On This Is Terrible, But: The Pain of Tipping People Richer Than Me

@Erica Yeah, I hear ya. I think this applies to people in specific social circles, where I'm invited as part of the social circle but maybe we aren't close close friends. Obviously, it's not a gift grab on their part, they're just being inclusive and gracious. If it were a very close friend, obviously, it would feel more personal and less like a silly obligation. And I am aware that I'm allowed to decline these invitations. I'm just whining a little!

Posted on October 16, 2014 at 3:39 pm 0

On Why You Shouldn't Go to Art School

Oh goodness. My boyfriend went to one of these schools. But it's one of the only schools in the country that awards a 4-year degree in his field. And he did graduate, and is employed. In general, it has a bad reputation round here. Open admissions with really high tuition, so it's generally seen as a school for mediocre students with lots of money.

Posted on October 15, 2014 at 5:13 pm 0

On This Is Terrible, But: The Pain of Tipping People Richer Than Me

Not to change the subject, but I've started to feel this way about giving baby/wedding/shower gifts to my friends who make more than me. Like, you can afford to be a stay at home mom AND hire a nanny and I'm supposed to give your kid a gift? I chipped in for the shower, but I figured I'd give a card with a nice note for the baptism. Maybe I shouldn't feel sour about it, but I do.

Posted on October 14, 2014 at 11:09 am 2

On The Cost of Insomnia

Melatonin gives me bad dreams. Like, horrifying nightmares. I hope it does not do that to you!

Posted on October 14, 2014 at 11:05 am 0

On Life Coaching For Life Coaches: Why I'm Quitting

I've always wondered if life coaching was a ponzi scheme. I've heard of more people who *are* life coaches than I've heard of people actually having them (therapists, on the other hand...). Are you willing to tell us how much money you've sunk into certifications, etc? I'd be willing to bet it's pretty high!

Posted on October 13, 2014 at 2:35 pm 1

On The Price of David Sedaris' Briefcase in 1993, in 2014

Shortly after I got my first job after leaving my grad student life, I bought a Marc Jacobs watch on ebay (looked legit!). It was my first extravagant purchase after realizing that I could kiiiiind of afford nicer things now. Although it was really a switch from Old Navy shopper to Gap shopper.

Posted on October 13, 2014 at 1:33 pm 0

On Two More Reasons to Feel Awkward About Using Uber

@Natalie I prefer Lyft as well. I've never had a bad experience with a driver. They're not always available when I need them...but for all I know they're being sabotaged by Uber at the moment I need them and all of their drivers are busy.

Posted on September 11, 2014 at 12:57 pm 0

On The Year We Saved $10K: Paying the Imaginary Mortgage

Tell me how to only spend $150 (or the Chicago-equivalent) on food!

Posted on September 4, 2014 at 6:06 pm 1

On WWYD: Should I Be Upset Because a New Hire is Getting Paid the Same Salary as Me?

I have to agree with most posters here. It's, unfortunately, something you need to take up with HR or your supervisor's supervisor, and/or get out. Your supervisor seems incredibly inept. Yeah, the market's not fair, but you have to do your best to treat your employees fairly. And the fact that he/she doesn't see how this could be viewed as discriminatory makes them seem incredibly naive. Where I work, we have to go through an HR salary analyst before we post a job, so that the salary reflects an appropriate level for education, experience, and also what others in the organization are making. They have to sign off on the salary before we offer it. This kind of thing, as far as I can tell, would never be allowed to happen where I work. It sounds like you don't have that kind of resource at your job. It could get contentious if you take things up with HR. I wouldn't blame you if you just quietly walked away. So so sorry this is happening :-( Anybody have any idea about whether this is something that could be reported to OSHA?

Posted on August 14, 2014 at 12:40 pm 0

On A Father-Daughter Duo Answers Your Questions: Should I Stay or Should I Go?

Honestly, I don't think you can make the wrong choice here. If the desire to go to grad school is strong, it will still be there in a couple years and you'll have some money saved up (you'll save more if you don't get rid of your roommates). On the other hand, I think it really helps to have the energy/drive of a 24 year old to deal with a rigorous grad school program. Maturity also helps, but you sound very mature. I was in grad school for a very long time and the long nights of studying/writing got physically tougher as the years went on.

Posted on August 12, 2014 at 1:52 pm 0