@eatmoredumplings I think that's a fine option, but so is a weekend trip. I was just trying to illustrate why the weekend trip is becoming popular, and it's not just "bitches be crazy about weddings, am I right??"
@scn231 And not that I think you would do this but I've seen it done...don't make thinly veiled facebook posts over the wedding weekend about how superior you are for not being in the thrall of the wedding industrial complex. Not a good look on anyone.
@garli I think the main reason for lifestyle creep is that people live far flung lives. If I want to see all of my closest friends for my bachelorette party (and I do!) that means that at least some of them would have to travel. Why make everyone come to expensive DC if we can instead meet in the middle at a cabin in the mountains that's cheaper? As for the showers - the etiquette is clear on this: a bride (or expectant mother) should not be throwing their own shower. But it's actually this rule that makes the multiple showers happen! Maybe your friends in your current city want to throw you one, and so does your mom back home. If it's not your party, it's kinda hard to decide it shouldn't happen.
@annev17 Yeah...I wonder what color of that applicant's skin was...
On Tax Season
I'm usually excited for mine, but not this year. Two W-2s, two 1099s, student loans, tuition payments, and one sketchy company I contracted for who won't give me a 1099 but I will dutifully report earnings from anyway. Any idea on how to file when you don't have a company's EIN number? I literally have no idea if I'm about to get a big refund or of I owe big - my contracting income wasn't that high, but it was a few thousand. But I also wasn't receiving a salary during the period of time I was contracting, so I have no clue what tax bracket I'll end up in. Basically I don't know how much I made last year. This should be fun.
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@Aunt Scar Holy shit. Also the "I thought I gamed the system! I married a subservient Asian woman but I STILL wake up at night!" Nice mix of sexism and racism there, buddy.
@mmmmdonuts Yeah I've realized that my partner and I will either have kids or have a house - that $50,000 down payment just is not doable if we also want to raise children (and in my area, that's just a 10% down payment on a small 2 bedroom condo that you'd be lucky to find that cheap). But on the other hand, a mortgage would be cheaper than rent - too bad we'd be priced out of getting one in the first place.
So there's basically no way a Millennial can be an adult, is what I'm getting. If you live in the suburbs with your parents because you can't afford anything else with your crippling college debt, you're a mooch. If you live in a city(because umm...hello that's where jobs are?), you're just trying to relive your college years. I really resent the idea that as a rent-paying, full-time working, graduate-school-studying, engaged-to-be-married 20-something, I'm still basically a child.
@breezee What's also infuriating is that many people pay into pensions! It's basically like social security for them, which is good because I don't think most people understand that if you are a government employee with a pension (at least in the state of Massachusetts) you do NOT get SS payments! So when people talk about pension reductions, they are basically talking about making my mom live her retirement in abject poverty. Cool. Thanks. Real nice.