Thanks for publishing this list. I belonged to an academic organization that holds a huge annual conference that had to be moved to Las Vegas at the last minute b/c we don't cross picket lines. I don't know the ins and outs, but I assume the move to Vegas was because it was the only place that could accommodate the conference on short notice (being just a few months in advance). It was kind of weird walking through a smoky casino floor while on the way to give a talk on my dissertation, but I had a good time!
@lp917 I think the really troubling thing is that renting vs. owning is not - and never has been - a deep dark secret that we all carry in the depths of our hearts. Do you rent? Or do you own? Very straightforward. No excuse for lying, and it's not a little white lie that we all sometimes use to spare someone's feelings or keep them from worrying. There's just no reason for a lie like this other than the fact that he wanted his wife to think he is someone who he is not. I find that really disturbing. I guess lots of people are okay with it too. Maybe you have to be burned by one of these people - or watch someone be burned - for it to raise your ire.
@@fo Maybe the word "substantial" made it sound like I think people who rent out their condos are rolling in dough. I didn't mean to give that impression at all. I just thought it would be an amount of money that would be large enough for a spouse to notice.
@Vincennes You're right! I forgot about the whole subletting thing.
@Cnj Right...if you rented out a condo, that would normally be a substantial source of income. There would have to be so many more lies to cover this up...like, creating a renter out of thin air for instance.
@Louise Belcher Disagreeing SO SO HARD as well!!! Maybe because I just watched a friend going through a disastrous divorce with a lying cheating narcissistic dirt bag. One of the things I learned when it started falling apart was that they had not bought their new fabulous home - as he had told everyone - but were renting it. I'm not sure if she was deceived on this point, or was just complicit in the deception. Where there's smoke, there's fire.
@garli Fifth'd! I spend a lot. And I don't go overboard, but I like to cook things that are tastier/more expensive than rice & beans. I can never gauge if my spending is reasonable or not given the benefits of eating non-processed food.
@tw0lle I just bought meals with Hello Fresh and it arrived yesterday. I tried it because my parents like it (they have health issues which make shopping difficult), I don't have a car, and they had a $20 off deal. I justified it by thinking of it as an alternative for nights when I would normally go out to eat. Of course, a friend invited me out to eat last night and I went. (sigh...) We'll see how it goes from here on out.
@chickpeas akimbo Exactly. There are very few actual classy restaurants - in my experience - that over-serve you. Someone once told me that it's rude to rub your wooden chop sticks together (to get the splinters off) at a Japanese restaurant. I figure the kind of place that cares about that type of thing would never give you disposable chop sticks in the first place. People are really over-thinking this stuff. Generally chew with your mouth closed, tip well, and remove screaming children from the dining area and you are good to go.