This is such a big problem. Even with good insurance, I have had so much trouble. A lot of the problem was that I had a lot of bad treatment before I found a psychologist and a psychiatrist who worked for me, liked me, actually helped me improve, and didn't make me sicker. It took ten years. If I found them sooner I might have started improving sooner instead of getting sicker and sicker for those ten years. It wasn't finding people who took my insurance that was so much the problem, it was finding people who wouldn't psychologically abuse me in "treatment". (Intentional? Bad luck? I'm a massive jerk? I don't know, but it happened and it sucked and I'm glad most people don't have to deal with that.) There is so much energy required in navigating this that it is nearly impossible for someone who can't get herself out of bed to eat. Having done this, I always advise/offer that the person have someone to advocate for them: make appointments, deal with insurance, be a sounding board to judge whether therapy feels bad because it is working or because it is not working, whatever they need. When I was working and paying for everything on my own, it was ~$400/month for me out of pocket after insurance for a psychologist, psychiatrist, dietitian (eating disorder), and medication. I was making $25k a year, so that was almost a third of my take home pay. I was living with my parents (not good for my mental health) and had massive student loan debt I was also paying.
@aetataureate Oh no! This makes me sad. I hope that this is not what is happening. I love you, Logan! But also: take care of yourself even if that does mean leaving us.
I go back and forth on this. I have a ton of stuff. I live alone in a two bedroom apartment. The big bedroom is my work room for sewing and bookbinding. I have a huge cabinet of flatfiles and three bookcases mostly full of supplies. I pared down my hobbies (though the bookbinding is career-oriented) to books and sewing, but it still so much. I have a ton of stuff, but also I use it. I am minimalist when it comes to the things normal people have a lot of (clothes, media, electronics, I assume), I just have weird stuff. I have this pull to be minimalist, it just doesn't work with the things I do.
@emmabee Same thing happened to me. It started around $70,000, slowly went down toward $2,000 (actual number!), then shot up because of that wealthy vegetarian.
@la_di_da I have a cat who likes to wake me up periodically through the night, so I slow cook at night. Instead of wandering around twiddling my thumbs for a few minutes before the meowy one will calm himself, I check on the food.
I tend to fill my Christmas wish list, which my mother demands by Halloween, with things I am going to buy myself anyway. I am currently doing a bookbinding diploma, so it is full of bookbinding tools, equipment, and supplies that I need, but haven't bought yet. Still has the element of surprise, guaranteed to be something I want, has the full utility of giving me money.
That afterbirth tag, it got me to LOL. To really actually LOL.
I need to resemble a productive member of society: I need to to my laundry. (I do it by hand because I am weird and there are no machines in my building. This is way better than going to the laundromat, I swear.) I will also put my currently soaking beans in my crockpot to cook. I will not let my beans soak until they ferment and I have to throw them out because I never got around to cooking them. Earlier today, I emailed my student loan servicer to ask how to apply for cosigner release. Based on what they told me last year, I should be eligible. I am more excited about this than my parents, but it would be super cool if I could put a confirmation letter of cosigner release in my parents' Christmas cards. Super cool!
Yeah Aldi! I mostly get ingredients there: flour, butter, milk, tinned tomatoes, oil, frozen fruits and vegetables, that sort of stuff. I also get yogurt, peanut butter, cheese, and cereal there, but I'm trying to wean myself off buying those at all. (I'm so lazy about feeding myself! I would eat a bowl of cereal for every meal always if it were good for me.) I've stopped buying fresh produce there because it never worked out for me and I'm a vegetarian, so I can't comment on the meat. I mostly supplement with ethnic grocery stores (Little India has the best/cheapest nuts, rice, beans, exotic flours, spices, and really good produce. The Puerto Rican stores near me have pretty good produce and beans, too.) and the occasional trip to a major chain, mostly for cat food.
@readyornot Thanks for reminding me! This is something I agree with, but tend to forget because my dislike of Black Friday is more about people than greed. (So many people! Shopping is already the worst, this makes it worse!) My work has a "buy presents for needy people" thing and people go shopping on Friday to get as much for each of those dollars as they can, which is never a bad idea!