@zeytin It happens. My PhD program was consistently ranked #1 in the country and they didn't guarantee funding for everyone. I chose it over several lower-ranked programs that would have guaranteed funding. I still got funded even though it wasn't a sure thing from year to year. To be honest, I'm still not sure if that was the right move, but hey, I have a PhD and a decent job and I'm very well trained.
@garli I finished my doctorate recently, but I have mixed feelings about it. I work in academia, do research, make a better salary than most post-docs and assistant professors, but I'm not tenure track so I'm not as well-respected as tenure track folks. I'm currently trying to sort out all my thoughts on this b/c I don't know if I'm cut out for the maximum BS/miminum $ life of the tenure track professor.
I have been on Weight Watchers for the past few months and have been making smoothies regularly. They're a great way to have a healthy snack. I haven't been doing green smoothies, though, because my stick blender is just more convenient and it can't handle greens like kale. My smoothies are more banana-based. For the Vitamix/green smoothie people out there: Is it making THAT much of a difference in your life? How? Do you really have that much more energy? I'm genuinely curious if my life would be that much better if I was on a green smoothie regimen.
@highjump It was an eye-opening experience for me too. It's when I found out that I made more money at my after-school job than my mom made at her job! Neat! :-/
@olivia I agree, you should negotiate for a higher salary next time around. It's expected (unless they say "this offer is non-negotiable"). And this is not coming from a "lean in" place. This just comes from my shock when I hired someone and who just accepted my first offer which was a tad too low b/c I expected her to negotiate for a better salary and I had a ceiling. She needed a visa and in hindsight I think she just thought, "If I don't take the first offer, I'll have to leave the country."
@angry little raincloud I am moving to Germany immediately based on the information in your post.
@calamity I suspect mental illness might have something to do with this. Especially if this comes as a surprise. I have a family member who is bipolar, was an upstanding member of the community, ordained hospital chaplain. One day my father got a call from her. She was in jail for kiting checks and needed to be bailed out. It's her fault, yes, but also textbook behavior for a bipolar individual who was off her medication.
@navigateher I know what you guys are saying, and maybe mom *should* get the book thrown at her, but the lack of empathy or recognition that it's perfectly normal for the letter writer to have an internal struggle over turning their own mother into the police strikes me as really insensitive. Life isn't black and white.
Not to pick on you, but these info-graphics could be clearer. There's a better way! I'm willing to help...
I'm so sorry. Take care of yourself. I wish the internet could do hugs.