I really need to get back into the Friday Estimate/Monday Check-in routine because otherwise I just spend without thinking (e.g., last weekend I think I ate maybe two meals at home?). So, a frugal weekend this time. Friday: not feeling great, so staying home and eating whatever I have in the cupboard ($0). Saturday: training in the morning, followed by coffee ($5) and some kind of breakfast ($10). Invitational scrimmage in the evening a couple towns over ($10 for entry, $10 for snacks/dinner). Sunday: post-training coffee ($5) and some kind of breakfast ($10), grocery shopping ($50), and laundry ($9). Total: $109.
My estimate was around $150ish. I spent more. Friday: $0, because I stayed at the office until 2 a.m. and expensed a cab home. I ate office doritos for dinner. Saturday: brunch ($15), carshare (probably $50ish), haircut ($60), late lunch and groceries at the farmers' market ($26). Gift for my aunt ($40). Sunday: coffee and breakfast ($8), lunch ($0, expensed), dinner with girlfriend ($45), taxi home from work ($0, expensed). Total: $244. Too much. And my haircut is subpar.
Looking for a low-spend weekend, which I think is plausible. Friday: working late and then going home and sleeping. No poutine because I have had poutine for dinner two nights running. I don't know what I will do for dinner. Maybe soup of some kind. Saturday: I have somehow gotten myself involved in provincial politics, so I'm attending a campaign training seminar all morning. That will require coffee ($5) and transit to the university ($7 return). Then a haircut ($60), and dinner with the family ($0, but also it's a birthday, so $30ish for a gift). Sunday: a blank canvas. This is my first weekend at home in a while, so I should do some housekeeping stuff, including laundry ($9) and groceries ($50). Total: $161. So, not really a "low spend" weekend, so much as a "prudent spend" weekend, because I really need those groceries and I really need a haircut.
@callmeprufrock It's by no means perfect. For example, we are approaching a 1:1 ratio of men to women lawyers, but that's mainly because of a large number of women associates; equity partnership is still male-dominated by a significant margin. But the effort is there, and large investments have been made to foster an inclusive environment, so I do consider myself fortunate, on the whole.
@OllyOlly That sounds really awful and I'm glad you were able to exit.
@callmeprufrock @callmeprufrock Thanks for the insight! I also don't work with bankers, but often banker-adjacent. I'm glad to hear that efforts are being made to achieve some kind of balance in the industry. And I agree, the specific make-up of the interviewee's social group, rather than the workplace as a whole, is probably behind his statement. I still find it kind of troubling. I work in a pretty conservative environment (corporate law, in what would be called a "red state" if it was in the US), but if I made a generalization about my co-workers that implied, as the interviewee did, a uniformly male and straight workforce, I'd receive a (well-deserved) figurative smack upside the head and a call from HR. A different corporate culture I suppose.
Two observations: 1. "i.e., movie tickets, laundry, underwear, socks." I feel that. I work in an industry with comparable hours and have amassed a HUGE collection of socks and underwear from all the times I have been too busy to do laundry and bought new socks and undies from the H&M attached to my office building instead. Now I can go a solid two weeks without doing laundry. It is awesome. 2. "They want to get a girlfriend or just hook up with girls, and it takes money to go out and meet girls". Sure, I get that I-Banking has a poor reputation for diversity and is dominated by hetero dudes, but does the interviewee's "elite" bank not employ any women, or gay men, at all? I would guess that there are women and gay men working at the "elite" bank, and it's just a regrettable generalization on the interviewee's part, but even that is problematic. I liked this interview overall, but the quoted statement kind of jumped off the page at me. I'm curious as to whether there is any diversity training at this guy's shop (or at similar "elite" banks), or what kind of efforts are being made to diversify the I-banking workplace.
Our roller derby league has co-ed scrimmages on Saturday nights, so this Valentine's Day we're going to put on skates and hit each other.
There's a squirrel (or possibly squirrels) living in my apartment attic and sometimes (I infer from the noises) inside my closet walls. I consider it the cost of living in a century-old house in a city that was barely established a century ago, and - although I would definitely feel differently if the squirrel (or squirrels) actually came into the living space and messed with my stuff - it's also part of the house's charm for me. In the morning I watch squirrels chasing each other through the trees and across the roof while I eat breakfast. Once I watched a squirrel try to figure out how to deal with an entire unsliced bagel. That was a good day.