to see a follow up on those who leave this job, if they can parlay a starbucks clearance into entry level govt work.
@TreeTownGirl You nailed it. There's an assumption that I WILL work extra/more/longer/using less vacation. No, @Aconite, I don't begrudge those with families any time off they may take and thankfully, I work with pretty stellar coworkers. I am not asked to make up work for them. What I have concerns with is because i don't have as many familial obligations as worker#2, there are opposite assumptions regarding my availability. "jmdj, you'll be here over the holidays right?" I'm just trying to point out that there's another side to this opting out of the work place FOR FAMILY discussion. I like my job. I like working hard. I would like for people to recognize that I'm doing it for those reasons not because I don't have a family to get home to.