On A Father-Daughter Duo Answers Your Questions: Balancing a Relationship With Financial Differences
He sounds like a man-child, tbh. If he really took the relationship and you seriously, he would at least have a plan for paying off the debt and finding a way to support your future family. I think the real problem here is that you're in your 30's, your biological clock is ticking and you don't think you'll have the time to find another serious relationship that will lead to children. But you said "I know what I want in life: kids, house, travel, comfortable retirement". Husband not included in that list. Think about what would be harder: cutting your losses and potentially going the single mom route (or not having kids at all) or going through life with a partner you'll probably grow to resent.
@Meaghano I've always used that analogy as well, but more like "would you ever drive out into the middle of the desert with a car if you couldn't understand how to fix it". Because to the extent that the internet is a part of our everyday lives, and to the extent that we depend on it, that's how I feel. I can't build a sweet app (yet), but having a deep understanding of things like how a database works, MVC structure, front end development and boolean logic has improved my life and earning potential SO MUCH and helped me become a more analytical thinker.
@Thingamabob I LOVE my IUD. It's a game changer. I was on the pill for a year and tried two different brands because the first one gave me a boob lump (which was horrifying btw). My first gynecologist wouldn't give me one because I haven't been pregnant. I had to do online research to find a practice who had IUD experience and was also covered by my insurer. The device itself + the insertion were each about $1.2k, but I had really good insurance so it was all covered. I was also advised to get a sonogram several months after the insertion, which was another who knows how many dollars. If you do the math an IUD works out to be cheaper than bc pills over its 10 year life span, even if you were paying everything out of pocket. Of course, that huge up-front sum is a dealbreaker for most women.
Here are my #tips: Avoid: television, print media, Instagram, FOMO, most of your friends If you have to get drunk to enjoy spending time with someone, stop spending time with them Always freelance on the side, even if you have a "stable" job New York City is dumb Risks are for rich people Stop looking for career-based fulfillment, build confidence from the inside out Don't trust advice from people who are using said advice as a sales funnel Three can keep a secret if two are dead "Trust no one" - my grandpa
I always thought this episode was a commentary on Karl Lagerfeld's work at Chanel.
Let's divert and fill in the Hudson and East Rivers to create more land for potential development and ease commuting from outer boros/NJ. Also, create jobs. I just solved your problem.
This is the WORST. That is all.
@stealthkit exactly. I would love a follow up article 3-4 years from now when she has switched organizations or is attempting to move up the ladder.
Move to the damn suburbs. Kids who grow up in Manhattan are like bonsai kittens.